(Closed) Any recovering overeaters?….it is long, sorry.

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My FI and I have a basic rule of thumb, only eat until you are satisfied, not until you are full. We have come to realize that you can feel full after about 20 minutes and then you don’t feel bloated and gross. I don’t really like to eat when I am super hungry, that is why they say 4-5 small meals is better than 3 large meals. Most people go so long without eating that their bodies tell them they are hungry so you don’t really know when to stop. I have also found that water can be a great filler, and you can drink a lot of it. And guess what? No carbs and no calories!

Post # 4
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well done, sceeder, that sounds like quite an achievement.

I think I do have a bit of an issue around overeating, I don’t *think* I eat for emotional reasons, but I have trouble accepting that enough is actually enough. I’m 210 right now, and I’d love to be under 150 for my wedding. I’ve lost small amounts of weight on weight watchers, but to be honest I think it’s not for me – when I’m counting points I get totally obsessive, and could spend the whole feckin day thinking “what can I eat next? How can I squeeze the most sugar/salt/yummy boldness into this point limit?”

It’s silly. All the skinny people I know eat whatever they feel like – all the time. The thing is, their appetitie is honest, and not skewed by thinking of certain foods as bold or sinful or a treat – it’s just food.

I found a book on Amazon that could be helpful for people in this spot – The Appetite Awareness workbook. Marion Craighead, I think. Basically about re-educating your appetite, hunger signals etc. I’m torn between trying to pull willpower out of thin air to lose 2lb per week before going dress shopping, and doing it the right way to fix my food issues for life.

Tough stuff, this!

sorry for rambling so much, I really do think you’ve done wonderful, and it’s great that this is something you and your man are working on together.

Post # 5
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you’ve done a wonderful job recovering from  being an overeater.  I wouldn’t say I’m an overeater in the same way you were, but I have majorissues with food that I can’t kick.  I grew up in the south under the impression that food is the best way to celebrate, mourn, and pass the time.  So if I’ve had a bad day, my first instinct is to eat what makes me happy. If FI has had a bad day I’ll offer to make his favorite food.  If there’s a birthday, a job offer, a promotion or anything else of that stripe, we eat to celebrate.  If I’m catching up with a friend I either offer to fix dinner or we go out to eat.  I need to kick that and, instead, suggest we go for a walk or a hike or just sit around and watch tv, sans snacks.  But let me tell you, it’s hard to kick a habit you’ve been developing and perfecting for the past 24 years.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats on your current achievements! You have to develop a healthy relationship with food. It takes time because overeating can sometimes become more of a habit thing. Keep focusing on food being fuel for your body and how you feel better after eating a healthy meal over eating something that is bad for you or eating too much for that matter. I always have to be doing something with my hands, and some people have to have something in their mouth. Gum helps and just distracting yourself and staying busy with other things can help keep your mind off eating in between meals. Avoid sodas- tea and water are filling and great to sip on instead. My FI and I have started splitting meals when we know the restaurant sizes are too big, this also saves some money 🙂 And cooking at home is key for me- then i know what is being put in my dishes. Healthy snacks and/or 4 small meals a day, high and protein and fiber are great.. keeps you from feeling deprived. Try some strawberries dipped in dark choc, greek yogurt with honey, veggie trays, baked goldfish snacks, hummus, turkey and avocado, salads! Once you start investigating healthy foods your body can be satisfied on less and you will have more energy! Good Luck! 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t bother with the French Women Don’t Get Fat – it came across as hugely snobby, to my mind! And it seemed to be in praise of deprivation – just suck it up, it’s too important to be skinny -that type of thinking.

Here’s to us all being beautiful healthy brides, whatever size we are!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I never thought about it, but that’s pretty much what I used to be. My ex and I didn’t have a lot in common at all and were together for 3 1/2 yrs, so I made up things to have something in common – the easiest being food. I used to try all these recipes, mostly terrible, and eat them along with him. He loved McDonalds, so I’d be right by his side downing big macs in some desparate plot to have something to talk about – sad, right? The worst part is that he noticed my weight gain and actually suggested diet pills and what not. I can definitely attribute all this to my past eating disorder. Yep.

Anyway, ditched that guy, got to the gym, got my body back, found FI and my life has been on track. I attribute most of what happened to being an insecure 18 yr old from a small town – I thought if I didn’t find love then I wouldn’t find it ever.

Boy oh boy…

Post # 12
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

iit”s hard. all that stuff – and i’m not just saying this – but it truly honest to god IS addictive. sugar is worse than crack cocaine and I believe that because it’s legal and accepted world-wide. it’s SO hard to give it up. i turned to low-carb last year and LOVE it – but…lately, especially with stress, i’ve been eating so much crap. 🙁 this ISN’T what i changed to – but i have been because of stress.

i really wish you the best and hope it all works out for you!

Post # 14
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227 posts
Helper bee

Congrats on your healthy changes! The thing that made me the happiest among all of the posts is that you have a loving FI who is on this path with you. You are indeed a lukcy woman to have such a supportive man behind you.

12 lbs is an amazing bonus on top of a new healthy perspective!

Post # 15
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s really good that you have begun to make these healty changes in your life. You should really talk to your doctor about it too, I’m sure that he/she would have some really insightful advice for you. It is very worrisome that you were throwing up so often, you should definiately see a doctor or a nutritionist about what you have been going through.

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