Any young waiting bees out there ?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

That doesn’t sound ridiculous at all, it sounds like you two are in an ideal stable situation, perfect for engagement 🙂 FI and I were both 21 going on 22 when we got engaged, and I was waiting for about 3 months before we got engaged, he was working full time I was studying and working part time, so planned on a long engagement until we had more of a stable living and financial situation. So I see nothing wrong with being engaged young 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Golf Course

@lucy_smith:  Also young and waiting. Currently 22, boyfriend is 24. We’re going looking at sparklies tomorrow! Good luck to you guys!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

This all sounds so exciting!  

Mr and I are both 22 – we’ve been together for 5 years and got together in high school (sixth form) so engagement hasn’t been on our minds since we got our first home together 18 months ago.  

Now happily (read: angst-ily) waiting :p

Good luck with your talk.  I’m considering one in a little while x

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you are a Responsible Adult over 18, and have a long track record of dating then there is nothing wrong with getting engaged, IMO.

You are beyond that for sure… early 20s and both have jobs, and are saving for a House is impressive.

So I don’t see anything wrong with getting Engaged… you can if you like put off Marriage for awhile longer if you like (an Average Engagement is about a year… but there are lots of Bees on WBee who have 18 month, 2 or 3 year Engagements)

The important thing in this whole equation is being Responsible… figuring out WHERE you want to end up, and how to get there.  And that goes doubly so for buying or building a home… make sure you have a Plan and have paperwork in place to protect yourself… it doesn’t matter if you are Living Together or Married for 50 Years… things can happen that could effect that investment and your life.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@lucy_smith:  I was more keen to start with, but we both knew early on in our relationship that we were right for each other, so marriage was on the cards for both of us early on, he originally wasn’t sure about when we would get engaged but after talking about it we decided we were ready, made a ‘timeline’ and he proposed a couple of months later 🙂 We did discuss it a fair bit.

We have discussed kids, we both want two, originally I wanted them young, but now I am not so sure. Plus we both want to be able to provide for them before we have them, and our financial stability is nonexistant right now. And I am not as eager about having kids as I used to be haha. Disneyland in summer holidays with misbehaving kids everywhere = lower maternal drive lol.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

we’re both just turned 23 and I think I’ve been waiting for a year or so (together for 5 1/2, lived together for just over 3), I think we’re looking at an engagement within the next couple of months (ring is chosen) from his hints anyway. 🙂

SO and I aren’t very keen on having children yet, we’re both very happy currently with it just being the two of us. we plan to get married and have a house and do some other things and look at having kids closer to 30.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@lucy_smith:  we were pretty open with conversation on the topic, I don’t really remember how we opened talks about it, natural progress I guess? I know I’ve pushed it more than my SO would have liked though. I’m really excited but more importantly, we’re both excited about our future engagement/wedding/marriage. 🙂

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ll be 21 in April, SO just turned 28 in November! Together 2 years next week and having a 2014 proposal, probably late summer/early fall 🙂

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@lucy_smith:  As long as you are both on board with the discussion and it doesn’t happen all the time it’s not pressuring him at all 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Golf Course

@lucy_smith:  We have discussed marriage for a couple years now, but much more seriously since his brother got married in August of 12. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We’re about to turn 24 an have been together for just under 8 years. From recent talks (especially last night) I have less than 3 months to wait now! We have discussed marriage a lot over the last two years. We wanted to get Uni finished, now we both have jobs and have lived together for 5 months we can get cracking on the next exciting bit 🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m 24 and I’ve always wanted to get married young so I’m starting to feel old haha. I’m in my fourth year of teaching so I think I actually feel like an adult now. My SO is 30 so I’m a bit younger. We should be getting engaged within the next few months I think. 

 

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