Post # 1
Bees, forgive me. I did the unthinkable and snooped in my bf’s e-mail to see if there were any details about the ring.
It looks like he’s getting a platinum cathedral solitaire setting, with a 1.4 or 1.5 carat round, F clarity, vs2 ideal diamond. In an e-mail to a friend, he said “she can always change it if she doesn’t like it” (referring to the setting).
I DON’T WANT A SOLITAIRE! I have had my heart set on a round halo for the past year.
Did any of you change your setting after the proposal? Was your fiance completely crushed?
Or, more importantly, did any of you think you wanted something different and then ended up falling in love with your solitaire?
I know I just posted a couple of days ago asking for advice. I hate to be an attention hog, but I am losing my mind over this.
Post # 3
“In an e-mail to a friend, he said “she can always change it if she doesn’t like it” (referring to the setting).”
Isn’t that your answer?
Post # 4
Just have to say, I think the ring he’s getting you will be AMAZING. That diamond sounds out of this world beautiful. I think you’ll love it when he gives it to you and you can always broach the subject of upgrading the setting after the engagment buzz has died down a bit. He might have gotten a simple setting so he could get you a nicer diamond.
Post # 5
@KatyElle: I suppose so, but my concern is that in reality, it would be rude to actually change it.
I just re-read my post and I sound like a spoiled brat. I’m sorry if it came off that way. I just want to make sure I like my ring because I’ve been fantisizing about the ring and proposal for the past two years.
Post # 6
Have you tried on rings? It is amazing how much things can change once you get into trying them on and seeing what it looks like on your finger.
That being said yes I changed my mind quite a bit. I had always wanted a round solataire and years later fell in love with an oval halo.
Post # 7
1) don’t snoop, it’s rude.
2) he said that you can change it, so do it if it makes you happy.
3) i wanted a halo but got a solitaire. he put a lot of thought into it and was really proud of his choice. it may not have been my top choice but i love that it was his and i wouldn’t/didn’t change it.
Post # 8
@elliestan: I know. It was rude. I’ve never done that before and I feel like a big jerk for snooping. This ring stuff is making me nuts.
Post # 9
@SFrunner: Hopefully it won’t actually be a big deal. I have a solitare and I didn’t totally love it at first. But you know, he put a lot of thought into it, picked out an excellent quality stone, and it really is very pretty, so I’m really happy with his choice now.
Post # 10
A lot of guys figure a solitaire is a safe bet because it’s so classic. Luckily it’s very easy to tranfer diamonds into new settings, you could even use the metal from your original setting to make a new one. Though I’d probably give it a few months on your hand before changing it, or maybe save it for an anniversary.
Post # 11
@SFrunner:Back before I even met my husband, I used to dream about having a three stone engagement ring but once the engagement came, I really loved solitaires. In my opinion, solitaires have a classic, timeless look to them and they’re not overly flashy for every day wear.
That being said, it does seem like he’s okay with you changing it once he proposes but like elliestan and elizabeth2004 said, some guys do put a lot of time and effort into choosing a ring and are really proud of their choice so it could hurt his feelings.
Post # 12
@SFrunner: I thought I wanted something different, but ended up falling in love with a solitaire when I tried on rings.
Post # 13
@SFrunner:Did any of you change your setting after the proposal? Was your fiance completely crushed?
No, but he picked my ring based on what I told him and it was a huge step and purchase for him, so he didnt like the idea of changing anything about it. But if your guy is ok with it, then go for it! Make sure you try your ring with wedding bands too… you may find that you love the solitaire + diamond band look and maybe with halo is too much (if there’s such a thing).
Post # 14
My Fiance left his order confirmation up on his computer for my e-ring so I saw it when I went to use his computer (because mine was broken)….I love halos too, he hates them. The ring he picked out wasn’t a solitaire or a halo…it’s hard to describe, but it is a very unique setting. When I first saw the order confirmation I hated the ring. I was really excited that he actually bought one, but I did NOT like the ring. He didn’t propose for a while, apparently the ring took a while to be made as it was a semi custom ring. By the time he proposed I had warmed up to the ring. When I saw the ring in person it was love at first sight. So you never know, maybe you will love it once you see it on your finger.
And btw, that IS an amazing diamond that probably doesn’t need a halo at all.
Post # 15
Sounds like you are getting an amazing diamond!! One of the benefits of a solitare is you have a lot of fun band options.
Don’t stress it, when he gives it to you, you may end up just loving it. If not, it sounds like he is open to putting the diamond in a different setting.
Post # 16
I was engaged before and I had a fancy ring and when I got engaged this time around I went straight for the fancy rings again but tried on solitaires as well… turns out I liked the solitaire more!
I do like halos too so I picked out a lovely halo right hand ring for my birthday!
Anyway I went from this to this… and I never thought I’d like something so plain but I love it more than anything!!