(Closed) HELP, Any other ladies have a depressed SO?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4323 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@O.My.Heart:  My Fiance has depression – he’s doing really well lately, but I’ve been there.  We’ve been together a long time and he used to take antidepressants, so I’ve been through the med changes, the self-medicating, the highs and the lows. 

I’ve learned to sort of catch it when he’s slipping into depression.  Part of the way I cope is what you said – remembering that it won’t be forever and that the good times outweigh (and, in our case, far outnumber) the bad ones.

It’s great that you are understanding, but I know sometimes that forcing (for lack of a better word) my Fiance to take responsibility for himself – whether it’s realizing that he can’t take out his depression on me or going to talk to a professional – helps him out of the depression episode. But you’re right – patience is key, as long as he doesn’t try to take advantage of it.

One last tip – when my Fiance starts acting like the depression is on its way in, I pull out his sun lamp; it really does help. I don’t know what the weather is like in Ontario, but a lot of people with depression have a SAD element to it, so the sun lamp is really helpful.



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