(Closed) Anybody else feel like this at times?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow, this is bringing up bad memories for me because this sounds like how it was with my sisters. They both quit the wedding when we switched venues because they didn’t like it, even though nothing was really changing for them and they obviously weren’t the ones getting married. They hated the dresses I had chosen, but when I asked if I could buy them back from them as the dresses had been discontinued and I couldn’t find them for my other BMs, they both said they would wear them out to a fancy dinner or out dancing. 

Don’t beg. You are all adults and they should care enough naturally to be there for you. It hurts so much when it’s your family and they don’t care, but honestly, you’re setting yourself up for more heartache if you beg them to be there. My sisters didn’t show up at our wedding and I haven’t spoken to them since last November. 

To clear my own conscience, I sent them each a letter telling them that I love them very much and want to have a relationship with each of them, but the way they were treating me was painful and hurtful. I never heard back, and that’s how things will stay until they change their hearts.

Keep focusing on the positive people in your life and the awesome bond you have with your fiance. Don’t let people’s apathy and selfishness take away from your big day.

Let me know if you ever need to vent. I completely understand where you’re coming from.

Post # 5
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Miss Zinfandel: My parents are still very much upset at the fact that we haven’t made up, but they have come to realize that I did everything I could minus kissing their feet, you know? It’s hard watching them hurt, but I’m at a place where I am okay now. I am focusing on my wonderful husband, job, and life aside from them. Would I rather us all be one happy family? For sure. But it’s just not that way for us. Good luck!

Post # 7
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345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

so they’ll still be invited to the wedding right? just not in it.  I think surely everyone knows that bridesmaids should go along with what the bride wants and just deal with it?!  your parents and brother and SIL need to be much more supportive!! whatever her issues are, whether she’s just unhappy with herself/her life/whatever, she doesn’t deserve to be a part of your wedding, she’s being so juvenile, so maybe this has happened for the best.  she can still go as a guest, and when you look back at photos of you with your bridesmaids, she won’t be in them – which is a good thing!!!

Post # 8
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3142 posts
Sugar bee

The sister in law sounds older than you and sound jealous.  Let her back out.  And thank you lucky stars you didn’t have to kick her out for being a jealous ole’ hag.  The end

eta: before ya’ll start flinging shit at me b/c I’m calling 34 old, I’m 40, so obviously Im being tongue in cheek here.

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