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    Stephanie10221982    July 24, 2010  

    Not OCD in the sense that you want details to be perfect, but medically diagnosed OCD?

     
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    vicarswifeintraining    September 9, 2010   Cardiff

    No - but my FI does have mild , he's going mad about the idea of our out doors wedding, but he's doing his best to cope, thats why I love him!

     
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    Baby_PebbleS    October 10, 2010   Brisbane, Australia

    yes.... i didn't know what was wrong with me, went and spoke to the doctor and she said that i should speak with a psycoligist (spelling?)... i went once... and didn't feeling that that there was any point in going back... plus she cancelled the morning of my 2nd appointment and i was told i would get a call sometime within the next week to make a new appointment and never heard anything. I'm coping.

    I dont know how it started but it's only been about 6 months or so. i'm scared that i'm going to have something like poison or something on my hands/fingers and have to wash my hand like everytime before eating something... like not just oh i'll wash my hands before dinner sort of thing but my hands will already be washed like 10mins ago.... i'll eat something like chips and then a little while later there will be cookies or something and i'll have to wash my hands again even if i haven't done anything to require washing my hands.... and while i'm typing this it is sounding very silly. Only my partner knows about it. I've tried to overcome this silly thing but i just end up having a panic attack and thoughts like "omg what was on my hands that i just put in my mouth... am i going to die now?" It's so stupid and i hate it!!

     

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    YES. i am MUCH better now after a crapload of therapy. I have finally gotten to the point where i just have the "O" part of OCD - i still have all the obsessive thoughts, but the compulsion to do things (for me it was 3 and 7 - i touched things repetively) has wained a bit. However, i still have issues with things, but i can control them better - like my routines for everyday things, when the routine was messed up i had to start all over (try taking a shower like that - i have had hours long showers before because i couldnt get it right) - its one of the reasons im chronically late for EVERYTHING. there is still a ton of stuff that if people knew most of it they would think i was insane, but whatever, i deal. im hoping things dont go bad with the last few months left and the stress.

     
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    Bunny2010    October 10, 2010   San Diego, CA

    Count me in. Ugh. I hate OCD. I, too, am pretty much pure-O (thoughts only), though recently I've started to develop a hand-washing compulsion and I'm trying super-hard to nip that in the bud because I've NEVER had a problem with it before!

    My biggest fear is that I'll have a major panic attack right before the wedding and ruin the day.

     

     
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    Baby_PebbleS    October 10, 2010   Brisbane, Australia

    I'm glad i'm not allone... how do you stop it? I mean i know there is nothing that could kill me on my hands by why can't i stop?

    a few months ago i was spraying myself with mozzie spray and some of the mist went into my face... yuk i could taste it and gross... then all of a sudden i was thinking "omg this isn't meant to be put in your mouth... omg could i die?" MAJOR panic attack!!! i had to get reassurance from my partner that it wouldn't kill me and the only way that it could is if i inhaled alot of the stuff on purpose.... kindda helped lol 

     
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    Mattel    November 6, 2010   WNY

    THis bride does!!! Diagnosed at age 10. It's bee much better, but my obsessions and compulsions are cycling. I'll go months with little to no symptoms and then I get stressed and forget it. Wedding planning doesn't help, but I'm much better than when I was a child.

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    @baby pebbles - it took exposure therapy for me (something that if this makes you go into panic attacks you need a professional to help you with this)

    basically you recognize the things that are triggers for you - like if its hand washing before you eat because you think your hands have some type of weird poison, you actively STOP yourself from allowing you to do the compulsion.

    so you would sit somewhere with a bowl of food or something, and eat a piece, then when you go to eat another and the compulsion hits you to go wash your hands, you would force yourself to eat the food without washing your hands then sit and let the anxiety wave over you - this would be repeated at different intervals (hours, mins, days even) until you can get to the point that you might still have the obssessive thought that something would happen to you but you dont physically get up and go do it because you can control that part.

    as for controlling the thoughts? yeah i have no idea - i still cant do that. but my skin isnt raw anymore from the 29384239 showers and scrubbing...

    thats how i control my panic attacks - i stop and break down my thoughts to myself and let the anxiety roll over me and work thru the panicky feeling. its hard but it works for me...

     
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    Baby_PebbleS    October 10, 2010   Brisbane, Australia

    lol just to make something clear so i dont sound like a completely loony lol... it's not i think my hands hand some type of weird poison it's more of "what have a touched that could be harmful to me" like... i dont use fly spray anymore because i'm worried that it might get on my hands and then somehow get into my mouth and kill me..... i know even if a little did get on my hand and it was to go into my mouth i know that it wouldn't kill me as i'm sure it would have to be ALOT to do so

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    @baby pebbles --- you're not a loony :). I am sorry you had a bad experience with the psychologist you saw. I would encourage you to go again, to a different provider this time. Definitely look for someone who does cognitive-behavioral therapy (read more here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy), which has proven effectiveness in treating OCD. It is really focused on your goals and on getting you on your feet and happy so that you're not in therapy for a super long time (though it will take more than a single session to see results). I have faith in you.

     
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    Ms Scarlet    February 28, 2011   New York

    My SO does. He's terrified of contamination and germs (not in terms of poison but in terms of sanitary). He'll wash his hands after he touches something he considers "dusty" which is a long list of things. He hates dust. He's developed all his life but unfortunately it's not severe enough to have been taken to see someone about it but just enough to be annoying to live with. I didn't see it until we lived together.

    The hard part for me is he knows it but doesn't admit nor want to change. He believes it makes HIS life better. We've argued about it a lot but until he wants to do something, I'll just have to ignore it I guess although there are some situation that really make me want to say something (like the amount of tissue or water he uses to clean things up) but I just have to bite my tounge.

     
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    brittanymichelle    June 5, 2010   Cheyenne, Wy

    i do also, but they can't pinpoint my obsessions like some people... it differs from day to day and i never know what i'm going to be obsessing about... so you are not alone for sure!

     
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    sjones724    07/03/10   Frederick MD

    I have pretty minor OCD. i freak out about my air! Like if someone coughs or does yawns or mouth breathes i freak out! I cannot stand the thought of me breathing that air. ugh! i actually have  a lot of little things but i mostly just obsess and have the occasional panic attack.

     
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    Baby_PebbleS    October 10, 2010   Brisbane, Australia

    it's made me feel a bit better knowing that i'm not the only one out there.

     
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    MsMamaBear       Atlanta

    I don't, but my sister does. She's doing a lot better now though, with therapy. :) So much better, I am worrying more than she does! SO glad she's doing better!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Not sure if you girls know this, but there is a show on VH1 on Thursdays called The OCD Project which shows 6 people going through exposure therapy so you will know what it is like.  It might scare you out of going to therapy though.

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    they had a show on A&E about it too - i thnk it was called OBSESSED - and its pretty much the type of exposure therapy that i went thru. it works though!!! :)

     
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    trishisadish    December 20, 2012   Florida

    I'm not a bride yet. But I have OCD

     
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    trishisadish    December 20, 2012   Florida

    And I have gained some control over the compulsions. But I still have lots of obsessions/negative thoughts/concerns. I first developed symptoms when I was around 13 (which I hear is common) and it got worse and worse. I washed my hands until they would crack and bleed. I had to count things and tap hthings and rewrite things... Now if I'm really stressing some of that comes out, but for the most part I maily just obsess. Although I am a germaphobic... I feel that for the msot part I just realize how dirty things are and I'm no longer washing my hands 20 times to be syure they are clean. Bu ti do wash after I touch anything questionable and I'm leary of eating at peoples homes that I dont know well... because of the clealiness factor.

    I use to be very bad. And my parents kind of ignored it because it made them uncomfortable.

    I did a few sessions with a therapist but he had never delat with OCD before so we spent more time of him in awe of how severe my disorder was then actually working on it. However he  did make me see how much stress intensified my OCD and that stress relieving techniques done on a regular basis could ward off further meltdowns.

     

     

     
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    Masala    October 22, 2011   Ohio

    I have pretty mild OCD, but nothing that makes my daily routine unmanageable. Just things like, when I fill up a glass with water or refill the cats' water dish, I have to rinse it two times before I can actually fill it up. Even if it's a clean glass/dish, straight from the cabinet. I had a few other compulsions when I was younger, but it's gotten much better.

     
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    Stephanie10221982    July 24, 2010  

    Thanks Everyone for Sharing! It is so nice to know that I am not alone. Yesterday I was REALLY struggling with a strong Obcession (kinda of contamination, but really afraid of catching any communicable diseases) but it is just nice to know that I am not alone!

     

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