Post # 1
I keep seeing a lot of threads with overly-controlling MILs, distant and rude siblings etc, but from what I can tell most if not all of these seem to be US-based bees, so I’m just wondering if any UK or non-US bees have experienced crazy in-laws?!
For my part, my BF’s brother has a habit of making extremely racially insensitive comments (I am British but ethnically Indian) to the point where BF has had to tell him point blank to stop because he’s just being rude. I don’t think he’s genuinely racist just ignorant (which is still no excuse!)
Chip in with your crazy family stories please! (US and interntional bees feel free to comment too!)
Post # 2
This is awful. Even if it’s meant as a joke I still can’t believe in this day and age people are still racist. I’ve not experienced any of this in my family, my BIL is married to a Turkish lady who is lovely!
Post # 3
Ah… British casual racism. I take it you’re dealing with the working class, robust jabs at your background (which are usually based on ignorance more than actual jingoism), as opposed to the much nastier, middle class, passive aggressive snipes?
Having worked in a few working class, male dominated jobs, where casual sexism was the order of the day, the only solution to this that I’ve found is to respond with a good bit of banter and a fast wit. Even if the comments directed at you sting, a witty response will usually get the better of the speaker… if it’s a witty response at the speaker’s expense, so much the better! The “salt of the earth” types will respect you more for it… honestly…. especially if you are able to reel off an intelligent and amusing reply right off the cuff.
Post # 4
Oh dear, crazy in-laws are an international phenomenon.
I’m from Greece. My ILs are not that bad, but sometimes they say things I would never DREAM of saying to another person. For example, they know my parents are divorced, and still my FIL often says in front of me that people who divorce are “crazy” and “leave their children for a fling”, which is ignorant,rude, and far from the truth. He also asked if my father died from drinking or smoking too much. Like people only die because they deserve it. My father died from leukemia.
My MIL is generally less rude, but has told me twice my hair is oily. Once, after a very long plane journey,from which she knew we had just landed. The other time, they were not oily,just wet because I had just showered (in her summer home after going swimming at the sea). I told her so, and she went “oh okay. They just look oily”