Post # 1
We have three kids, ages 19, 13, and 8. Due to finances they haven’t traveled much. Well recently to Iowa or the wedding of course, and we went to Colorado a couple years back for spring break because I won airfare in a contest… but other than that only short road trips within Texas.
So we are hoping to honeymoon in New Orleans this summer. Nothing exotic or extravagant… but there is a part of me that feels a certain amount of guilt since my kids have never been there and the oldest two, specifically, would enjoy it. It’s not anything THEY have said… the older two have specifically urged us to take this time since our wedding was very stressful and we didn’t even have a wedding night alone… it’s just me and my wife with the guilt, wanting to show the kids new and different places. But we couldn’t afford to take them along without delaying for a very long time.. and it wouldn’t be a “honeymoon” really that way, would it?
Just curious if anyone else can relate.
Post # 3
I have thought about this too… Me and FI dont even know where we are going for the honeymoon but i still feel bad that we would be taking a vacation without them… But i know we will love having some time alone!!!
Post # 4
I think if you can arrange for the kids to have their own big vacation while you are on your honeymoon trip, that would be great. Like the grandparents or an aunt or uncle taking them to disneyworld, or a big themepark for a weekend, or on a camping trip-whatever the kids are into. I think as long as they are having their fun, they won’t begrudge you, yours.
Post # 5
We have three between us and I don’t feel guilty one iota about leaving them at home, It’s my dang honeymoon. We are taking them for a minivaca alittle later in the year (except the oldest, who is 20). Nope not feeling guily at all!
Post # 6
@MsInterpret: I think its super important that you and your hubby take a honeymoon. This is the one time in your marriage where it’s okay to put the marriage before your chidren. And like you already mentioned, they’ll understand (heck they even mentioned it).
If taking your kids to New Orleans is something you’re set on, then start saving for a day when you can afford to take the whole family.
It might just be enough to plan a small family vacay to somewhere near by over a 4 day weekend…perhaps a camping trip or something inexpensive.
Post # 7
we arent taking our daughters but they will be with their other parents and already promised them when we got back from our cruise we would take them to the zoo out here but not a huge big trip.
Post # 8
I feel bad. We are going to Puerto Rico and I want our son to join us but I know we need alone time. I even said lets go to Disney World instead for our honeymoon but FI said we need this time.
Post # 9
We are already planning 2 honeymoons. The first one right after the wedding will be a cruise with my daughter. We know the dates and will book it last minute at vacationstogo.com. A 4-5 day cruise in the Carribean. Check it out as you can find rates under $500pp.
The second one, a couple months later, will be 10 days in Belize. Still trying to sell Belize on my FI!
Since I only have one child and our universe revolves around her(don’t tell her!) I would feel so guilty if we did not celebrate our new family. The marriage is yes for me and my FI but we are creating a new family too and I want to celebrate that. So even if it means having a picnic somewhere nearby. Take the time to spend a “special” day together as a new family. 🙂
Post # 10
I can totally related. We’re getting married in September and the kids will be 14 and 12. I feel terrible leaving them behind while we’re on our week long honeymoon but I do think it’s important for us to have some “us” time, plus the kids will be in school anyway.
We’re trying to plan a small vacation this summer prior to the wedding, and have promised them a trip to Florida next summer (we’re in Iowa) so that they have something to look forward to.
I’ve tried to convince FI that we should take less than 7 days for our honeymoon, but we’re going to Jamaica and I’m sure once we get there, I won’t want to leave. As hard as it is, sometimes we need to do things without our kids.