Post # 1
Did anybody else have a significant number of guests come to the wedding and NOT bring gifts? We just got our gifts from my grandmother’s house yesterday, and our of the 65 people who came to the wedding we only got about 20 gifts and a few cards/giftcards. Now the most important thing to us what that these people could be there with us the celebrate, but it has always been drilled into me that you don’t show up at a wedding without a gift– or at the very least a card– and so was my husband, so we were surprised at the poor gift turnout. It also means we didn’t get much of the basics we were hoping to get to start out life together! Time to get creative…
anyway, I just wondered if this had happened to anyone else?
Post # 3
Have you taken into acct couples and families (who would typically only give one gift or card from both/all)? I can’t even go to a friend’s house to watch a football game without bringing something, so I definitely don’t understand the wedding guests that arrive emptyhanded, but gifts aren’t obligatory and some people really do feel their presense is your present. Also, some people live by the rule that you have up to a year after the wedding to give a gift so you never know.
Be happy everyone was able to make it and you had a great time. Congratulations on your marriage!!!
Post # 4
We had entire groups of guests not bring gifts— people we wouldn’t have expected, such as friends from church. We also had several families/couples who brought more than one gift.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Well, I’d give it some time – I know a lot of people send gifts after the wedding, so there’s a chance more gifts are on the way.
Post # 6
There were plenty of people who came to our wedding and didn’t bring a gift, but sent one to us later on. This may be the case with some of your guests. Our wedding was in July, and we were still getting gifts and cards in November!
Post # 7
I’d give them some more time, sometimes people don’t bring them to the wedding, they send them later! It’s only been ~2 weeks 🙂
Post # 8
I never BRING a gift to a wedding, I always have it shipped directly from the registry. I know something just arrived this Monday for a wedding I attended on the first weekend of December.
Post # 9
we had some came later, but mostly, a lot of people didnt give gifts or cards. Chuck it up to the economy. Just never know someone’s financial circumstances, and some people just cant afford a gift. Thumbs down to the people that dont even bother to bring cards though.
Post # 10
I never have and never would go to a wedding and NOT bring a gift or card. I think it’s very rude that they attended all the festivities and didn’t bring something. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it so you’ll just have to move on and send nice thank you notes to those who did give you gifts. Congrats on the marriage!
Post # 11
I wouldn’t go to any wedding without bringing a pretty sizeable gift (depending on my relationship to the person getting married). But, 20+ for a 65 person wedding sounds about right. If you contemplate your parents and bridal party, who didn’t really need to get you anything, and couples, the number of distinct gifts (cash and actual presents) you should have gotten would probably been around 25-35. What does the hive think about my calculation?
Post # 12
I attended a destination wedding and didnt’ bring a gift, but I had already bought the bride a shower gift so I thought it was okay. I wasn’t a BM or anything and had already spent a lot of money on transportation and hotel and the original shower gift which was over $100. Now this post is making me think I should have gotten her a 2nd gift, I honestly didn’t even think about it at the time!
Post # 13
honestly, I didn’t count, and we had a pretty big wedding, so a good portion of our registry (except maybe linens) were bought
I was a little sad some people didn’t give us cards, but I was just so overjoyed at the gifts we DID get!
Post # 14
@moderndaisy-If I give a gift a shower then I don’t bring one to the wedding. Most of the time I get invited to the shower and bachelorette parties so I feel like if I contribute to both events then it shouldn’t be expected to give something at the wedding too.
Post # 15
Out of all our guests, we had all but two bring/send gifts. I hear from my mom that one is on its way (four months later), and the other, well … it’s a long story.
In my family, you just don’t come to a wedding without bringing a gift. No one in my family ever shows up to anyone’s house empty handed – that’s just how we are. Now, I didn’t EXPECT gifts of course because technically, I know they’re not required at weddings. But I wasn’t surprised to see we got one from almost everyone.
I know weddings can be expensive to attend, but a $20 gift usually doesn’t make or break the bank, you know? I mean, unless you’re in an extreme financial strain, I don’t see why a guest wouldn’t be able to give a little something to wish the couple well.
Post # 16
Don’t worry – according to Emily Post the wedding guest has one full year to send a wedding gift! We received wedding gifts up until 6 months after our wedding.
Also, if I give a gift (not money) I don’t take it to the wedding either. I have it shipped directly to their home.