Post # 1
Here’s the sitch…
We have approx 50 guests that we’re inviting to the wedding. Of the 50, 25 are being hosted by us at the venue (lodging) and this includes a 2 night stay (All are bridal party members + SO and VIP). The other 25 are kind of split between FI’s family who live locally and my family who is traveling from Idaho (and will be paying for lodging).
So, we have the RD, and at this time we’re thinking of inviting all 50 people, minus a few locals who aren’t being provided lodging b/c they’re not in the wedding party. Because if we’re going to host bridal party member girlfriends and boyfriends then we’re gonna invite my family who traveled 12 hours to get there right?!
And then we end up with the same problem for the morning after brunch…do we invite every person?? The wedding is so small at 50 people that all of this is within our means but is it smart?
I’m just stuck on why we’d host any events for FI’s groomsmen+girlfriends who are all local but being provided lodging and then not invite his family (who lives local) or my family (who is traveling). Bridal party was given priority for lodging for a few reasons…some personal, and partly so the logistics the day of events would be easier to manage…but they’re aren’t priority as far as being more important than our families!!
Any input would be appreciated!!
Post # 3
How did you end up hosting them in the first place? I’ve never heard of hosting bridal party at an inn or hotel if they are local.
Post # 4
I feel like it would be really rude to invite ALMOST all the guests to the RD and brunch. Either stick to just the bridal party and immediate family for RD as traditional, and maybe invite everyone to the brunch if you can afford it, or invite everyone to all events. Anything else seems like it will hurt feelings.
Post # 5
We live in Seattle and got married at lake chelan ( I’m saying specifics since Im assuming you know Washington) we invited the bp, all our relatives, and out of state guests As well as the officiant and my doc which was a good friend.
Post # 6
I think I’d do the BP and the family for RD. I mean are you having a R? So won’t moms/dads be there to see when they walk down the aisle? I’d do just the people at the Inn for the morning after, that way people not staying there do not have to go back to the Inn for the brunch.
Post # 7
@Bazingau: Yeah totes. I guess that’s where the “personal” comes in. Needless to say I grew up in foster care…when we announced our engagement my adopted mom said no one from her side could come…so we planned a wedding without them. Then several months after everyone else was invited the out of state “family” let us know they WERE coming.
Okay, yeah I agree we need to invite everyone. And that was our plan. It just started to feel crazy for a minute…and yeah it is crazy but way less crazy than trying to figure out some way around it LOL.