Post # 1
As both my FI and I are mature students, working as much as possible to just keep financially afloat these days, our wedding will be quite small (30 people), the ceremony in some city gardens and a cake and champagne reception to follow at a community art gallery. I guess I feel that the white gowns I have looked at will be too much for the small scale of the wedding. But maybe I want understated so that I don’t have to be the center of attention too much and just kind of blend in with everyone else (this is definitely an ongoing issue for me that I need to work on!)
I have found some beautiful print dresses that I love and would wear again but I’m worried that then I won’t really look good as a bride. Also, the colours might be too much and interfere with the bouquet. I would love to just buy something I will wear again but then am I detracting from the specialness/momentousness of the event?
Also, my FI says he thinks I should buy something nice (like even designer) that I would wear again, out on the town etc. I like the idea but I still run the risk of feeling like I’m kind of punking out on being visibly “the bride”.
Post # 3
I think you should go ahead with WHATEVER you want to wear as a bride. Who cares if it’s off the beaten track. That’ll be something that makes your wedding memorable to you and your guests.
As far as clashing with the bouquet – why not pick low key flowers with not so much colour…White roses or daisies?
Post # 4
It sounds like there is a part of you that wants to wear a wedding dress. I say go with your gut…If you think you might regret not wearing white than go for the “wedding” dress. It doesn’t have to be a ball gown…you can do understated white dress.
Post # 5
I agree, you should wear what you feel comfortable in. If you get a print dress, I would get a solid color bouquet with one of the colors of the dress in it. For your hair you could wear a birdcage veil, a shorter veil, or a fascinator, or just a flower. <— these I would wear in the same color as your bouquet or possibly pick another color in your dress.
I think that done right, you could pull it off.
PS: We are a mature couple and having only 50 guests at our wedding and I am wearing a full ballgown in white.
Post # 6
Ultimately you have to buy something you feel amazing in! Just because you are having a semi formal wedding I think you can still find a really beautiful cocktail length gown thats both understated but still makes the point that you are the bride. I think white/ivory/blush pink would be really pretty. You are going to be the center of attention regardless and you might be sad later on that you didn’t get to have the whole “bride” experience. But like I said just wear something you feel great in! Also Sarah Jessica Parker says that her biggest fashion regret is not wearing white to her wedding 🙂 (although she did choose BLACK so..)
Post # 7
Those are amazing ideas! Very helpful. Thank you so much.
Post # 8
I’m actually feeling excited and much more inspired now about dressing up! 🙂
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Post # 10
personally i would want to wear white just for that bridal feeling- i think knowing you can only wear it once adds to that specialness! but just for the record, one of my friends always says the most beautiful wedding dress she ever saw was JET BLACK!!!! so really it just depends how it makes you feel- and if it makes you feel beautiful then go for it! 🙂
Post # 11
ivory or blush pink are nice