(Closed) Any Other Encores tires of the etiquette lessons? (Sm. Rant!)

posted 8 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Thankfully I haven’t had too much of this to deal with – I’m sure it’s rather frustrating!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You know… I have to laugh…I’ve been planning my wedding for over a year and now I’m getting married in 2 weeks.  Until today I never knew i was an “encore bride” or that there were any negative conotations to being so.

My thoughts:  A Bride is a Bride!… have a wonderful day no matter what!

 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think they’re poop anyways and I’m not an encore bride! Poop on the encore rules!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Those who know me are aware I am up on etiquette.  I’ve also never seen any information out there as how I should behave, what I should do, wear, etc as it’s outdated imho regarding some of the notions people once held for second or subsequent weddings.  I mean, let’s face it..the day of wearing an ugly suit and corsage and having a justice of the peace is no longer the norm for an encore bride.

As far as I know there is not a definitive book on encore brides, but we have here and I started my blog b/c of the sheer lack of information out there for the encore bride.  However, today with the statistics, unfortunately there are tons of us out there and some of the old rules simply do not apply.  But I’m not doing the veil thing and probably not going for the white or totally white gown b/c I simply don’t look good imho in white, but it’s not because of etiquette that I’m not going to be wearing white.

There is NOT any negativity in being an encore bride at all imho.  I embrace it and think it’s fantastic b/c I have a bit more “creative license” than I did before..(only my silly opinion though).  I’ve only encountered very positive things and those who know I’m planning are estactic!  Very very happy.  My family is so excited! 

Things happen.  In fact something very very painful happened to me and that is why I am an encore in the first place.  It’s not like I’m Liz Taylor taking the 10th walk down the aisle or something.  I think people are supportive of you if they realize and know that sometimes life just happens.  Bad things sometimes happen to good people.  And that when those we love finally find real happiness in life you’d really have to be Ebenezer Scrooge to rain on that. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

You are quite welcome my friend as always!  I’m on your side girl!  Send em’ my way if they give you “stuff” k?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think your last statement is a perfect way of telling her to stick her nose out of where it doesn’t belong 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

AMEN to that!  I’m SO over everyone’s opinion. 

Cool

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

You can have 10,000 showers if you want to.  Wear white.  Wear green.  Wear purple.  Wear whatever you want.  Marry whenever you want how big or how small a wedding it doesn’t matter.

My sister will be MOH and my other bff will be another bm and my other bff will be the maid of honor.  ALL 3 WERE IN MY WEDDING BEFORE.  All of them.  And none of them have been anything but thrilled.  They are excited that finally they can get a dress as a bm that they will wear again and again (J crew and wearing whatever lbd in same color and fabric but can pick out their own style).  And pick out their own heels..they’re so over the last time and so thankful no matching dresses and shoes and updos.   Giddy with happiness are these 3! 

If people feel so inclined to give me a shower, great.  If not, great too.  But I know that there are lots who are so happy that my life is beginning anew and are glad to be a part of it!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@arizonabride… maybe your “well meaning friend” wants the 1st wedding gift back so she can regift it to you 🙂

 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Eloping, you crack me up.

That is def a thought!  You could regift the wedding gift back to her as a bridesmaids gift and then the MOH could regift it back to you!

I am a wascally wabbit and love a good joke now and then.   

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