(Closed) Any Other Depressed Bees?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ugh that sounds really rough. Hopefully things start looking up for you soon.

Post # 4
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

when I lost my job I had a really hard time managing my depression and that was before I got engaged so I can’t IMAGINE trying to do all this while feeling like i don’t have the love and support of my family, friends AND FIs family.

hang in there. Soon you will be married (I’m the day after you 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Hi again! 

I’m struggling lately.  I’m so, so thankful for everyone and everything around me.  Life is good, but I feel stagnant.  You know what it feels like?  Groundhog Day.  As in, the movie.  The same routine, with the same results, day in, day out.  I have plans, but it will take a while to see momentum. 

It’s a weird place to be, to be happy with life, but frustrated to not be where I want to be personally.

I’m so sorry about your mom~  my dad passed away before my wedding, and not having him there was a huge loss.  I was having trouble deciding on a dress and then I realized that it was always my dad who gave us the most sincere compliments when we looked our best, and I needed to see the pride in his eyes. 

Don’t worry… the stress will fade and all this wedding stuff will become a wonderful memory of saying your vows to the man you love!

🙂

Post # 6
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342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I know how you feel. *Hugs*

I have severe clinical depression and I’ve had a similar year to yours. My FI unexpectedly lost his job in March and our wedding was supposed to be in May and we had to cancel because of finances. Since then, he has only found temp jobs that are unstable and we’re having trouble finding him a good job. We lost our apartment and had to move in with my mother til we get back on our feet and I don’t have an awesome relationship with her.

My mom is completely unenthusiastic or sympathetic about the wedding and mostly just cares about her boyfriend. When we went wedding dress shopping, she told me to hurry up cause her boyfriend’s mom was in town and she was missing out on time with her.

My FI works pretty much all the time at his temp job and I have planned a wedding that I have no idea when we’ll be able to have. We should have been married by now but instead we may not even be married until fall of next year. We are completely overwhelmed with bills, trying to move out, and the wedding.

My FI’s mom hates me for “stealing” him and bashes me on Facebook by name for no good reason. She goes out of her way to make snarky comments about me when she knows I will see them. There is literally one big dramatic event a week because of her. She has constant breakdowns if my FI doesn’t come see her ALL THE TIME. I’m at the end of my rope with her.

I have barely been able to get out of bed this week. I wish I had advice for you but I don’t. I just wanted to let you know that I know how you feel and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know how rough it is and wouldn’t wish this on anyone. I just try to keep thinking things can’t get much worse and the only way we can go from here is up. I like to think I’m just in the shitty part of my life and in a few years, life will be great. Again, hugs! If you need to talk, feel free to message me.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch.  Just remember, that’s what you have FI for as well; his love to help you overcome it.  In the end it’s about you two, so (as hard as it may be) just remember that it SHOULD be you two doing most of the planning and preparing.  I know it’s nice to have outward support, but it’s not a requirement.  Hopefully you can find some fun in the prep work you’re doing for the wedding, and let it help you take your mind off of the stress of the job and financial situations.  Yes, it may be a burden and even more stressful planning a wedding when you don’t have that extra income coming in, but I’m always one to say that I don’t mind a little debt as long as I’m living and happy.  You guys will get through this!  Also, maybe you should have an open conversation with your aunt who cancelled her shower.  She may have read your email as demanding and snotty, when you just meant to mention that sometimes guys don’t get into the wedding stuff so you didn’t want her feelings hurt if that’s the case.  Maybe a little clarification will help a little and welcome her back into helping you a bit more.

Good luck!!

Post # 8
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Awwww Group Hug everyone… I can so relate to alot of what your going through, the loss of a job has such an impact on our lives, my FI was laid off in April out of the blue, and he was not able to find anything in this area so has now moved to the other side of the country for a job 🙁 

So now I am alone and trying to find a job out there too but that is proving difficult.  My family are all overseas and really are not supportive anyway so that does not help me either. 

TRY to keep your focus on the fact that you have worked hard to get to a day that is going to be one of the most special days of your life and all the ‘rest’ of crappy stuff can be dealt with…later… 

keep the focus on what is important you and your FI…

Many hugs 

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