Anybody else have an overly communicative SO/FI/DH?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3128 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

To me it just sounds like you have two different personalities…and that is okay. Your SO isn’t crossing any lines or behaving inappropriately in my opinion. I wouldn’t ask or expect him to change his behavior, I would work on changing your expectations and reactions.

Post # 4
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@MissTatas:  +1

Nothing is wrong with contacting someone you used to work with if you’re in the area. Atleast IMO.

Sounds like you’re just 2 different people

Post # 5
442 posts
Helper bee

I think the only issue is that it may be construed as something else by other women. As long as he’s aware of that and can handle anything that comes up, then try not to worry about it. My boyfriend isn’t quite similar, but he does love to compliment people and sometimes I have to scale him back. When we first started dating, I thought it was a little weird that he would compliment all these women’s jewelry in front of me but then I realized that he just notices things like that and likes to make people happy. One time at a bar, he wanted to go up to a woman and say he liked her shoes. Luckily I was with him and made him think about what that probably would mean to her. Of course it really wouldn’t matter, but I was a little uncomfortable with it and didn’t want him to seem like he was hitting on her, especially with me right there. He did, however, go up to a guy a few minutes later to compliment his shoes!

I understand where you’re coming from though, that would bother me a little as well but I don’t know why. Maybe some jealousy, as I would love to be that kind of people person, but the thing with the coworker would feel a little dicey as well. Just try to understand that you’re different people and that he’s sharing it with you so he’s just being who he is. 

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