Post # 1
My wedding is in 11 days, and if one more person asks me this question, I seriously might say something reaaaally stupid just to see what kind of reaction I get.
“No actually, I’m kind of dreading it. I think I made a mistake but I really love wearing my wedding dress so I’ll probably go through with it anyway.”
Okay I probably won’t say that… but it would be entertaining at least.
Honestly? At this point I’m really just kind of ready for the day to be here already. I absolutely despise having to work out all these last minute details; it’s stressful. I’m getting married over my spring break and I have a LOT of school-related work to take care of beforehand if I want to enjoy our honeymoon at all. All I’m doing is focusing on all this stuff I need to take care of so that I can just ENJOY myself when it does finally get here.
So… I guess I’m feeling like I’m not as excited as I should be? I’m so happy that I’m getting married and I’m sure that starting next Friday afternoon when we head down to Tampa for the rehearsal dinner I’m going to start really feeling the anticipation. But in the meantime, I’m not sitting here fantasizing about my wedding all day and counting down the minutes like I was doing 6-11 months ago.
Did/does anybody else feel like this?
Post # 3
I’m tired of people asking a million questions about it period. First they ask you a question then they give you their (unwanted) opinion and tell you what THEY think YOU should do. It is very annoying.
Post # 4
I’ve been engaged for 2 months and I’m already getting asked this.
I stopped by FI’s work to say hi while running errands. He introduced my to his general manager (big boss of the whole store) who has taken a personal interest in him and has fast track promoted FI. His first words to me were ‘So are you excited?…or is it about time?’ I just looked at him, looked at FI, and said ‘well we’ve been together since we were 16…’ He frowned at me and then told FI ‘We’re going to have to have another talk’. Apparently FI never told anyone at work just how long we’ve been dating.
I have a feeling I’m going to get asked this a lot more before August 2014.
Post # 5
I feel like this will be me. I’m already kind of over the whole thing and I have a LONG way to go. I think, for me, it’s mainly just because I hate making decisions & I’m a worrier so I’m already stressed & I know it’s only gonna get worse lol It’ll be worth it in the end though, that’s what I keep focusing on!
Post # 6
I’m sick of people asking if I’m nervous! Last week I started to feel like I SHOULD be nervous because everyone keeps asking!
That being said, I am getting pretty excited!
Post # 8
OMG YES! People asked me that for 6 straight months leading up to my wedding. My standard answer was “Haven’t really thought about it: I have a lot to do!”.
I got married at the begining of my winter semester so all my planning fell into my fall exam periods. I sympathise!!!
Post # 9
Yes!!! FH and I have so much more stuff going on in our lives besides our wedding… AND it’s still 16 months away! His father just passed away, we just moved into a new apartment again (we moved from LA to MN last July into a temp apt), work is stressful, and people always ask me what there is to do for the wedding, what is going on, how come i’m not excited? I’m like really?! I’m trying to unpack my life from boxes and deal with FIL’s death… you want to talk to me about invitations? Leave me alone!
I hate all these expectations about engagement being a stress-free happy time. Life still happens and things take priorty over wedding planning… I”m sure once the date gets closer and there is more stuff to do I’ll be more excited, but now, I just want people to leave me alone.
Post # 10
“ARE YOU EXCITED???!!!”
“No, I am being forced into this…I hate my Fiance and I don’t want to marry him.”
Post # 11
Haha -I remember this! and I remember telling my husband how annoying it is and he said people are being nice and I shouldnt be so grumpy. PAH!
JUST WAIT until you are pregnant when people ask you how you are feeling EVERY time you see them.
Another very kind, thoughtful gesture that just gets old.
Post # 12
I think it’s really the way people ask. I don’t mind people in my close knit of friends asking what the countdown is down to (I have two countdowns…one for when he gets home from deployment and THEN one for the wedding). And then they ask how wedding planning is going, in a nonchalant way, I don’t mind. Most of them are either engaged themselves or recently married, so they know how to bring up the hype in the right manner.
But I have a coworker, who will ask me everytime I walk into the break room “WHAT”S THE COUNT DOWN TO??!?! OMG ARE YOU EXCIIIIITED?!?!?!?” every few days or so, and it makes me NOT be excited about it. Of COURSE I’m excited, shouldn’t I be to marry the man of dreams? But I don’t need someone’s eyes to be on the verge of popping out when they ask me. Yes, please be excited for me, but not to the point that you are going to pee yourself with excitement of finding out how excited I am.
Post # 13
I’m so with you. I feel like an awful person when people ask me and it’s obvious I fake saying yes. What am I going to say? No I fucking hate this wedding right now and want it to be over and done with already?!
Enjoy your last few days of planning – you’re almost there. I’m pretty sure I can’t handle another 32 days of this mess!
Post # 14
I used to tell people “Nope. Not at all” then they would get all shocked and gasp…eventually they would figure out I was KIDDING!
Seriously though, it is such a weird question to ask, but everyone asks it! It kind of reminds me how we always tell people to be careful. As if my saying so will actually make them be careful…I guess it is just a way to show you care about them as much as asking if you are excited is their way of saying they want to share in the excitment with you? (Terrible analogy, I know!)
Post # 15
@AbBeeRoad: +1000 that is what I got sick of “are you nervous yet” with a weird look or shoulder shrug… I wasn’t nervous at all! I wasn’t quite sure what I was supposed to be nervous about really.
Post # 16
@rachelmichelle: First of all congrats! Secondly, I don’t like when people ask me this question about anything really. I’m a very mellow person and I usually don’t really get excited about a lot of things until like the day of or the day before. I think people see my mellowness as complacency when nah, I’m just chillin. Lol but I must admit I’m guilty of asking my coworker this same question, but mainly because he had been planning for 3 years! I just wanted to see if his perspective was “YES FINALLY” or “let’s just get this over with already.”