Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY
- FI and I live in his hometown which is 180 miles from my parents and half of my bridal party.
- I’ve only dress shopped once, with my three “local” bridesmaids, all of whom have very conflicting taste. It was fun, but I wasn’t as comfortable as I could be.
- FI has always had good taste when picking out my clothes. Anything he’s ever bought me are clothes I’ve been complimented on the most.
- FI’s opinion of my dress (along with my own) is the only one I care about.
- FI is paying for the dress.
All that said, I am planning on bringing him with my to my next dress appointments after Christmas.
Is this really a bad thing to do? We are doing most other things traditional… but this is just not something that is all that important to me (that he doesn’t see my dress until the wedding)
Am I alone here?
Post # 3
My husband went with me. I see nothing wrong with it.
Post # 4
If it’s not important to you to keep the decision a secret, bring him!
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
If you have no problem with it, go for it. My FI was deployed so I went with my mother and niece since they were visiting me. If he had been home, I wouldn’t let him come…just because I have always wanted him to see the dress for the first time at the wedding. Everyone has their preferences, just have fun with it!
Post # 6
Bring him along! Just make sure you take his advice with a grain of salt. I showed FI some photos of me in dresses and he just liked the tight/clevage showing ones! Hehe!
Post # 7
I’ll be bringing mine along. The most important piece of advice I’ve learned from asking a similar question here is that you should call the boutique and make sure they will accomodate guys. Some of the boutiques won’t let men into the dressing area, and I’d hate to drag my FI along only to make him stand outside the shop the whole time.
I like having him involved since it’s our wedding, and he’s been an incredible support system so far. We have a very similar idea of what we want for a dress, and he doesn’t have my mother’s extravagant taste.
Post # 8
I’m a firm believer of it’s up to the couple. My FI didn’t want to see me in ANY dress, never mind the one I picked, and I don’t want him to see the dress (or belt) I went with. It’s just how we’re going about this, but to each their own. I see no issue with him going.
Though it is tradition, the reasoning behind said tradition is rather non-romantic. Besides, traditions were meant to be broken!
Post # 9
I did and dont really regret it. I bought the first dress that we (him, my mother and I) liked (and yes, liked. not loved.) I soon got dress regret and kept showing him the pictures of me in it asking if I looked good in it. I think the fact that I was insecure with my dress and that I showed him the pictures 10000 times, it lost its specialness. I returned it for another dress that made me feel like a bride. Had I loved the first dress to begin with, I would have been fine with him seeing it since he would have forgotten what it looked like before the wedding. It was good to have him there, especially the first time, telling me what he liked and didnt like. He was also very comforting. (Btw, I think he may have seen a picture of me in my new dress since I left iPhoto open. I will look so different on the wedding day that it doesnt bother me. And he will still forget what that picture he saw looked like so no big deal here.) Just dont let him see you in the dress every day and you will be fine!
Post # 10
@Jilliebean1: I had the urge to because he’s my best friend- but then i didn’t. i do want the dress to be a surprise on the big day!
Post # 11
My FI went with me and helped me choose what dress to buy. It was important to me that he like the dress I choose. We are California and all our friends and family are in Ohio and my closest BM is over 5 hours away. He was honest with me if something didnt fit right or made me look like a blimp and I love him for that.