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Hey Bees!
I was thinking about the wedding on my commute today (what else is new, haha) and I was thinking about how I'm a little self-concious that I'm about fifty pounds heavier than Fi. I know we look great together and blah blah blah, but dangit, I wish I wasn't bigger than him! Haha, shallow. He has an amazing metabolism and a naturally lean build so it's just the way it is, but any other curvy bees out there have smaller fiances? I included this picture just because I think it's cute: His small butt and my big butt... Two completely different sized butts, one very strong mutual feeling of love :)
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I'm actually pretty small, but still have curves while the boy is a bean pole. Even though he is almost a foot and a half taller, and 100 pounds heavier, our measurements are sooo similar! For example, my thigh measures only 2 inches smaller than his :/
I think you look fabulous together :)
PS. I always joke that the boy has a little butt while I have a rather large bubble but :p
Hi date twin!
We're the other way around; my FI is more than twice my size. We're totally used to the size difference, and I'm actually glad for his padding because it makes us more comfortable to snuggle together. He's my teddy bear, and I love to hug him. Imagine if we were both skinny and boney. Yuck!
I think your butt is cuter than his anyway... 
Love it!!! Thanks for the compliments gals... and it's so true, I think love comes in all shapes and sizes... how boring would it be if it didn't?!
Well when we met we were both skinny, and then he was chunky and I was super skinny, and now I am chunky and he is super skinny. Go figure. It bugs me that he is smaller than me because you know, I am suppose to be able to wear his oversized t-shirt to bed and stuff like that. Its not that big of a deal for me but when we take the behind pictures I really notice. lol.
Aw, you guys look great! I used to worry about what people would think when I with my beanpole of an ex. But, eventually I accepted that what matters most is that you're happy, not what others think :-)
yup love comes in all shapes and sizes...
we are both chubbies lol :) but he recently lost 50lbs :) i have only lost 20 :( UGH that bugs me more haha he is still bigger but still
Ok this may sound crazy, but my FI is a little overweight and I don't want him to lose weight because then he will be thinner than me. So I'm not in that situation now but he's trying to get in shape for the wedding and instead of encouraging him I just ask him to not lose that much LOL.
Haha! I love what you said at the end! Cute! Anyways....yes I am a little bigger than my scrawny little man, but I do think that we are adorable together! Sometimes I do wish I could be smaller, especially when he like picks me up or when I sit on his lap, but he says I'm fine and that I'm not too heavy. Oh well, I guess us curvy women will have to deal with it and believe them when they tell us we are beautiful!
We're usually fairly similar proportionately besides the fact that he towers over me (he's 1 ft taller) but neither of us have super fast metabolisms. So if we eat badly for awhile, you can't really tell he's put on any weight because it distributes, but on my 5' frame it's like HEY! I'm right here! 5 lbs! - that gets really difficult to deal with because on the flip side, he loses weight faster since he's a guy and burns more calories just by living.
Because of all this, I have huge self-esteem issues that people think he's out of my league, or that they'll be surprised when they meet me, etc. I think that at some point, it stops being about what you really look like and starts being about your perception of yourself. You clearly look good together (cute picture!) and he obviously thinks you're beautiful. I think that with confidence, you sometimes just have to fake it til you make it.
@jaylove it always seems men can loose faster...20 lbs is a HUGE accomplishment! be proud & congrats to you both!!! :)
I fell in love with my fi when he was 30 pounds heavier than he is now. I always imagined myself as the smaller one. Well one day, he had left of pair of checkered trousers in my room. I decided it would be cute to wear them-- I assumed they'd fit me slouchy and baggy. When I put them on it was humbling that they were tight on me. We're both different people and are different shapes.
FI and I weigh the same, but he is three inches shorter than me. He is skinny and I am curvy, but it really doesn't bother me all that much.
My fiance is very skinny, and tall, so definately like a pole! I am bigger then him and it does bother me but im working on my self esteem hardcore! i want to go down the isle feeling confident not like im icky lol
@babyboo- My FI and I are the same way! He is taller and weighs more than I do but our measurements are almost the same. I'm fairly sure that he could fit into some of my clothes.
My husband and I are about the same weight, and he's 10 inches taller than me :(
He's a bean pole, though. Like borderline underweight (even though he eats a ton). And I'm technically "normal" when it comes to weight, but lately, I've been pushing the line between normal and overweight. I'm trying to get back on track. I'm normally only 10 pounds lighter than he is anyway.
@audamy: I wear a work shirt that is a mens small (it is the smallest I can get) and it is slightly big on me but fits. I had the boy try it on one day and it was only slightly too tight on him! Remember, I'm 5'0 and he is 6'4 and there is a 100 pound difference between us:
My boyfriend is only a couple inches taller than me and we weigh the same. We're both in great shape, and I blame my weight on muscle from climbing hehe.
My FI is super skinny and I am more on the curvy side which never really bothered me. I would like to lose a couple pounds but he always tells me he loves me just as I am and wouldn't change a thing! I have asked him about past GF and what size they were and he said he has always been hit on my curvy girls and hardly ever been hit on my skinny girls.
My FI is tall with a smaller build than me. It doesn't bother me b/c he can still wrap me up in his arms. He is also 8 inches taller than me so I still feel small and dainty walking beside him =)
My hubs has one of those tall (6'3"), thin, basketball player bodies while I am 5'5" curvy chica. As of right now, I weigh more than my hubby but that's because of the baby.
Here is the latest picture of us. Trust me when I say that his clothes are a lot bigger than he is. He has to get XXL in order to fit the length of his arms and legs.
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Can I just say..... guys suck. lol
My FI is about 9-10 inches taller than me (he's 6'3" and I'm 5'5ish). Right now, (ugh i hate this hate this hate this) I weight more than 50 pounds more than him. He is SUPER thin and always struggles to put on weight even though he eats crap. I am the heaviest I've ever been (hate) and have always struggled with my weight. FI's goal is to gain about 20 pounds before our wedding. My goal is to lose 50. It is really important to me to weigh less than him on our wedding day.
I will say this... I'm less self conscious with him than I was with my (also thin) ex, because FI is so tall so its nice to feel small in that way. But I do wish I was also narrower. I'm on week 2 of my new health plan..... fingers crossed :)
@babyboo- Haha. I feel your pain! I am 5'3 and my FI his 6'3. He weighs about 80 lbs more than I do and one time we found out that he can fit into some of my boardshorts and they were only slightly snug (though they were way way way too short on him). Unfortunately he wouldn't let me get a picture of that!
When I read your post I did the math and was happy that I am only 40 pounds heavier than FI. Then I realized that he is also 5-6 inches taller than I am! Ah, well.
Sometimes it bothers me. I worry that people think he's out of my league, or that they'll be surprised when they meet me, etc, esp. since his ex-wife was a thin little beanpole and they looked like a matched set. (Not so much in personality though!)
I have always been this size and it doesn't seem to bother him. I kind of forget until I see myself in pictures. Think I can stay out of my own wedding pics?
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I used to feel this way with the guy I dated before my SO. I'm a 16/18 and that guy was about 160, soaking WET! LOL I thought people would look at us weird, but they didn't. Maybe since I'm shapely and not a blob like most people THINK when they see a 16/18 size woman.LOL I did feel self concious during sex though, especially if I was on top.
Actually, he just loved women, period. He had dated size 2 to 22 women.
My guy is about the same size I am, and has smaller legs and booty but NOT tummy.LOL I worry I'm too heavy when he wants me to sit in his lap, but he doesn't complain.
My Boy is Japanese and so their body types are naturally VERY SKINNY! Im not a really curvy girl. its just that my butt and thighs are way bigger then his...so sometimes its a little embarassing lol!
oh yeah! i am a full figured gal. I have lost about 20lbs since this picture but we are still pretty far apart in size :) i weight about 40 lbs more than him and i am 5'8 and he is 6'3 hahaha! here is a pic of us :)
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I'm curvy and have a totally thin fiance! I'm just happy he loves how I look, and I try not to get too jealous of his figure, since I know he's self conscious about how thin he is. We both have our own insecurities about our looks, but we both love how the other looks. :)
I'm 40 pounds heavier than mr. sew too! and only 2 inches taller. you all look lovely with your men! :)
I am so pleased with what this thread turned into!! What beautiful photos and words to remind us that love really doesn't depend on appearance!!!
I'm almost fifty pounds heavier than Cam. And we're the same exact height. Sometimes it definitely bothers me ... I think to myself that people are thinking "what's he doing with that fat cow?" and so far I haven't liked what I've seen in pictures of the two of us.
So ... I'm working to change it. That's the only advice I can give it's stressing you out ... work on it, ya know?
My guy is a little guy and I am probably 40-50 lbs heavier than him. We have been together for almost 11 years and throughout years in all of our picutres together (high school prom, college, etc) you can see how he is losing his hair and me gaining weight. He too is self conscience of how thin, short and bald he is. We both love each other regardless of these traits and my guy says he loves me no matter the size, but i hate having picutres taken of us because when I look back I feel like I am huge compared to him. Not only am I bigger than him but I am also an inch or two taller than him, sometimes I feel like the Jolly green Giant. Anyways glad to know that I'm not the only one who is trying to work on self confidence for the wedding day and all the pictures that will be taken of us.
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Girl I am curvier and taller than my fiance!! We used to get jokes all the time, but he really is my other half, I couldnt live without him! Try not to be self concious, as long as you love each other thats all that matters. I think we are going to look ridiculous next to each other in our wedding photos, but thats us, he is short and thin, I'm taller and curvy. Oh well!
im 30 lb heavier than my fi but his is taller than me so i think that levels the situation lol
I have a thin fiance and am a cury bride as well. I understand your frustration and i actually think about it all the time. :(
I am also bigger then my FI, but as far as I can tell the only one that cares is my mom!!! He has that long lean sort of rocker body and I have the short and round body!! You can definately tell in our e-pics but I think it seems natural and also since we have different backgrounds it is reflected in that. After seeing our e-pics the first time I thought OMG I should work out but everyday when I come home and my FI hugs me I know he loves me just the way I am.
http://hanssietrainorphotography.com/2010/05/the-engagements-bailie-fredric-orange-ca/
My FH and I are both tall (I'm 5'11" and he's 6'5") but sadly I weigh like 40lbs more than him (boo). He's not incapable of gaining weight but he is a skinny bastard and goes to the gym more than me (he also works way less than I do and I eat like crap because I've been on the road a lot for work and I don't have time to work out). It's never bothered me one bit that I'm a little bigger than him - the height makes it work out just fine. But I hope to lose 15-20lbs and get back in shape again for our wedding. I want to be a little closer to his width than my current width ;)
I'm chubbier than my fi. On one of my first dates with him he admitted that he was more into plus size ladies ^_^ So he digs it so thats all that matters ^_^
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I'm about 20lbs less than my fiance but I'm also about 7 inches shorter lol. In pictures it doesn't look soooooooooo bad. But he is certainly a stick. It makes me jealous because he eats what he wants and never even looks at a gym. I feel like I starve myself, kill myself at the gym and get no where lol. But he loves me for me
Mr. Star is about half an inch taller than I am, but I outweigh him by 20 pounds. It used to bother me, but now I'm over it. We both love how the other looks and that's all that matters!
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