Any women with momma issues?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you have momma issues?
    Yes : (50 votes)
    69 %
    No : (22 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Me. And it definitely feels like I’m in the minority. Most of my friends have great relationships with their mothers and daddy issues. But you know what? My dad is easily one of the best people I know and I wouldn’t trade him for anything.

    Post # 4
    Member
    205 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    God yes. My dad and I had issues, but I feel so lucky that we were able to talk them out and resolve them before he died. We were very close. My mother and I… Well, it’s a love/hate thing. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Yes, I have very little patience for my mother.  She means well but she is overbearing and we are just not on the same wavelength.  She downplays things that I think are important and harps on trivialities.  I generally avoid sharing things with her because she is so terrible at listening and she just wants to talk over me.  When she is being overbearing it is under the guise of “just trying to help”.  It’s been like this my whole life and it makes me feel guilty because she means well but I just have zero patience for her.  I don’t think she likes my actual personality, so she sort of ignores it and acts like I haven’t said things that don’t mesh with her preferred concept of me.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My parents got divorced.  My dad left her for the other woman, and he doesnt spend much time with me.  Basically he wants “photo ops” like graduation and stuff.  My mom doesnt have so much money, but she does the best she can.

    Post # 8
    Member
    663 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    This is interesting because I always hear the opposite. That mothers and daughters have very difficult relationships and of all my friends, if they have problems with a parent it is their mother. I have some friends that have “daddy issues” in that their dad’s were not involved and seek attention from any man that will give it which is very hard as well.

    but back to your question, my parents are divorced but my dad had always been there for me even though my mom had sole custody and my mother is incapable of showing up physically or emotionally for me. I had gotten to a point of acceptance and peace with it but when we got engaged I had a hard time with it again. Everyone assumes that moms involved and it hurts that she’s not. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    266 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @ElbieKay:  Do we have the same mother? LOL…you just described me and my mom to a T. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    234 posts
    Helper bee

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  Me and all my roommates all have mom issues. I really don’t understand people with good relationships with their mothers, or even family because I don’t see it often. I think its sad.

    Post # 11
    Member
    106 posts
    Blushing bee

    I have helicopter parents, and while my mom receives credit for being involved, too often she has used her nurturing role to manipulate me. I’ve undergone a lot of emotionally abuse. She has, at times, been physically and verbally aggressive while expecting gratitude for “how much she cares”. Basically, she’s a fucking nightmare and if I ever need to plan a wedding I’ll probably have to sedate her with Ketamine.

    Post # 15
    Member
    234 posts
    Helper bee

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  I was going to add this but I didn’t know if you wanted to take the thread that way, haha. But my family is a main reason that I’m almost 100% certain I will get eloped in the future. I’m not engaged, but I don’t want my family involved at all with my wedding.

    It will be like Jim and Pam from the office probably, because MIL and my step mom would probably throw a fit if we had nothing for them. (LOL whats with all the crazy women) 

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