Post # 1
The title says it all… our officiant won’t be attending our wedding rehearsal, and I was hoping some bees out there who were in the same position could offer some advice. I think I’m mostly worried that no one will take it seriously without some authority figure there to run it and direct everyone.
Post # 3
@mvg120: I was in a wedding once where the banquet coordinator at the ceremony/reception site coordinated it. But at our wedding, we are in the same boat as you. I typed up the order of procession and recession which I will be handing out to all involved, and I will just have everyone walk through it once or twice. They will shut up and take it seriously or I will scream and then no one will be happy lol. All of our friends are married or have been in other weddings, so they understand the process. Just have to get the logistics down at our particular ceremony site. Don’t stress this, every usually takes the bride seriously 😉 Good luck!
Post # 4
Do you have someone who will be the MC at the reception? Would that person agree to be the voice of authority at the rehearsal?
Post # 5
Our pastor wasn’t at our rehearsal. He had an event at another church that day. Who are you having in your wedding party? A bunch of errant children who have a hard time paying attention or a bunch of responsible adults who take this event seriously?
I didn’t think that adults needed an authority figure to keep them in line….
Post # 6
Why isn’t your officiant attending your rehearsal? I don’t think I’ve actually never seen a wedding rehearsal without an officiant, and I’m just wondering how beneficial having a rehearsal will be if your officiant isn’t able to attend. I would be concerned that everything would be different the day of the wedding.
Post # 7
@Brielle: I can tell you my officiant won’t be at the rehearsal because he lives 2 hours away and it would have cost us $300 extra. No thanks. The officiant knows his role, he stands at the front and waits for everyone else to get there. It’s the bridal party that needs to find out the order of operations. Who walks with who, who stands where, etc.
Post # 8
@AirForceWife78: Oh, OK. Thanks for the explanation. That certainly makes sense under those circumstances! 🙂
Post # 9
Our officiant will be there, but it’s a friend of ours who obviously has no experience so probably won’t be a good voice of authority. Our DOC will be at our rehersal to make sure everything goes smoothly.
Post # 10
@AirForceWife78: Good advice about typing up the order of everything, I’ll have to add that to the to-do list!
@DJones69: I’m not expecting them to run around screaming and pulling each other’s hair. I AM expecting them to be a little more interested in catching up with each other and just hanging out than practicing walking in a straight line. My FI and I are both too soft-spoken to tell people to focus, which is why I want someone there to do that for us.
@StL.Ashley:, @julies1949: Great ideas! We don’t have a DOC, but our MC is a family friend who will be at the rehearsal, so maybe he can help lead things.
@Brielle: Pretty much the same reasons as Airforcewife78, she lives an hour and a half away and we’d have to pay her to be there, which I understand, but we figured it was an unneccesary expense.