(Closed) Anybody else have 3+ years engagements?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My SO and I seem to be headed in that direction due to us moving halfway across the country a few months after getting engaged, him entering a PhD program and me starting a new job. And this is AFTER being together for 6 years before he popped the question/I said yes.

Right now, we’ll be just shy of 3 years by the time we get married, but that’s only if we don’t push the wedding back again (which is definitely still a possibility). We’re still aiming for fall of 2013, but I wouldn’t be surprised if we don’t make it official until 2014 or 2015 or 2016 or… That or we just say forget it, let’s elope 🙂

Post # 4
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Darling Husband and I had a 3 year engagement. We got engaged our freshman year of college and it just made more sense to wait. Sometimes it felt like we were being tortured having to wait that long, but in the end we were glad we waited. It’s hard, but not impossible, and you are definitely not alone!

Post # 5
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Fi and I are going to get married after we finish our grad school programs, which if everything goes to plan, will be in about 3 years!

Post # 6
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

me and my fiance have a one! we got engaged dec. 20 2009 and are getting married dec. 20 2014…so 5 years of engagement! due to the same reason of school first, then saving up, then wedding

Post # 7
3 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Jacqui90:  Well, he asked me to marry him about 10 years ago, and of course i said yes…but we were a lil young 17/18 years old and we never really talked about it since then. But we are planning to get married on Feb 24th which is our 11th year anniversary since we started dating. We been living together for 10 years and we are still together and we think its time to finally get married. I think either way, its better to live together instead of waiting to get married to live together that way you know your partner better. Good luck with everything Smile

Post # 9
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We will have been engaged for 3 1/2 years before we get married this summer. We wanted to buy a house and make sure that we were financially stable before we got married. It seems like a really long time but time is moving so quickly now sometimes I wish I had a little more time to prepare.

Post # 11
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Highly doubt me and FI’s engagement will be THAT long, barring an extenuating circumstance, though he did say that when we get married is riding on some “ifs”.

Having said that, I think my mom and now stepdad’s engagement lasted roughly three years before they were able to marry due to issues with Immigration.  He’s from Canada, and the plan was that he’d move to the states. Long story short, there were some problems with arranging it so that he could do that. (But he was able to occasionally visit us.) So, when I was a sophmore in high school, he and my mom decided they’d marry on Memorial Day weekend of that year and Mom and I would move up to Canada with him. However a month and a half before that, it came to their attention that it would cost more to get me into school than was feasible, but it just so happened that there was something going on called Immigration Amnesty at the time. So, they got married in a courthouse gazebo a month earlier than originally planned and on the date they had originally set for the wedding they had a family get-together.

At the other end of the engagement period spectrum is my sister and her now ex-husband. They were engaged for roughly four months before they married as my sister was pregnant with their now nine-year-old son. (I hate to say it, but the rush may have contributed to why the marriage didn’t work out in the long run.)

Post # 12
9 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our wedding date is slated for October 2014.  Our engagement will be just shy of three years when we marry.  Would I like to get married now? You bet.  Is it really feasible right now? No.  We are both finishing up our B.S. and are moving out of state for graduate, school this year, so planning a wedding during all of this seems pretty difficult.  Which is why we are having a long engagement. That and to save up money.

Post # 13
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Our engagement will be three years and four months. We’re having a long engagement because our families want us to finish school first and we want to respect their wishes. Not only that, but we wouldn’t be able to support ourselves yet. We would get married sooner if we could, but we can’t. I hate having such a long engagement, but it is what it is, and I know we’re being smart by waiting. 

Post # 14
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We are. We got engaged September 2010 and aren’t getting married until March 2014. FH wanted one of us to be done with school and he wanted a better job. Luckily, we’re both going to be done with school and FH is pretty much promised a job come August. I personally probably won’t have a job though because even though I graduate in November, I won’t be able to walk or take my certification exam until January, and I doubt I would be able to be hired if I told them I would need at least a week off for the wedding. 

Have their been times when I’ve hated this whole thing and just wanted to get married like, yesterday? Absolutely. But in the long run being engaged this long has really given us time to get things in order. We were saving up to pay for our entire wedding ourselves, but FH’s truck broke down and needed major repair, so we had to put all the money towards that. My parents have stepped in and offered to pay for everything, so it also helps them in the fact that they aren’t dropping large amounts of money at one time. 

Post # 15
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Yup!  Fiance and I were engaged on Christmas day 2009.  We were hoping for an October 2011 wedding, but due to financial issues, it has been put off.   And I thought I was the only one!

Post # 16
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It’s so good to know I’m not the only one in an extremely long engagement! It’s so frustrating to see engaged couples doing so much for their weddings when we can’t do anything wedding-related for a while. Most of them will be married by the time we can even start planning! Sometimes I don’t even feel engaged. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

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