Post # 1
So.. my wedding date is October 12th of this year…. as of tomorrow exactly 25 days away.
And… I’m battling with all I have to not have an all out panic attack over decor.
Because of our budget… we are unable to rent a dance floor. The wedding is going to be outdoors, and I’m really not open to dancing in the grass, so we’ve come to the conclusion to build a dance floor.
Great idea. But when and where are we getting the time to do it?!
Fiance also wants/needs to build the arch for us to get married under… and is in the process of frantically getting an antique family ‘heirloom’ car in dirving order to use as the getaway car (for photo op only.. we’ll cruise out of sight in that, and then switch to a more reliable newer vehicle for our drive)
I have other decorations to build (which involve barn wood and chalkboard paint), organizing of people who want to HELP setup decor (that I don’t even have a handle on yet to let them know what I’m thinking…)
I have no tablecloths.
No budget FOR tablecloths….
The majority of the wedding fund has been spent getting the larger things taken care of, and now with 26 days left… I’m left feeling totally overwhelmed like there’s no way it’s going to come together in time. It just isn’t going to.
I have to spray paint lanterns for pities sake!
Is anyone else feeling like they’ve bitten off way more than they can chew? (I’m probably feeling as overwhelmed as I am just because it’s late and I’m tired.)
I really am excited about my wedding day, and I know that no matter what happens and does (or does not) get finished project wise, it will still be the most incredible day ever because I’m truly marrying the love of my life… I just kinda feel dazed like I don’t really know what particular problem to tackle and handle next ya know? Which project to I finish first… and what can be saved until last minute?
Post # 3
Yes. I’m a week after you and am very stressed out about everything that still needs to be done. My first dress fitting was horrible. I have a large box of silk flowers that I need to turn into bouquets. No clue what I am going to do about centerpieces.
And the clock goes tick, tick, tick.
Post # 4
@Cecilia_Noelle: what budget do you have left and what are your priorities? I might be able to help!
Post # 5
I am stressed to the point of feeling sick and wanting to cry. I’m kicking myself for not doing a small, destination wedding like my fiance suggested in the beginning. We’ve hired a company to do our decorating so I’m not stressed out there…. BUT we still need to decide ceremony/DJ music, create/send out reception-only invites, choose readings/vows, finish my cardbox and bouquet and 10 boutonierres, choose rehearsal dinner menu, make a slideshow (which requires my trying to figure out how to work our scanner), figure out an itinerary, AND our photographer just emailed me saying she needs an itinerary and list of shots we want taken. OMG I feel like I am absolutely drowning. Dont even get me started on budget issues because I am also drowning in debt over this wedding and all the “little” things that add up! And every time I feel like I’m making some sort of progress, another thing gets added to my plate. I UNDERSTAND!!! I have no advice, but I understand!!! Haha
Post # 6
Going bonkers right now – October 11th Bride!
@alicroo86: get out of my head!!! literally that is the same situation i am in, word for word – except I am DIYing decor.
I have this crazy fear that I havent spent enough time pouring over the minor details, and that these will turn into major flaws. Every time i read someone say “You can tell the couple really love each other by the small personalised details” I freak out and think “I havent done enough details – PEOPLE WILL THINK THIS IS A SHAM!!”
Post # 7
I almost started crying yesterday when my mom gave me a coupon to a craft store to purchase some of the decor items, because it reminded me I hadn’t purchased them yet. I am LOSING it. Everything I have left is so small, but because of that I’m scared of them falling through the cracks. Let’s stay strong ladies!
Post # 8
October 12th here too; yeah, shit just got real lol…25 more days to go! AHHH! I’m excited, giddy, nervous, stressed! And not to mention jealous that my Fiance is so stinkin calm about it all lol, I wish I could be like that.
I still have 2 flower pomanders to finish for the ceremony, have to make a few small pomanders for the reception centerpieces, try to figure out something for decor for the front of the ceremony space (where we will be standing with the pastor), and go get our marriage license at some point.
It’s going to be ok girls, lets try to relax 🙂
P.S. I’m running a half marathon on Saturday LOL! WHY did I think that was a good idea that close to the wedding?? I think I’m losing my mind…
Post # 9
@MrsDinosaur: small personalized details my arse! We’re not even doing wedding favors because nobody needs another miniature bottle of bubbles or a polished rock with their name on it. As long as everyone has a good time, I’m to the point that I don’t care about tiny details anymore… especially since I’ve had a “sit-down” with myself to try to think of details from other people’s weddings — and I can’t think of ANY details from weddings I’ve attended. The only things I remember are A) The wedding colors (or the main color) B) The bride’s dress C) How much I had to drink/how much I danced … I don’t even remember ceremony music which is one of my biggest stressors at the moment so I’m trying to rationalize with myself… however, I’m about to post about ceremony music ideas riiiiiight…. NOW. All in all, WE MUST STICK TOGETHER!! We are all effing CRAZY being just a few weeks away!!!!
Post # 10
@MrsDinosaur: “PEOPLE WILL THINK THIS IS A SHAM” Pahahahahahahaha! I definitely needed this laugh.
I’m terrified people will think I did a BAD job.. I don’t want it to look shoddy or slapped together.
@cbco: The budget is low. A few hundred dollars left at best. Maybe more… but at this point I feel like I’m just throwing the cash at a black hole o_O
Hearing everyone else with a list left to do at this point is making me feel better…
Maybe I’m not as far behind as I thought I was
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
@alicroo86: Date twins!
Destination weddings are the way to go! I have a total of 30 guests and my wedding planner is planning EVERYTHING! (praise the LORD for him!)
All we have to do, is decorate the beach house, and do food stuff… Which we pretty much have handled!
Other than that, I do freak out about what people will think, when i’m not 100% positive myself how everything will turn out! But just think if something doesnt turn out the way you want, focus on the other things that will… and by the end of the night, we are married and sleeping next to the man of our dreams!
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Cecilia_Noelle: About the tablecloth issue, we went with paper poly lined tablecloths and they look and feel really good. They come in lots of colors and they should also photograph nicely too. I found them at http://www.mypapershop.com for less than $3 per tablecloth. I don’t know if that might be able to be squeezed into the budget but we also have a tight budget and it worked out.
We’re a few weeks out and down to our last few hundred dollars and still have to order food, booze/drinks, ice, and cake/cupcakes. It’s so F-ing stressful and exactly why I wanted to elope and take a two week vacation instead of having a traditional wedding ceremony and reception.
Post # 13
sorry you are not enjoying your time. try to relax, you are almost there.
Post # 14
You are my date twin!!!
and sorry I’ve got to say no…I’ve worked really hard within my budget to make sure everything is in order.
I’ve also done a couple of big events for my work so event coordination comes to me easier than most.
I suggest make 1-6 things you need to do that day. work on that and then when you are done you’re done.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
You can do it though. make a list of everything that is left that needs to be done. Then re-write the list in order of priority (i.e. what absolutely must get done at the top down to the bottom where it’s F-it if we don’t have time.) Then make yourself do at least one thing each day so you can check it off the list. But remember like PP said, people may notice small details but they won’t remember them so don’t waste your time and energy stressing about little stuff.
Can you take some extra time off closer to the wedding to tackle leftover projects?
Post # 16
@gigglebox: So true! I hope you have an absolutely wonderful wedding – jealous you have a wedding planner!! lol