Post # 1
Any brides or soon to be brides out there with a lot of tattoos that would show during your big day? FI and I have a lot of tattoos that show and my mom has always made me feel bad about my artwork. I dont regret any of my tattoos but she keeps making comments and asking me if I would feel like a “trashy” bride because of them. :[ My tattoos are nice and beautiful..not trashy….
I dont feel that way but I just wish she would stop with making me feel like the devil is getting married. The other day she asked me if I would be offended if she photoshoped my tattoos out of my wedding pictures, I lost it then and we got in this huge argumant. She said she wants me to look like a “pure” bride… -_-
Anyone else who has been through this? Or going through this??
Post # 3
i dont have LOTS but i have 2 that are big enough to really stand out..one on my back and arm…my mom says the same stuff and even asked me to get a dress that covers the back one..says ill look trashy….i honestly just ignore it…the one on my arm is for when my dad died and the one on my back represents my fiance and how he helped during that time..so both are important and i have no problem showing them
Post # 4
I only have 6 tats. I will be delibrately showcasing two of them on the big day. I really do not care if others approve of them or not. The “pure bride” comment actually made me giggle. It is no longer the 1950s!
Post # 5
I have a lot of tattoos as well, full sleeves on both arms, most of my back, feet, thighs, so forth. My mother is the same way. She got asked nicely to shut up about it and hasn’t mentioned it to me since. You won’t look trashy, you will look like you.
You don’t want your wedding pictures to look like someone else, your art is part of you. If she can’t understand that then I would just flat out tell her you are done hearing about it, that they stay in the pictures. Conversation over.
Post # 6
@eeerika22: i don’t have a single tattoo… but FI has 1/2 sleeves on both arms (so sexy!). Anyways- I think a tattooed bride/bridesmaid is the coolest thing! It makes the whole aura of the wedding seem so unique and personal. Us bare armed girls could be anyone- but you are the only one with the art you wear. Own it girllllll (ps- i’m an Erica! Best name evaaahh)
Post # 7
Don’t let her make you feel bad or ashamed! Just go on Pinterest and search “Tattooed bride”
I think a bride with visible tattoos is actually beautiful and elegant! It’s a favorite look of mine.
Post # 8
@trueblue14: lol I agree! Today are different times I just wish my mom would realize that.
@iiiEllie: Thanks for your advice! I think my FI is on the verge of “nicely” telling her to “shut up” about it, he gets so mad when she makes those comments.
@theEguarantee: awww thank you! I feel the same way and my tattoos do make me who I am. I just wish people would stop associating tattoos as a bad thing or that the people who wear them are bad. I know eventually she will get over it but I dont think she realizes how bad her mouth is or how she is offending me and FI. People without tattoos are also beautiful :] P.S the Erica and Erika club is awesome! 😀
@FutureWifeyV: thank you!! I also think tattooed brides and people are beautiful. Its just another way to express yourself and make you more into the person you want to be or showcase the person that you are.
@SaugaBride: Thank you for the advice! My tattoos have deep meaning to them as well. I also have one for FI and I :] If they werent in my wedding pictures I wouldnt feel like it was OUR wedding because thats not who we are. I can’t believe my mom doesnt see that.
Post # 9
@eeerika22: I am a tattood bride, my tattoo is a part of my skin I saw no reason to hide it. 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
@eeerika22: oh man, sorry your mom has said that.
It’s her issue to deal with, not yours! There are plenty of tattooed brides out there, and they look just as beautiful as tattooless bride.
I have 3 and will have at least 5 by the time I get married. I am proud of my tattoos.
Post # 11
@eeerika22: I don’t have alot at the moment- a few ideas for new ones but that costs $$… I’ve got one on my neck/back, one on each wrist, one on my hip, and one on my upper thigh. Obviously half of these would be covered in pretty much any dress because of the location, but I didn’t stress the ones that were left out. I love my tattoos and I love pictures of brides owning it in their gorgeous dress. My grandmother is very traditional and hates tattoo’s but thankfully didn’t say anything about them until she saw my new hubby (who had gotten at least 2 large pieces since she last saw him) and even then she just told him not to get anymore ever LOL. He’s up to 6 maybe 7 now I think?
Here’s some of our pics with the tattoo’s- I love the way they all came out & our photographer loved them too!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
How rude! I am a tattooed bride, and although I don’t think his mom was pleased with it at first, its me!
Post # 13
@MrsHoneyC: You looked beautiful!!
@BeckyS0: I love your pics with your tattoos! You look stunning and they deff make you who you are! I esp love the one with you and your husband showing your tattoos together, so sweet. :]
@whoa_its_ash: You’re a beautiful tattooed bride as well! Seeing your pictures and the other tattooed bride pictures has lifted my spirits and made me excited to showcase my artwork on my big day :] thank you!!
Post # 14
@eeerika22: I don’t have any tattoos (too chicken : /). I do hate that your mother is trying to shame you like this, even going so far as to ask you if it’s ok to photoshop out your tatts. That’s beyond the pale and unacceptable. She KNOWS she’s hurting you with this. It may be time to have a one-sided discussion with her so she understands that the tatts stay and no further discussion about it will be entertained by you. Full stop.
Ugh. Hate stuff like this. 🙁
Post # 15
@eeerika22: i have one large tattoo on my back that will be showing, and i am completing a quarter sleeve next month…which will show as well. i see them as part of me and my story (as we all do i’m sure!)…my mom has been judgy about everything from the dress i chose (i’m a curvy girl wearing a mermaid dress and she told me i looked fat!) to our venue (its a large log cabin in a state park) to my tattoos making me look trashy and cheap. i love her dearly, but the judgement had to stop after a very long fight with a lot of yelling and tears…and she’s finally figured out that she needed to just be quiet, or she might not be there to see me get married at all. she’s coming around…slowly. its so hard. i love tattoos and think they are so beautiful.
Post # 16
@eeerika22: It sounds like your Mum doesn’t understand what your tattoos mean to you personally. I don’t think she’s intentionally trying to hurt you honestly. She probably just sees them as a “blemish” on your overall appearance.