Post # 1
Any one else is in college during the whole planning process??
I am full time (5 classes) Education Major just finishing my Junior year. I will take 4 classes this summer and 5 in the fall (while i get married) Then i will just have my internship!! so i will graduate just 6 months after the wedding! :]
But still, its extremely difficult being a full time student, working 2 part time jobs (nanny & tutor), being involved in my church ministry (both youth & kids), have time to be with FI & family, and planning a wedding!! Its not easy i tell you!
ANYONE else going through this??? how do you do it? make time for appointments and vendor search & wedding stuff???
please ladies, give me some tricks or tips on how to juggle it all… :p thanks!
Post # 3
@cubaneli: I feel you. THis semester has been nearly unbearable. I’m moving, getting married, and doing the school thing too. My wedding is coming up in July, and this semester I hate to tell you, I’ve had to drop a class. My sanity needed to be salvaged. You on the other hand may be able to “trim the fat” in other ways, like the church? I’m sure they’d understand if you cut back for a few months. School: do try and keep up with. Church = volunteering, and not a “waste” of money for a dropped course.
Keep your head up. You’ll get through it. Just be realistic about what is humanly possible, and try to maintain balance. Also, I eventually got a wedding planner, which has helped a ton. She prompts me to think about stuff when I need to, and streamlines everything. That way, I can focus on packing up my apartment, and homework. 🙂
Best of luck.
Post # 4
@StuporDuck: Thanks so much! i definitely have to start saying no to commitments like someone just asked me to help plan a baby shower (i help church friends with party planning and such) & i need to learn to say no. :/
this is all draining me so much, like right now i’m trying to work on a portfolio that is due on friday & have not even stated! ugh, i cant even concentrate!
anywhoo, you are right, i think I need a brake from the church stuff & i’m considering cutting back on work hours too.. school is more important than a few more hours.
Post # 5
I’m working a full time job and in college full time as well. I’m 26 so I’m in the “going back to school because I hate my job catagory”. I knew it would be tough from the get go and this year I am also my sister’s maid of honor for her wedding. I know it may be too late to do this, but I knew a long engagement would be a must. In fact, we both knew it would be after we both graduated. Two years for me, 3 for him. That gives me a year to focus on my sister, and two years to slowly plan and execute while not stressing about school. If I need to stop planning and focus on finals, I dont feel like Im skimping on the planning.
Post # 6
@Caizn: That’s initially what I wanted to do as well. I told my FI that I under no circumstances wanted to plan a thing during my active school year. He agreed, but then we had to change the wedding date b/c his parents threw a fit that it was in January. So there went my “no planning!” rule. I told him to please do the leg work, because he has the luxury of coming home after work and doing nothing, whereas students are always working after class is over. He agreed, but we know how men are. He didn’t hold up that end of the bargain.
Stick to your guns on that. When you have free time in between semesters, focus on wedding. Trust me, it will make your life so much easier.
Post # 7
I understand you so well i’m also a fulltime student in political sciences – international relations, this is my last year so i’m really busy with the thesis, i also do have a part time job as a cake decorator and with the communion times it’s very very busy. I’m planning our wedding in the same time i write the thesis, add to that that my FI and I are in a long distance relationship…. it’s so hard, sometimes i cry because i feel exhausted…. but in the end it worth it i’ll be graduate 3 weeks before our wedding and in september we will begin an all new life together.
Post # 8
@StuporDuck: lol its my FH who freaks out that I will want it sooner. He doesn’t realize this wedding planning stuff is WORK! Work I love, but work nonetheless. He has nothing to worry about.
@nil: I couldn’t cope if I didn’t have my hourly cuddle breaks. That sounds awful. 🙁
Post # 9
@cubaneli: Honestly, take some time to yourself. I, unfortunately, had to take a semester off school… mostly due to financial strain. And, if you have the time, you should give this book a try http://www.cloudtownsendstore.com/boundariesbook1.html
I read it, and it’s definitely changed how I view things.
Post # 10
I got married in December and I’m graduating next weekend. 🙂 I just planned here and there when I got the time (I took a full course load, worked part-time and also did various internships the entire time we were engaged). Luckily for me, I love being busy.
Post # 11
Yep… I’m in law school, full time. 1 more exam (tomorrow!) before I’m done with my second year. I’ve been engaged & planning since August, so all my planning has been done while in school. Can’t wait until tomorrow evening when I’ll have four weeks to concentrate solely on the wedding! School starts again at the end of June. lol. Good luck with planning!
Post # 12
I’m graduating with my master’s in august, studying for the cpa and working a volunteer accounting position while job hunting.
I do my wedding planning on semester breaks, split tasks with FI and just try to be laid back about everything. Right now it’s not so bad, we’ll see what happens.
Post # 13
I just finished (turned in my last assignment today!) but for the last year I’ve been full-time in engineering school plus planning a wedding which is now less than 2 months away!
Post # 14
I graduate next week (Whoah! Next week!) and tie the knot 2 months later. But we have already been engaged and planning for 13 months already. So, yeah. It is crazy and stressful but in the end they will both be SO worth it! I am a full time student working 3 (count them, 3!) jobs and attepting to find a better one all while planning a BIG wedding. Christmas and Spring breaks were our major planning times and after next weekend we are getting down and dirty with everything else. Its tough but again, so worth it.
Post # 15
I’m in college as well! I’m getting my Masters in Social Work… well I just finished last week, so yay! Anyway, I didn’t find it that hard to plan. I had classes, internship, work, and planning to do. But I figured everything out pretty much during Christmas break (I got engaged the day after Christmas). I go the bulk of it done within 3 weeks, and then got even more done during Spring Break. I don’t even LIVE in the same city as my wedding. So every other week or so I go to FI’s house and will maybe have appointments. But for the most part, I can do everything on my computer at home.
I may be a rarity though. People always ask me how planning is coming along, and if it’s hard. And I’m like… um I’m done for the most part. I don’t know how anyone can take longer than 6 months to plan. But that’s probably due to my personality of picking things, sticking with them, and moving on 🙂 Lucky me!
Post # 16
I take my last final tomorrow and graduate in May. I am so over school, I don’t know what to do?! Its hard to plan this wedding, go to school and work full time. AND I’m a double major student – marketing and graphic design. It sucks!