Post # 1
I have a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship.
I’m wondering if there is anyone else with children and if your FI is planning on adopting and if you are going to incorporate this (or have already) into your wedding?
My FI is adopting my daughter and we would like to do some sort of celebration. Not sure if we want to do this at the wedding or something more personal with immediate family.
Post # 3
I have a 3 year son. He is from a previous relationship however he doesnt know that (my son doesnt know that) My Fi has been in his life since he was 6 months ( the sperm donor and I were together for 3 years and when I got pregnant he hit the road). I met FI at my birthday dinner through a mutual friend and we became really good friends and by the time my son was 1 and a half we were in a relationship. My son calls FI dad and FI loves it. We never tell anyone different unless they already know. People even say they look alike and that my son looks more like FI than me lol We already started the adoption process and I cant wait until we all ROCK the same last name.
Our son is co-best man =)
Post # 4
My DH has a son who’s 4 1/2. He was our ringbearer. We didn’t make it a formal part of the ceremony but I took a few moments with SS’s mom at the cocktail hour to talk and hug and have a touchy-feely “I promise to take care of him” moment. We talked about whether or not to make it sort of a “family” ceremony, but we decided not to. We wanted to keep it simple.
I think making a special day for you and your hubby and your daughter would make it really unique for her. Weddings are always about the bride and groom and she may feel to the wayside on the day. Maybe a special “family day” and its subsequent anniversaries would be a nice way to celebrate your new family. Or on your wedding anniversary do a big family breakfast and activity in the morning, but a special mom/dad-only dinner in the evening.
Post # 5
@Mrs.MedinaJr: That is SO cute! I thought I was alone here for a minute! My daughter was also from a 3 yr relationship. It was actually an abusive relationship so she doesn’t have contact with the biological father. She has never met him since I left him after she was 2 weeks old.
My FI and I have been best friends for the past 3 years and my daughter loves him. She is so excited we are getting married and asked us if when we get married she can call him “daddy”. We both teared up! I think the adoption means a lot to the both of us because his father was adopted as a baby and passed away about 3 years ago (on my daughter’s birthday).
Will you guys be having a celebration for the adoption?
Post # 6
I have 2 daughters from my previous marriage… FI has none.
Both my daughters (7yo & 13yo) will be my only attendants in the wedding party (& they are soooo excited about getting dresses, hair done and walking down the aisle). We also are going to do a unity candle or sand and present each girl with a piece of jewelry during the ceremony to show we are also married as a family (not just as husband & wife).
Post # 7
@tranquility: AWWW your daughter is so sweet! I remember the first time our son called FI Dada. It was out of the blue. I never taught him that word just mama but than he said DADA FI and I just looked at each other and I tried to correct him but fi said No let him I am not going anywhere.
The adoption is a very long process and since we can’t get ahold of the sperm donor (sorry thats what we called him we dont use his name my story is so long but thats another post) we have to place ads in the papers and put out annoucements and than start sending letters to last known addresses. We thinking by the time we are married we might still be going through the process. So hopefully after we are married it will be done and have a HUGE party or something with our families! Just for the wedding he is co-best man but we are presenting a slideshow during dinner and it will be pictures of us 3 as a family. I am crying right now just thinking about it.
Post # 8
My FI has twin sons who are 7, been w/ them since they were 23 mo old… they are honorary Best Men and will be presenting our rings. They will also help us light the unity candle…so all 4 of us will have our own taper candle, and light together.