Any railroad wives/fiancees/girlfriends out there?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
1022 posts
Bumble bee

I know how you feel it is terribly difficult, especially when on call or running spare. I don’t really have advice except for being patient and realizing that everything is a ‘soft commitment’ if you’re so needs to leave at the drop of a hat. I know dh was dealing with it by making a lot of tenitive plans with friends for when I was gone. But youre right it is lonely, for your so as well, it’s difficult to be away from home and have a screwed up work and sleep schedule. On the other hand just know that it can work (my parents were married 34 years when my dad gave up the rails). Take the time to really appreciate each other when you are together. It gets easier. 

Post # 3
812 posts
Busy bee

Hey fellow R.R “wives”!

My FI and I have been together for almost four years and at first his work schedule didn’t bother me. I grew up with my dad working out of town during the week and home on weekends and sometimes gone longer. So dealing with FI schedule wasn’t a big deal. You just make sure you are comfortable with doing things by yourself or with friends and when you do see each other, you make the most of it to the fullest. With that said I had a really hard time when we moved two states away from everyone I knew so he could work in the Pacific North West. Fortunately he could see that and would lay off (oh no!) just to spend the day if needed. Make sure you guys COMMUNICATE. Even if it’s to send a simple hello text. View this as a way to build a stronger emotional relationship. and forget planning anything! Unless it is important than have him request PL or Vac days for it. Learn to enjoy spontaneous!

Post # 4
2064 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

future.mrs.koban:  DH is a commercial fisherman so always out on the open ocean. simular but different. i understand. his schedule changes with the weather. soo unpredictable. and lonley some times. i try to get involved with the small town we live in. and this year i got a cat and ducks lol. 

Post # 5
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

future.mrs.koban:  my fiance is an engineer. For the summer we decided he needs to work the yard engineer job so we can do things on weekends. The sacrifice is less money and he has to work graveyard but it works for Us. In the fall and winter he works the road. 

My frustration is trying to plan a honeymoon and only being able to request the week off 60 days out. 


I let let all my friends know I may be coming to things solo. He’s done this for six years now so everyone just knows a yes is a maybe. 


He’s worth it though. 

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