(Closed) Any pregnant bee's experience down days???

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am not even as far along as you and already have “bad” days… it makes it even tougher when my DH just doesn’t understand why I don’t get more done around the house when I am there most of the time and just sitting around.  I’m like–because I just feel like crap today and I didn’t want to do anything! Bite me!

I HATE shopping right now because I just look at all the cute clothes that I can’t buy right now because I am just getting bigger.  I (for the most part) HATE maternity clothes, I bought a pair of maternity jeans and they just look so stupid on me.  DH even said they weren’t all that flattering and I’m like, THANK YOU for making me feel better about this (he has still not quite gotten the hang of keeping his foot in his mouth sometimes).  He even told me when I asked if my butt has gotten bigger that yes, it has. I couldn’t get mad at him because I told him to be completely honest, but ugh! I have always been a pretty thin girl most of my life and in the past 2 years I had worked even harder to lose a few extra pounds and really tone up (nothing like a wedding to motivate you to work out).  It depresses me to think that my body will probably never be the same after this, but I seriously googled the other day something about before and after baby body and found some girls who got pretty darn fit after pregnancies, so that made  me feel a little better.  

Honestly, I am not one of those “OMG I LOVE BEING PREGNANT” people, it is just a means to an end to get children.  Don’t get me wrong, I am VERY blessed that we got pregnant pretty easily with zero interventions, but had I not been able to get pregnant because of x/y/z I would have jumped all over using a surrogate, adoption, etc. I want kids and being pregnant myself is just the easiest way to get there.  I don’t buy much of the huey about “oh enjoy every single day of your pregnancy, you will miss it so much!” Umm, no thank you. I think I will like holding my baby in my arms and wearing my skinny jeans again and drinking a beer or glass of wine with dinner every now and then much better than being a huge uncomfortable whale.  Just my 2 cents.  It’s weird, actually, because I thought I would like being pregnant….I think pinterest and all the cute ideas on there gave me a little too much excitement and now it is just taking FOREVER and I just can’t wait for baby to be here (and I still have a long ways to go).  

 

This is a GREAT article by the way that gave me a few laughs 🙂 

http://www.numbmum.com/2010/09/pregnancy-sucked-for-me.html?m=1

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m 5.5 months and for the last 2? weeks, my hormones have been raging. I have days where I just want to cry all day for no reason.  ( not that often, but it’s happened a couple times. ) If my husband leaves his dishes in the sink, clothes laying around etc, I want to throw plates at him ( ahah I would never actually..) I feel like I need to be way healthier, but working 10.5 hour days as a nurse has been taking its toll hardcore on me. I don’t really have any suggestions… the couple things that have helped me have been 1) massages. I go twice a month just to relax. 2) Getting outside and walking our puppy helps me relax and calm down.

I also try and not do everything on one day anymore. Before, my first day off I’d try and get the grocery shopping done, do all the laundry and clean the house top to bottom. Now I try to not get bothered by a messy house and just do things one day at a time. 

I’m trying to be really open and honest with my husband so he knows what’s going on with me and not thinking I’m starting to change into some batshit crazy lady haha.

Try and relax, just take the day to not worry about laundry and grab some takeout if you don’t have the energy today to make dinner. 

I hope this is just a phase and the hormones kind of relax again soon.. any other bees further along find hormones come in waves? Or once they peak they’re there to stay?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@SamanthaLovesJames:  Sounds like me today.. ..I’m 27 weeks tomorrow and today had a BAD day..woke up queasy/dizzy-ish..even though I slept 10 hours last night! All I want to do is go home and get under the covers =(

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

@cowgirlace:  Laughed out loud at that article.  So true and honest!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Ohhh yeah, definitely have those days! I am sure most, if not all, pregnant women do at some point 😛 

At 31 weeks now, I feel like I grow exponentially everyday, and getting around has become much more uncomfortable and even painful, so sometimes I just want to sit around but my mind races with a laundry list of things I need to be doing, lol. It’s frustrating!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yes yes yes. I love DH and don’t ask for much from him. However I did ask for a shoulder rub as I’ve been having shooting pain from my shoulder to my elbow and he moaned and groaned about me asking for one. I started bawling. 

or how about when we were at my parents house for dinner and as we are eating, my dad says,   “Remember the more you gain, the more you have to take off when he is born.” I’m sorry, but I have only gained 7 lb in 20 weeks so I’m feeling good about my weight gain. I started crying again. “so I’m not able to eat what you all eat while I’m pregnant?” I hadn’t even gone for seconds or anything yet.

the weight comments make me feel terrible about myself. Pair that with not feeling up to doing hair and make up every day, and of course my friend jokes that im “letting myself go already”. 

 

I wish people would shut their mouths.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think we’ve all been there.

I comfort myself with cuddles from DH, a hot shower (many say this is a no-no during pregnancy but I can’t deal with lukewarm showers and the hot water feels amazing on my aching back), or chocolate. I recently read an article that said expectant moms who eat chocolate daily are more likely to have calmer, happier babies. 😉

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@cowgirlace:  bahahaha, great article. I identify with that feeling of guilt for being ‘as fertile as a guinea pig’ and yet really disliking pregnancy. I can honestly say that I think I might hate the whole process. On a more positive note, though, not all maternity clothes suck if you know where to shop! I found a killer pair of maternity leggings/trousers (stretchy-ish but really heavy fabric) that have brightened my outlook considerably this week. Got whistled at not once, not twice, but three times by unsuspecting bystanders the other day who didn’t realise I was pregnant until I turned sideways! Topshop, baby. Everything else just makes me look like a cow on wheels. 

But yes, I definitely have down days. I cried the other day because I was so sick of It. 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve had a down day pretty much every day this week.   I’m not sure why I felt the need to complain about something every day this week, but it just wasn’t a good week for me.

I wish I could give you advice on how to get over it but I’m still trying to figure that out myself. Sometimes letting out a good cry just makes me feel better. Even if DH looks at me like I’m nuts.

@cowgirlace:  Great article..lol.  I can totally relate.  My mom had 4 kids and all I hear from her is how much she LOVED being pregnant and it’s just an amazing thing.  Sure, it’s amazing, but that doesn’t change the fact that I am definitely not loving it the way she did.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@UK Bride:  hahaha. I hope I’ll be as lucky as you in the maternity pants search. Tongue Out You must be carrying all forward if they couldn’t tell from behind! 

@cowgirlace:  Thanks for the good laugh. That article is refreshingly honest.

 

DH and I know that we want 2 kids, but just last night I told him that it’s going to take a lot of willpower for me to agree to doing this a second time. I still want two kids, but I don’t really want two pregnancies. And I feel like I’m not allowed to tell people when I feel like I ate a turd sandwich, so I just say “fine” when people ask how I’m doing.

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