(Closed) Any Single Moms… still waiting??

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

right here…thought we made progress but nothing…..  I dont care anymore…..I’m very much over the whole thing.   good luck to u though…;)

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I’m also a single mom that is somewhat waiting. However, I’m like @zalonia  where I’m not really expecting a proposal any time soon.   We are in a LDR and he is trying to get a job which may greatly affect our relationship within the next few months.  So I’ve mostly put thoughts of a proposal on the backburner for a while til we find out what’s going to happen. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

@sshore114:  I’m also a waiting single mom.  Kudos to you for putting your kids’ best interest first!  Me and SO are both single parents and we waited 3 years (3. long. years.) to take the next steps and move in.  We had a talk and proclaimed that we wanted to be with eachother for the rest of our lives and that the end goal is marriage but we wanted to live together first.  My daughter lives with us and his daughter visits every weekend.  They are both roughly the same age and fight just like siblings do, but they love eachother.  So now, I am “waiting”.  Sigh ๐Ÿ˜‰

Neither of the girls know what getting married really is or means yet (they are both 4) but his daughter loves me and my daughter loves him.  But I know what the pressure feels like…we both want to raise the girls that when you really love someone you get married…not shack up.  So hopefully this waiting period will go by quickly so their earliest memories are of us getting married.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Hey I am another “single” mother. I have a tween and I just gave birth to our son about 4 months ago. My SO and I live together though but I am still waiting none-the-less for him to make our family “official”. Glad to see other mothers around.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Are there any waiting moms who have (future) blended families?  (Each person has a child from a previous relationship?  i.e. “Brady Bunch families”?)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

No- my son was my SO’s first.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I am a single waiting mom, too… SO & I have been together 3 years and have been living together for 2. My daughter’s father has not seen her in almost 4 years (she is 5) so he has essentially been her father this whole time…. which adds to the frustration that we are not engaged yet. With that said, we do talk about spending our lives together & I know it will happen, but I am not a very patient girl. I feel like having a child in the situation makes it a little different. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I’m not a single mom,(technically) but know something? I was talking to my mom recently and she was happily married to my dad for 21yrs before he died and she said the exact same thing, well almost.—> I suppose even in a marriage…nothing is ever 100% certain…

Just because a person is married, doesn’t mean you know what’s going to happen.  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I hope it works out for you and your kids. Yes, maybe he’ll get on the ball soon! I know how THAT is! LOL

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m a single mom too and my SO has two kids (we have none together). We live with my kids full-time and his kids visit. My SO is in the “daddy” role for my youngest because my XH is lame, although she just calls him by his name.

Both my DD5 and SD5 want us to get married and have been badgering me about it. They want to be flower girls, they want a big party, SD wants me to officially be her stepmom. It’s very sweet.

I can understand not wanting to live together before being married. For me, I had done that with my XH and that didn’t work out, so I didn’t think I could consider marriage without living with someone and knowing what they are really like on a 24/7 basis. At first, I did have hesitations due to my children (as did he), but it has worked out well for us. *knock on wood*

We are avctually one of those annoying blended families in that for the most part we get along. We do have TONS of baby-mama drama and that part is hard, but the overall functioning of us as a family unit (we don’t consider baby-mama part of the family) was very natural and easy.

I do want to get married and show my kids that marriage does work and is important. I want them to continue to see that men work hard to help their families, real mean read books and clean up and don’t expect the woman to do it all and so on. Already, I know they have a different view of relationships. My DD5 recently told me, “Mommy, did you know some people get married BEFORE they have kids?” She seemed genuinely surprised (although we were married BEFORE she was borh… XH and I.). I told her that was the way that is SHOULD be, but it wasn’t always that way. *le sigh*

Anyway, I hope that it works out for you and your children. It sounds like you have a keeper! 

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