Post # 1
I was just watching episodes od four brides on tlc last night, and I am getting married in 3 weeks!! I am a worrywart, control freak, over analyzer type of person and i am afraid that stress and anxiety and nervousness will show up on my face on the day of the wedding.
on the four weddings show, 2 brides had mini meltdowns becuase of minor issues (flowers not arriving on time and something else) and i just dont want to be that bride who cries over a wilted flower or something like that! i am trying to remember what the day is really all about and think of me and FI being whisked away to our honeymoon the next morning and breathing techniques (i suffer from panic attacks too!)
so i was just wondering if any brides out there have any tips on how they destressed on the big day because i am afraid that i will overreact if something doesnt go perfectly?
Post # 3
@triplemtobe:hi! as a 10/9 bride as well….i am not as much of a worrier as you say you are but certainly have my moments about the anxiety and the tears…i’m a crier! i am so beyond excited that i can’t wait for it to intensify even more….this is my first wedding and my last so i’m eating every single moment up! are you ready? are there details you haven’t finished?
my advice? think happy thoughts. don’t worry about what will go wrong. think about what it all means and BELIEVE that nothing else matters but what you are there to do…MARRY THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE!
1 more tip….go buy Dr. Bach’s Rescue Remedy…all natural (whole foods) that you can use as frequently as you wish and it really works to destress you! i carry it around all the time!
Congrats and Breathe!!!
Post # 4
I think you already have a good attitude about it. Just do what you said, remember why you’re getting married, and know that it’s not b/c you get to hold a pretty bouquet! As long as you’re married, nothing else should matter. Also, maybe you could do something that morning to relax. Get a massage!
Post # 5
Just remind yourself nothing matters except marrying the love of your life. My officiant was 45 minutes late, never apologized to me, and I missed a lot of pictures I wanted. I care about the pictures, but I’m getting over it. As far as the officiant, well, she finally showed up and we got married. So, in the end, I married the man of my dreams and that’s all I care about.
Post # 6
thanks! yea i am a crier now too i want to hold it together for the ceremony but i cannot even listen to canon in d without tearing up! lol but im not going to hold back those emotions because those are happy tears!
my FI has been really supportive in reminding me not to freak over things i cannot control (ie weather, people being late) he is the epitome of calm and level headed and i think im going to have a mantra or something i say to myself to remind myself of how lucky of a girl i am to be marrying my dream boy! and of course my BMs will be there to keep me calm cool and collected haha
Post # 7
A good attitude is very important. Telling yourself that you’re going to be happy and that you can be happy no matter what little things happen will help guarantee your success! It sounds cheesy but it works.
sad story: I went to a wedding where the bride did not smile ALL DAY! She wouldn’t smile at all. Turns out she had an argument w/her mom that morning about the placement of her veil – and it ruined her entire day! She could not get over it. She even told me she was bored at one point during the reception. Don’t let this happen to you!
make it a happy day, tell yourself and prep yourself to have a happy day!
Post # 8
just as you said, keep focused on the main event: getting married to the person you love. this helped me immensly, but i did have a bit of a meltdown which was quite embarassing for me since it happed right in front of my future mother and grandmother in-law. it didn’t help that this was a completely diy affair, so lots of stress and too many things to do. still, breathing is good. take 5 minutes in a dark, quiet room and just picture seeing your man (or woman) for the first time. focusing helped me, hopefully you too!
Post # 9
I heard doing a relaxing activity to start your day is a good thing… like take a morning yoga class with your bridal party to set the tone for the day. and surround yourself with positive people and be sure to have delegated a point of contact for your vendors that is not you. let someone else handle that responsibility.