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Your dress is beautiful on you!
First you should have someone scoop your skin from the middle to under your armpit to smooth and adjust it. This helps alot!
Second, you need to teach your partner how to cover that area in photos. A gently placed hand right where skin meets dress covers any remaining back fat in photos.
I have to run, but when I find some examples I'll post them. It's like back fat never existed!
hmm.. i was thinking maybe you could wear like a shawl or something, but that could get annoying and plus your dress is beautiful so why cover it up?
are you wearing a corset bra thing underneath the dress in the pic? they sell those and maybe if you wear one of those to hold yourself up (are you talking about boob-wise?) then you can end up being able to wear the dress a little looser.
i'm looking for solutions online so when i find some ideas i will post! but that was just a random thought.
as Mrs. DG said try pullingthedress up in the back... i am a victim of this too... always make sure whoever is helping u get dresses puts as much of this "in" te ss as possible before lacing it up
I agree, Im sure the ladies at the dressshop didnt take these precautions.
I would experiment with putting as much of the tension of the dress in the lower part as possible. You may want to have hooks installed at the exact tightness that allows you to leave the top part slightly looser. All of the tension to keep it up should not be up at the top, it should be evenly distributed throughout the corset.
I agree w/ mrs. dg. Did you try tucking it into the dress? If the dress was pulled up just a bit and the "back fat" was tucked in, I think that would help a ton. Also make sure you talk to your photog about your insecurity in this one area. Honestly I wouldn't have thought much at all if I'd just seen the photo so it might not occur to him/her if you dont mention that you're uncomfortable with that area. Honestly I think the only times other than pics that people would see that area are when you are walking down the aisle (are you wearing a veil? that'll cover it!) and when you're doing your first dance, but you can when you're moving around so much you really wont be able to see. I guess the point is..... I really don't think its a big deal :)
Readjust your "skin" in the dress. That will help. You jsut have to kind push stuff around haha
Also...look into a new bra. I cannot remember where I saw this. But I was reading something the other week and it was showing larger ladies and bras. It was like one of those articles about bras and how to fix body issues. I think there was a bra that was wrong and kinda created arm pit fat...but using a different bra made everything sit in a different way...thus no armpit fat
So try readjusting
Look for a bra that may help and if all else fails wear a shawl of you feel really insecure
Or....why not one of those awesome bolleros that we see everywhere? Maybe a little cover up like that would go really nice with the dress and would make you feel not so self counsious
One side note...I notice that pics tend to be kinda bad during the ceremony. You are standing with your side to everyone...and then you are holding his hand. This can lead to some unflattering looks..especailly with the arms and the back. Make sure to test this out in the mirror. Stand to the side and put your arm out...and see what happens. Just a tip...I always get sad when I see girls who look awesome and have these great dresses...but because of the way he have to stand during the wedding...sometimes we don't look the best in our pictures
No worries, it just needs to get tucked in. It will make a huge difference. It's beautiful by the way!
Wow! I came back to all these great suggestions... thanks, girls! :-)
@ MsDG: I rememeber reading your post (on B.F.) about having your groom hold his arm strategically over that area... I love that idea & have already talked a to FI about this. We'll definitely do that where we can. During the fitting I was with mom and asked here to "tuck" the fat in for me, (also from your post), but the dress was laced and I think her attempt was a little half hearted... I didn't want to continue giving her a "back fat stuffing lesson" in the bridal salon in front of everyone so I dropped it. I just now assigned the job of "B.F. stuffer" to one BM via e-mail & sent her this link so we can study the "how tos". I would also love to see the pictures you mentioned! :-)
@Bloodgo: My other BM is actually making a wrap shawl (from the BM's dress material) to wear at the reception so I will probably use that whenever I can but I know that is only an option for some of the time. I'm not wearing anything like a corset under the dress because I was afraid it would add too much bulk underneath the dress but I see your point... if it's pinched in there... it wont look so bulky where the dress is! I'm just not sure where to find one like that...
@Future & Heaven: I was just telling MsDG that we tried stuffing it in there after lacing it up but I like the idea of doing it while lacing it up... when my mother did try she had no idea of what I was talking about & didn't really try the way we'll need to.
@monitajb: We're neighbors! :-) When we laced up I asked to have it tightened a lot at the base and not as much at the top because I was a little worried about front spillage... but the back is what looked bad. I'll need to insist the next time we lace up! I see what you mean about hooks so I can predetermine how tight I want certain parts of the corset! I googled corset hooks but I'm only finding hook & eye clasps. Where can I get the ones youre talking about?
@Corgi... I didn't even think about giving the photographer a heads up but that's a great idea! I'll talk to my photographer about this & maybe he can help me out as he shoots!
@Sprague: I will be wearing a wrap for part of the reception so that should help but I really liked reading your "side note"... I didn't even think about that! I wasn't as fond of how I looked from the side in my dress either but didn't think about the back and side being what everyone will be looking at for the ceremony...ugh! I will definitely work on some practice poses!
Thanks, girls! Any ideas where I can get a corset (that wont add too much bulk) for underneath the dress and will it be okay to add one now if I didn't wear it for my first fitting?
Are you wearing a bra underneath it? Longline "bridal bras" push everything up and give reallly bad back fat :o( with a corset you don't need the bra to suck you in so I'd say ditch the longline corset type bra and just go with cups or a traditional strapless!
It is a gorgeous gorgeous dress!
Thanks, sugarplum. That was without a longline bra or corset underneath. I don't think I will use more than a stick-on bra since the dress seems to keep me tucked in
I think I'm going to count on tucking it in (BM is up for the challenge), keeping up with my exercise routine or shreding & walking, and praying :-)
Anyone has any other ideas, let me know :-) Thanks, Bees!
You look absolutely beautiful in that dress!!! I am 'thin' size 2/4 and still squeeze out 'skin' in that area with my strapless dress, it has to be tight not to fall down!
I would say listen to DG's advice and also try to have good posture all night. Make your photog aware you are avoiding pix of that area and I'm sure it will be fine! I am trying to avoid pix of my butt, especially from below so I will be doing the same thing!
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Ugh, this is embarrassing...
So last weekend I went back home to have my first dress fitting. I absolutely love the way the dress looks on me - from the front.
Not from the back. Unfortunately, I definitely am sporting the dreaded back fat! I tried to not have the corset tightened so much but I need the dress to stay up! I have been reading other "back fat" topics on the board and have found some good suggestions but am not sure if I am doing all I can do to at least tone down this problem.
Walking, 30 day shred, being vigilant about what I eat... but our wedding is right around the corner and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do in addition to this.
Are there any undergarments for this style of dress that can help, specific exercises, dress tape, body wrap? I didn't realize how bad it looked until I actually saw it in pictures :-(
Here is the dress from the front... no real problems with "spillage"...
Any ideas?