Any politically liberal Catholic bees wanna help a sister out?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think you should give her a call and ask her what she thinks! If you have any concerns (or if she does), then I think the best time to bring them up would be on the call.

If she says she’d love to be your bridesmaid on the phone, still send her the box – those are mostly about making people feel special. 🙂

BTW – if she doesn’t agree with the civil ceremony, but is OK with the rest is it OK if she skips it? [ETA: skips the civil ceremony, I mean]
Don’t know if the plan is to have two ceremonies with bridesmaids at both.
Just a thought. 🙂

Good luck – I am sure it will be fine!

Post # 4
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would just state that you are having a civil ceremony on Saturday and a blessing by the deacon on Sunday. Invite her to both. You shouldn’t have to justify your decision to a friend. If she asks why, tell her the truth. “We support the LGBT community and want our ceremony to be inclusive of those individuals.”

Post # 5
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would call her, tell her your plans, and as her to be bridesmaid. If you just ask her to be a BM and then tell her what you’re doing, she might feel uncomfortable, as you mentioned. It seems you value your friendship very much and will be understanding of her answer either way. Good luck!

Post # 6
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Are you having bridesmaids at both ceremonies? If you’re only having them at the civil one ask her, but let her know it won’t be a Catholic wedding, but that she’s welcome to come the next day for the convalidation ceremony. If you’re having them at both, I’d definitely tell her first. 

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