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I was such an avid member on here during my wedding planning and now that I am married, I kinda feel like I don't fit in. I linger around on the Wedding Related section but don't feel like I can relate to anything anymore. I feel empty :( I LOVE THE BEE!!! Any others feel this way?
i did at first, but i've loved following the nesting posts and hoping on threads with newbees looking for answers about things i had experience with during my planning. i try to leave, but i just can't!
I want you to know that newlyweds can give us to-be-marrieds some of the BEST advice because you've been through the wedding thing! Weddingbee would be a rough place without any newlyweds around! :)
P.S. Congratulations on being MARRIED! :)
You can be a help to us who are going crazy over colors! Aka me. ;)
I did at first... but then I started venturing more to the Nesting & NWR sections... I'm happy again and have felt really welcomed in the Newlywed board as I got lots of encouragement yesterday when venturing into new cooking territory. <-- was my first Newlywed board post.
I still like the Wedding boards but now I give tips... I think what helped also was getting my pics and posting my recaps. I kinda "wandered" between the wedding and getting them. lol
I'm sure you'll find your nitch and stick around with us! ;)
I love the nesting section, and like others said, it's nice to be able to give people advice based on something that we've already been through. I remember loving having that advice of married bees when I was planning, so I'm hoping I can be helpful for others too!
I"m definitely not as active as I was while planning and I relate to the bee in new and different ways now that I'm a newlywed. Things like picking a color scheme, song list, etc. don't interest me as much anymore, but I will always LOVE dress and ring posts. I relate to the baby boards only because everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant, so it is an important topic in my life even though DH adn I are not planning on TTC.
I hang out in the nesting section usually. I feel out of place there too since 75% of the posts are about having babies.
@JoJo Bananas: I'm starting to hang out there too, but I also feel out of place among the many baby posts. We're not going to buy a house or TTC for quite awhile, so it looks like a lot of cooking/decorating/pet posts for me!
I'm not as active and I took a break from WB for a couple months, but now I lurk around and just give advice. I would really miss the community if I left.
@moderndaisy: same, we are not TTC, but since the topic of newlywed conversation seems to be babies, I tend to read a lot of those posts.
I've stayed around and read a lot of various threads whether I post on them or not. Some wedding stuff I still find interesting, but I'm mostly on the Baby and Newlywed boards.
I like to look at what other brides are up to and give advice where I can. Sometimes it makes me really miss planning my wedding. The past couple of weeks I've been run off my feet so I haven't been around as much, but I don't think I could ever just up and leave! I love the community here too much. Like the PPs have mentioned, I've found I've started shifting more towards the NWR and Nesting boards.
I just wish that the newlywed boards weren't quite so focused on babies and TTC. I understand that this is a natural "next step" for many couples, but for couples like us, who have many years before we want children, if at all, it seems hard to find a board to call home.
so I hop around a lot, a little here, a little there.
Aww dont feel that way!! You may be married but that doesnt make you any less of an asset. It doenst mean you cant give your opinions or let other girls know what you did, what you would do different if anything. All of it. Your just in the place that we all want to be at lol
It's so true about the nesting being very TTC/baby focused. I wonder sometimes if WeddingBee is RESPONSIBLE for my babyfever. :)
So here's a big thenk-you to all the newlyweds who keep posting other things! :) I enjoy when the nesting section has psots about general life stuff. Thanks for sticking around.
@ktisthatbees: I feel the same. We are not planning on TTC for a few years and same goes with buying a house.
@Tswife4ever: I'm not TTC or buying a new house! ;) -
I find that my interests wax and wane - I'm no longer as interested in 'help me pick my dress' posts as I am giving input on ceremony / reception flow issues or family stress issues, etc.
I found it INVALUABLE to get advice from already married bees, since I'd never gone through a wedding day before. I like giving input from 'the other side', knowing that everyone has a unique experience.
I guess it's all to say - yes, your interaction definitely will change post-planning, but it can definitely be a rich experience!
I just wish they'd split the baby stuff off into it's own board!
@Tessemasgirl and others I think that it's us who make up the weddingbee sections and if we posted more in the newlywed sections (those of us not buying homes & ttc yet) then it would pick up some... Just start posting more about questions we have or things we're going through, like me cooking spanish rice, and I bet we'll see alot more action!
I think the baby boards get poppin' like they do b/c pregnant women like to have their questions answered so they post and bees jump in... us newlyweds should do the same.
happy posting =D
@amnystik: I try and post stuff on the home section (mainly questions about home decor) but my posts always get lost and get such few responses. Maybe I'm just a thread killer...
I've been married for 2.5 years now, and only felt that way for a little bit. I first just hung around the NWR board, and did a bunch of posting on the Wedding Related board from the perspective of someone who had already been through her wedding.
After a while, though, I wasn't into the wedding aspect, so much and got much more involved in the Nesting boards. Now that I am about the start TTC, I am excited about also getting into the Babies board more!
The newer newlyweds are much luckier...the nesting board wasn't as big as it is now right after I got married. It seemed like there were way less newlyweds hanging around after their weddings then.
@JoJo Bananas I'm totally a thread killer.... but I think that if we just keep it up it will eventually pick up and start to grow ;)
I don't go to often to the home section b/c well idk.. I suck at decorating and couldn't help anyone but say "I'm right there with ya" lol
Oh no don’t think like that! The Mrs are such an important part of weddingbee, we need someone who’s knows what they are doing around here! And I love the anniversary posts, and announcing baby posts, which we wouldn’t have if it was just all “miss” bees.
I like the pets board. I still like the babies and the home board because I always get some great ideas whenever we do end up buying a house. Also, I had baby fever a few months ago, but that sort of went away.
Plus, there are a lot of threads that aren't even wedding or nesting related.
Oh, and the recaps board. I love recaps!!
I don't look at the weddingboards anymore, only the nesting boards.... Life is not all about weddings!
Because all the wedding stuff is so fresh in my mind and because I knew how difficult a time it was I try to give advice to the engaged girls whenever I see there's something I have experience in...or when they just seem frustrated and need someone to care.
You're all right about the baby thing. I haven't browsed the nesting area but I definitely don't want to talk babies. I guess since there are so many of us we really should just post about whatever newlywed things we're thinking about.
I don't really feel out of place here. We just passed our 2nd anniversary and I still love it here. I don't comment as much on most wedding posts anymore though.
It is funny this thread came up, because my younger brother is over tonight and him and my DH are watching basketball, I said, 'this is boring, I'm going on Weddingbee.' My brother goes, "you still go on that?" haha...I love it too. I am bad though because I use WB for EVERYTHING!! If I need advice on something or have a random thought or want to start a poll I do. I'm sure in the future I might not be on as much but now that I haven't been working I am just bored so go on a lot. THankfully everyone has been nice and isn't like, uh why do you ask us all these questions!
Funny, this is the first time I've visited the Newlywed boards in a long time. I had started to feel out of place on the Newlywed board after a year b/c someone did a poll on HOW LONG DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELVES NEWLYWEDS and it seemed as if I wasn't considered a Newlywed after 1 year of marriage so I felt excluded or like, maybe I don't belong here. Silly, huh? I was only married barely over a year. Back then, there wasn't frequent posting going on in the board. Anyway...too busy since I got pregnant and have been in BABIES land. I'll be visiting back again here and there. Can't leave my Weddingbee.
Love to all you newlyweds <3
FI often asks what's next after the wedding, and I think this post gives me good perspective on the reality of limbo. We won't be TTC or buying a home for a few years, maybe I'll be moving up the career ladder?
I love the Hive and hope there's a comfort zone to land in after planning and recaps are all finished up in a few short months....
Also, there was about a 3 month period after I got married and finished my recap that I also felt out of place here. I think because I was kinda over wedding planning and needed a rest. But like I said earlier, I like the NWR topics.
@yrret107: Oh yeah, I was sick of the wedding for a bit! It didn't last long though because I was unemployed and bored!
I still love the Bee for so many reasons. I love the nesting section and I feel like I "know" other bees now. I think it is a great, supportive community for newly's too.
Same boat! We are not TTC or buying a house for at least a year, so I'm kind of in limbo! I'm sure we'll find our niche soon! By the way, congrats fellow newlywed!!
I, for one, am so happy the newlyweds have not left. They always seem to give sound calm advice to brides-to-be that are having meltdowns : ) Keep it coming.
Oh and BTW, we probably aren't going to be buying a house for a while and we aren't TTC so we aren't fitting into the categories either.
I'm finding myself more on the NWR boards over the last week or so. I like ALL the areas on here!.. And I like that as I move around into new areas I'm becoming more familiar with some of the bees... =D
i think even before my wedding i went thru phases with hanging out in different sections. for awhile, before my wedding, i was constantly in the lounge! so fun in there! since my wedding though i think i have been trying to hang onto it still and i have been posting in the wedding boards like crazy. i like giving people tips and just talking about my wedding in general, so since i don't want to drive my real life friends crazy, i can talk about weddings and my wedding to my hearts content over in the wedding sections!
BUT, i have to be careful, because it can bring me down. seeing people still planning sometimes brings me to feeling "oh i wish i did that" and i realize i was feeling just fine until i read all those posts! so i think now that i am done my recaps (well almost), i am going to try to stay out of the wedding sections too much! part of it is habit. one of my "favorites" in my web browser IS the wedding sections board! gotta change that i guess....
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