Post # 1
Maybe I’m thinking too much into this but I’ve like a creative way to honor deceased family and friends at our wedding. I don’t want it to be some big depressing thing but I don’t want some little note on the tables either. I just want something guests can walk by and take a moment to remember/pay respects to those who are so dearly love but could not physically be with us on our big day.
I’ve seen a candle display at the doorway of churchs and pictures of the deceased on a special table but although they are sweet, neither of those ideas appeal to me personally. Unfortunately I’m just drawing blanks on this.
Post # 3
My experience…less is more, make a dedication in the program and seriously that is all I would do. Toasts and talks really run the risk of putting a damper on EVERYTHING. Its your day and anyone that loved you would want that to be the case
Post # 4
If you are doing a unity candle what we did might work for you. We had a small flat bowl with white flowers and a white pillar candle in the center. It sat on the altar next to the unity candle and our mothers used its flame to light their candles for the unity candle ceremony. It was really sweet, like our grandparents who had passed were a part of the ceremony. I’ve also heard of brides pinning small photos of passed loved ones onto the stems of their bouquets. I’ve always thought that was a neat idea.
Post # 5
I’ve seen picture frames that contained poems and cnadles.
FI’s mom has passed and we are getting married in her garden to honor and remember her.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Dedication in the program
Post # 7
We did the program dedication, too. I also took two necklaces from my deceased grandmother and great-grandmother and wrapped them around my bouquet to carry with me. It was special, but more private for me.
Post # 8
You could also leave a seat empty with flowers on it. I wouldn’t point it out, but just knowing it’s there might be nice.
We are putting a short line in the program. We are also doing several things that most people won’t even notice or understand.
We are using a pinata as a card box because FI’s grandma always brought a pinata to family celebrations. We are using a cross-stich pillow that my grandma made for the ring bearers pillow. I’m doing a lot of DIY with yarn – my grandma was very crafty and did a lot of knitting and crochet. Fiance is wearing his grandfather’s cuff links. I’ll have bouquet charms of pictures of my grandparents. We are giving our moms mini bouquets with charms of their wedding date and their parents wedding dates.
So hopefully it will feel like they are there without having a somber memorial candle or table with pictures.
Post # 9
We’re debating about doing a separate little table that just has a larger memorial candle (used to light the individual candles that will light the unity candle) with a small votive for each person dear to us. Then it’s just a lovely table full of candles, but those that would like can take a moment there to remember their friends/loved ones.
Another idea that my aunt said they often do in the military is to have a small, separate table at the reception with a place setting and a candle and just a simple note about all of those who couldn’t be with us today and those who have gone before us. Simple, not busy, not a list of people (we have like 13+), and very classy.
Post # 10
Between the two of us, Fiance and I unfortunately have several close family members that we have lost over the past few years. For us personally, we want more than a dedication in the program so here’s what we’re doing…
We have a table that belonged to FI’s uncle that currently sits in our living room. It’s rustic, ties into our wedding look, and is very sentimental since it’s hand made. We’re going to put pictures of those we want to remember on that table along with a stack of cards and a box of some sort. The idea is that people can walk by and look at the pictures and if they wish, they can write a memory or thought about them and tuck it in the box. We plan to keep the memory cards private between the guests and ourselves so we’ll be the only ones to read them. We are not planningon announcing the table or bringing attention to it. It will be just be there and guests will be able to choose how much they participate.
We’re hoping that this will be a good way for our families to remember those that are no longer with us and that it will also be a gift to us that we can go back and read all those beautiful cards whenever we want.
Post # 11
I’ve lost both grandparents, Fiance has lost his brother and sister.
We are putting pictures of them on a table at the reception and putting four white roses on empty chairs symbolizing where they would be sitting during the ceremony. The roses will be brought into the reception hall after the ceremony and placed on the table with the pictures.
I’m also carrying charms representing them in my bouquet.
Post # 12
Thanks for all the suggestions. You guys have been great.
@MichiganBride2012: I particularly like your bouquet charms idea. I don’t have anything of my grandmothers. Most of her stuff was lost in a house fire after her death or was hoarded by greedy relatives. I did have a pair of diamond and pearl drop earrings but my Fiance and I were mugged last year and they took the earrings which absolutely broke my heart.
My grandma was especially important to me as she played a major role in my upbringing so I think the charm idea is a little more personal without being too depressing.
Post # 13
Both of my parents are deceased, so my Fiance and I are doing a vase full of flowers…… dont want to damper the mood but still want to recognize them.
Post # 14
Just a suggestion…I’m doing something to honour our grandparents who passed. We are going to have a memory table at the front of the Reception hall. We’ll have memory candles with photos of our loved ones who passed.
Post # 15
We aren’t doing anything for our loved ones who have passed, but along with the wedding favors I am doing up a donation from each guest to MISS (Pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness) as my firstborn was stillborn (although his dad wasn’t my Fiance, he is still a big part of ME) and that’s my way to incorporate him into my wedding, as my living two children are going to be part of my wedding.
Post # 16
Wearing a bracelet or necklace locket with a photo inside might be an idea. That way they are “by your side” the whole way through.