Post # 1
…thinking about your “future name”? I’m changing my name at some point after the wedding, but every time I think of myself as “Mrs. Hislastname,” all I can think is “That’s his MOM’S name.” FI’s mom is awesome, and I’ll still end up changing it because it’s important to FI (and therefore important to me), but I just can’t get over feeling weirded out about being another Mrs. Lastname! Anyone else?
Post # 3
Yeah it felt weird at first but I’ve really gotten used to it!
Post # 4
My fiance’s mother never changed her last name and his uncle never married, so I’ll be the first Mrs. Hislastname since his grandmother. I know thats not a super long time or anything but it feels special to me.
Also I’m going to be an elementary school teacher, and his last name is a much better “teacher name” than mine is. I do feel a little weird sometimes about not having my own last name soon (i’ve gotten pretty attached to it over the years) but I’m looking forward to it at the same time.
Post # 5
@tall_jenny: That’s really cool that your name will still be unique!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
You know, I expected it to be really weird, and it was just kind of like “omigd we’re really married” for a while, in just a few months, it’s really become my name!
Post # 7
I can totally understand the weird feeling. FI’s mom died before we met, so I don’t have the same weird feeling, but it’s still weird to be called by my new last name. This is probably because I have had a really hard time letting go- I changed my name to MyFirst MyMiddle MyMaiden HisLast, but still go by my maiden name at work, so I am called by my maiden name more than my married name, which probably increases the weirdness.
Post # 8
YES! It does totally freak me out, because I can’t help to think of his mom…it will take some getting used to, even though I am hyphenating at first.
Post # 9
Im really looking forward to it and the funny thing is I only have to change three letters in my name! lol
I really want a photo of all the Mrs Ms at my wedding cos there will be 4 of us now over 3 generations and Ill be starting in the new generation!
Post # 10
I will end up sharing the name with his mother and 3 sister-in-laws! One of which shares my same first name as well!
Post # 11
I am sooooo looking forward to changing my name. I was just talking to Jim, and I’ve decided to make my maiden name my middle name. I don’t have a middle name, and I cannot tell you how much of a hassle it has been when filling out forms. They always want a middle initial!
Post # 12
That’s funny, I never thought of it that way! Probably because I’ve never once addressed his mom as Mrs. ___. She was introduced to me as just her first name, so that’s what I’ve always called her. Do you call your FMIL “Mrs. Hislast?”
Post # 13
I agree. When I think of Mrs. HisLastName… I think… “Oh, thats his Mom”… It will be hard to realize, “Oh yeah, they are talking about ME!!”
Post # 14
Not really for me. I have always called his mom by her 1st name so it doesn’t register like that when i am referred to as Mrs. (his last name)
Post # 15
@littlemissmango: No Ive never called FMIL Mrs M — But I just see that she is Mrs M as well as BF Grandma and we joke about how Im going to become the next Mrs M.
@Loribeth: Thats a really nice idea! Im a little sad at the idea of giving away my maiden name but I dont want to hypenate.
Post # 16
@littlemissmango: Yes, I only refer to her as “Mrs. Lastname” or “Mrs. Lastinitial.” She never said I could call her by her first name and since we’re relatively young (early 20s), it seems rude to do otherwise. I think it would feel much less weird if I called her by her first name!
Edit: We met in high school. So of course she was introduced as “Mrs.” High school is like that.