(Closed) Any second time around bees waiting?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee

It is my second time around! I think I am less patient this time because this time I know it is the real deal and I just can’t wait to start my life with him! Last time it was more that we had been together for a while and it was just the logical step. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I’m less patient this time too. I wasnt expecting it last time at all. This time I know ias right, we’re both older, and we’ve discussed it in depth… I’m so ready!

Are any of your SO effected by it being your second time? Mine seems to want to out do my first… Which is totally unnecessary in my eyes.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

@Sa7208:  I agree, one of the benefits of this not being my first rodeo is that I know this is it-he is the one. I went into my first marriage feeling lukewarm. This time we have discussed everything to death lol! My SO doesn’t seem to be trying to top my first time around but in my case there wouldn’t be much of a challenge! Are you talking proposal or wedding? Sounds like typical guy behavior they always think bigger is better 😉

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

@impatientlywaiting20:  I wasengaged before but never married… SO was married before. He want my engage proposal,wedding, everythingtoo be larger then both of our firsts. We both know this is it and the first time around wasn’t, but I think he just has that man feeling that he has to outdo the other guy… 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

@Sa7208:  I agree this is so a man thing! I think it is that whole provider instinct! My SO is really hung up on making sure that the proposal is special because neither one of us had a special and romantic proposal our first times around. I think it is really sweet but I just want to be with him, the details don’t matter that much to me at this point. I won’t lie though, I know how much he spent on the last piece of jewelry that he got his ex and I am a little bit happy/relieved/smug that he is planning to spend more on my ring. Guess I am shallow that way lol! 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

@impatientlywaiting20:  Are you happy you know? I haven’t asked abt his exes ring bc I’m not sure if I want to know. What if he picks something similar for me ( he’s choosing my ring on his own, which is wat I wanted), or what if its not as expensive, or he spent less time shopping for it, etc? I do know how he proposed to her (at a nice dinner), but I just can’t decide if I want to know the ring details!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

@Sa7208:  oops sorry I wasn’t clear! I know that he spent 4k on an anniversary ring for her right before she left him. I think he has mentioned her engagement/wedding band but I don’t recall details. I guess it is probably better not to know in the long run. He has probably totally forgotten that he told me about that ring he got her. And it really wouldn’t bother me if he spent less on my ring because 4k just seems crazy to me. My ex spent less than 200 on my band and ering! But what matters is the thought and from the sounds of it you don’t need to worry that your SO would spend less time finding the perfect ring for you! He seems to want to make sure everything is bigger/better this time around so you never have to worry about being second. My SO is all about things being different this time around but it is like a superstition thing. He doesn’t want to jinx us or something! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m a 2nd time waiting bee, I’m def less patient this time because I know for 100% certainty that my SO is my forever! My first time around it was well we’ve been together for awhile guess we get married, but we weren’t in love with one another just comfortable. This time around I see the whole picture, future,family, and im ridiculously head over heels in love with him. He in the words of Jerry McGuire Completes me! 

Post # 13
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Newbee

I’m sort of both. I’m impatient because I know this guy is the right guy and I want to start blending our families, etc. But on the other hand I’m not because I know we have the rest of our lives to spend together and I don’t want to rush and risk us breaking up again. We had a timeline but he’s gotten really weird so I don’t think it’s going to happen.

But the wedding, the ring, none of it matters to me. Just the promise of spending my life with him does.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

This is my second time around for engagement–the first was ridiculous and I said yes for no good reason. Last time we got engaged in October after becoming a couple in January–we called off our engagement on our first anniversary.

Now I’m waiting for the wide world to get to celebrate and recognize the union we feel in our hearts and souls. I’m a bit more impatient this time because my biological alarm is going off and we’ve been together almost 8 years.

 

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