- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Hey Bees –
I’m happily engaged (just over a week). FI and I are going to enjoy a long engagement to pay down some credit card debt, give me a chance to finish my credential program, and save up plenty of money for the wedding. We haven’t finalized a date yet, but we’re thinking June 2014 sometime.
As I’ve been excitedly sharing the news about my engagement and beginning to contemplate my wedding, I’m reminded just how much of an old soul I have. I get along much better with people that are older than me (I’m 23 and most of my friends are a minimum of late 20s and married, most with children – but the majority of my friends are in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s).
My best friend in the entire world lives in Washington state and while I’d love to say that she would be able to make it to my wedding and be my MOH, I highly doubt this will be possible due to financial restraints (she is getting married later this year and then preparing to move to the UK).
I’m starting to feel a bit sad because I’m realizing more and more that I’ll probably be doing most of the wedding excitement and planning stuff alone. I’m an only child and my mom passed away two years ago. I’m the baby of my family and all of my aunts and cousins are much older than me (old enough to be my mom or grandmother in some cases).
FI mother will be involved a bit but since she lives four hours away from us, it will mostly be over the phone and Skype conversations.
So here is my question or concern or whatever you would call it that I’d love to have some feedback or support on:
Would it be weird or inappropriate to ask a friend that is older to help me plan things (at least just attend things with me like dress shopping and choosing flowers) so that I’m not doing this alone? It isn’t that I feel that I have no one to talk to about this whole thing – but I don’t necessarily feel like I have someone to take with me to visit the vendors or go dress shopping or whatever. Is that being totally selfish?
And is it totally crazy if I think of having one of them be a bridesmaid or two? (I currently don’t have any)
I am so lucky and blessed to have my FI that will be with me every step of the way. I’ve even considered taking him dress shopping (although, not only do I know that this would bore him to death, but he also isn’t very opinionated when it comes to clothes and unless he truly HATED it, wouldn’t speak up). He is being so supportive of me. But at the same time, I just feel like there is a hole in this whole exciting time of my life where my best friends are supposed to be.
Anyone got any guidance to offer?