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I feel a little bit of that, but mostly not. Most of our OOT guests are coming from across the country, so they would've had to take Friday off anyway for travel. Plus, if we'd had our wedding on a Saturday, people would've had to take Friday off for our rehearsal luncheon.
On the bright side, this limits the number of people who can attend. 
Please don't feel bad. I was almost a Sunday bride (at one of the venues we were looking at it would have saved us $3,000) and there was a post on the board flat out attacking Sunday brides. I felt awful, but in retrospect, it's not a big deal. Many professions work hours other than 9-5 M-F, and those people would have to request off no matter what. Many brides make decisions like having a destination wedding, etc, that means guests have to make special arrangements.
The only thing I'd be prepared for is that some guests may not party as hard or stay as long. But FSIL's wedding was on a Sunday afternoon, and people stayed at her reception until 10:30 or so.
Good luck!
We're having our wedding on a THURSDAY evening! =/ Granted, we're having a tiny wedding, but our (few) OOT guests have actually been really grateful to have the excuse for time off, and because we're right around DC, most are taking advantage of the weekend to do some sightseeing.
I could definitely see feeling guilty if I had more OOT guests - but don't allow yourself to! The most important people would be there regardless of the day, or circumstance, and will not fault you for trying to save money, or have the wedding venue you wanted!
I'm having a Sunday wedding, and while I felt this at first...I also knew that doing a Sunday wedding allowed for a bigger, better party for our guests. I feel like it's a trade off, but one that's well worth it - we wouldn't be able to have the food, entertainment, drinks, etc that we have now if we had a Saturday wedding. Either way, people will be there to celebrate with you, and I don't think anyone will be sitting around pouting about how they had to come to a Sunday wedding. Enjoy your day!
I have never felt guilty about my Sunday wedding. Maybe this is because I am getting married on a holiday weekend, but more so I figure the people who want to be there, will be there to celebrate with us and won't see it as a burden.
Also, my Mother's side of the family is Jewish so I am pretty used to Jewish weddings which are often held on Sundays.
So my advice is don't feel bad! Your guests will figure out how to be in attendance.
I am sorry you're feeling guilty. Try not to think about it too much - like some of the other gals have said, if your wedding was on Sat they may have taken that Friday off - you just don't know.Its your guys' day and in the long run regardless of what day its on you would hear pros and cons of each. Enjoy your planning and let this pass, chin up girl!
We're getting married on a Sunday - we're Jewish and there was never a question that it would be on Sat after sunset. All of our friends/family have known for months. We sent our STD's out two weeks ago giving them 8 months to plan ahead. FH and I have taken redeye flights and a Friday off for the past 2 yrs to attend our friends' weddings. We don't feel guilty one bit that they have to take Monday off, haahaahaa
I'm a Sunday gal and I don't feel bad... we definitely considered all the options but this is why we went down this route...
Sorry if any of this sounds insensitive to our guests but this is your wedding and at the end of the day you have to do what works best for you! :) Definitely don't feel guilty! You obviously chose it for a good reason!
As a Sunday Bride myself, my thoughts echo many of the others have been posting. People will make arrangments for your wedding. Whenever, whatever, because it is important that they share this special day and moment with you. While work is important to us all (hey bills still need to get paid!) I'd like to think that my relationships with my family and friends merit a day off, if needed, in order to celebrate.
Also, you could consider pushing the start time earlier and having the reception end by 10, giving (at least some) people the option to work the next day.
Hope this helps. YAY Sundays!
i got married last sunday, and i loved my sunday wedding! i wanted a small wedding, and having it on a sunday helped that. i know that we love our weddings, but people live for their weekends, and to have to go to a sat. wedding can kind of take up their whole weekend, so it's kind of nice to have it on a sunday afternoon or morning.
I'm an OOT guest attending two Sunday weddings this year, so I'll give you my perspective.
The May wedding is for a modern Orthodox ceremony. That doesn't bug me in the least bit because it would be so hard for her to get married on a Saturday, because of the Sabbath. She has a really good reason, so it isn't a problem.
The other Sunday wedding is for my work besty (she is getting married back home in the South). Her mom wanted her to marry on 10-10-10, so it is a Sunday. I'll be honest that I'm a little miffed, though not at her, she is having a big old Indian wedding with all of the parental crazy and control. Either way I would have missed a day of work, but Fridays are so much easier to miss than Mondays. On the other hand, it isn't that big of a deal. Do I think it is a little inconvenient? Yes. Will I still go and have a great time? Yes. Will she ever hear a negative word from me about it? Heck no.
EDIT: btw, I think any miffed feelings can be lessened by any little gesture that makes the trip more convenient. One of the Bees said she is having a BBQ on Saturday? That seems like a great idea.
Ooh, last thing. My MOH is going to a wedding this summer that is a Monday night wedding. And the couple are transplants, so most guests are OOT. If a Sunday wedding is slightly inconvenient, it isn't a Monday wedding at least!
Oooo I was going to add doing OOT gift bags will totally make your OOT guests forget any negative feelings... how can you stay annoyed when the bride and groom has gone out of their way to make you feel comfortable and welcome! :)
Our wedding is on a Sunday, and I have had very few guilty thoughts about it. I figured that anybody who really wants to be there will be there no matter what day of the week we hold it. The important part to us is to have our families and closest friends there with us, which I know we will.
We could have had a Saturday wedding, if we had waited 4 more months and did it at the most miserable time of year in AZ - August. I think our guests will be happy we didn't go that route, and we are happy that we aren't waiting 4 additional months!
I was almost a Sunday bride because originally we were planning to get married on 10-10-10! For about 3 months of our engagement thats what I was planning for and I understand what you are saying about being more inconvenient, but it didnt bother me too much. I think no matter when and where you have your wedding it is always going to be inconvenient for at least some people and thats okay! Either people will have to take time off work or travel really far or pay a lot for a hotel room or figure out what to do with the kids - you cannot please everyone! As long as you are happy and those that are closest to you will be there then thats all that matters!
I'm a Sunday bride AND I'm a Friday bride as well. Our weddings will take up the WHOLE weekend & some guests have to take off Thursday thru Monday. But with all we're doing for our guests, I'm not feeling the least bit guilty. And you already have so much on your plate, stressing over a decision already made isn't going to help.
First, while you invite your guests, guests have the final say in whether they are coming for ALL the events or not. You just have to be understanding that if your wedding is inconvenient for them, they won't attend what they can't make. My own big sister may not be able to make my 2pm Friday ceremony due to work - it's my own "fault": the end of the month is SUPER busy for her & I'm having the ceremony during the workday. But, that's part of the beauty of having two ceremonies - she's TOTALLY making it for Sunday.
Second, like a PP said above, make it worthwhile for your guests. For instance, our wedding weekend is in the summer - perfect for families to make it a mini-vacay. Our wedding is a "destination" - LA & Anaheim - so there's a bunch to do here that isn't wedding related. And our wedding favors are tickets in to Disneyland (Sunday is at the Disneyland Hotel), so we're giving them "the happiest place on earth" for joining us on our happiest day. Finally, to encourage people to take both Friday & Monday off - we're having TWO receptions (one on Friday, plus one Sunday) & a "send-off" brunch on Monday. So it's not like we're "forcing" them to take off an extra 48 hours for a 6 hour ceremony. We're making it an event weekend.
Third, make it really easy to plan for your wedding. Send out STDs more than 6 months in advance (ours were 9 months), set up an informative wedding website (try creating a "blog" for your website that guests can subscribe to - you don't have to blog, just let guests know about updates thru subscription) with hotel blocks, things to do, coupons on travel, etc. that your guests can use to make planning easy; send your invites a little early so your guests know the timing & itinerary of your wedding day & can make travel arrangements accordingly.
So enjoy the wedding you're planning & make it the best day for you & FI & a day to remember for your guests.
Note: 80% of our guest list are OOT (we're doing it local for us, both families live elsewhere - mine out of state - & most friends live elsewhere, too)...with our STDs we've learned that 95% of our guests are coming.
I will be a Monday bride - 10am civil ceremony. About 40 people in attendance, immediate family and close, close friends. Short ceremony, then on to brunch! So far, I've had nothing but support from the guests on my list as to the choice of weekday. If we had chosen to do the actual registry office, we definitely would have been restricted to M-F, city hall office hours.
dont feel guilty! my wedding is on a tuesday and everyone is leaving for the island it is on on the monday... except for some family that own boats.
Our B&G have a Sunday wedding. All of the oldsters are looking forward to getting a day off on Monday. All of the youngsters live close to the venue. It will be a family reunion- great day. Since rehearsal is on a Saturday it makes the whole chain of event very easy for us all.
I'm getting married on 10-10-10 and I'm not the least bit concerned about the Sunday wedding. Why?
I'm a Memorial Day Monday bride! Am I worried people will not show up or leave early? Yes. Do I feel guilty? No. If it was a friend or relative of mine I wouldn't think twice about it. It's just one day off of work, that's what sick and personal and vacation days are for! Family and friends should be the focus of life, not work. People can afford to miss one day in the office to celebrate and cherish a joyous occation.
Maybe it's because I was raised in a culture where gatherings and celebrations are an essential part of life, and people have more joie de vivre, that I don't understand this mentality. One of our invited guests have griped that they have to go to bed too late on a work night because of the reception start time and I was aghast. Why wouldn't you want to miss couple hours of sleep to party, eat, drink,dance and celebrate with friends for one night?? Are people really that dead inside?
I didn't even consider a Sunday wedding until I called one venue who suggested Sunday as a way to save a considerable amount of money (the venue is a restaurant). Several of our friends and all of my fiance's family live in the town where we are getting married (Indianapolis). Only a few of our friends live in Chicago (where we reside) but most of my family and high school friends lives in southern Indiana (3 hours from Indianapolis). I feel bad considering a Sunday wedding since my family and friends would have to travel and take off for the wedding, but I guess I rationalize the possibility of a Sunday wedding it because I've taken off work and have traveled for all of my siblings' weddings and most of my friends' weddings. I'm not asking anyone to do anything I haven't done before. Plus, I understand if they just can't make a Sunday event. And I think as long as you are okay with the fact that some people just might not be able to make it, than I wouldn't worry.
I would also be curious to hear opinions from anyone who has attended a Sunday wedding.
I don't feel guilty AT ALL! Its my day chosen because our 6 year anniversay is August 21 which is a Saturday, but when I realized all the discounts for a Sunday it was not even a question plus our wedding is small and a lot of venues had a minimum requirement of people needed or money you needed to spend on food and beverage. In the end all we need are us and our two children if no one else shows up its fine with me!
I wouldn't feel guilty. I specifically set up my wedding for a Sunday so people could travel on Saturday and then go home on Monday instead of the other way around, but for me it's Labor Day weekend so that helps. Really, it's still the same if you got married on Saturday because they'd probably need the whole day of Friday to travel anyway. I wouldn't stress on it. If someone bitches then clearly they don't need to come if they can't be happy for you and show. If they can't due to work obligations for whatever reason, then bummer, but I wouldn't feel bad.
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We are having a Sunday wedding because all the Saturdays were booked at our venue. But now, I am having a heavy dose of guilt. If our wedding was on Saturday, OOTpeople could have traveled after work on Friday and returned home on Sunday. But since out wedding is Sunday afternoon-night, that kinda forces people to take Monday off. I feel bad.
Am I the only Sunday bride feeling like this?