Any traditional brides with non-traditional grooms?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@HonoraryNerd:  Well, it seems like you are getting a lot of what you want (traditional wedding with a reception that features music your family likes) and not really compromising on much else. I’m not surprised your FI is less than enthusiastic about it. 

Post # 5
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301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This is tough. I’m not sure that an equal compromise is possible. You want a traditional, formal wedding, he wants an informal ceremony with no reception. Without knowing what you’ve discussed previously, I would suggest pausing and having a heart to heart about how each of you want to get married, what it means to you, and what you’re willing to do with regard to the wedding to make the other person happy. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Ha! I will also end up playing Enter Sandman *hugs*. I’m a black Dior Diva and he’s a white scruffy looking metal head. Girl, I feel ya! Try to remind him that while the day is about the two of you as hosts its imortant to try to make an atmosphere of enjoyment for EVERYONE. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

@HonoraryNerd:  

Could you do like a Jim and Pam thing and sneak away and have a secret ceremony just for you two and then have the traditional wedding and reception and maybe not tell people? Or is he just 100% against a reception? That will be hard to compromise on…

You could start to incorporate some of his hobbies or interests into the reception, like small elements that involve his life to get him excited. Maybe he’s a gamer or loves LOTR and you could get a personalized cake topper or something to start getting him more excited and involved. Have you asked what kind of music he would like? 

What about letting him pick the venue? Maybe something a bit more rustic or casual?

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