Anybody Else Here A Tomboy, Dreading Her Bridal Shower?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Pulsepoint129:  You don’t necessairily have to register in a conventional way.  These are slightly controversal on the bee (I don’t really understand why) but what about a honeymoon registry? I once went to a shower that had a “stock the bar” theme and everyone bouught their favorite bottle of liquor for the couple. My shower was out of state (we live in CO , wedding in CA) and I got a ton of gifts cards which I found very useful because then I could purchase items when I wanted to. Instead of having the traditional decor and organization of the shower, you could do something like a BBQ. I just whent to a baby shower that was a BBQ and it was a blast! Think outside of the box to make this yours! Get with your MOH and brainstorm!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I say, Go ahead and have him do the registry….

I’m not a tomboy per say, but I feel the exact same way about bridal showers; boring, stiff, and I really don’t care to open presents for two hours in front of a bunch of people that do not want to be there. 

My solution was to tell my MOH that we wanted a Jack and Jill. We’re actually combining the bach parties and shower into this one occassion for a number of reasons, but mostly to cut down on time and money for our bridal party and guests. I am helping my MOH in the planning of the party, and am looking forward to having my fiance there when it does come time to open gifts, and later in the evening, party down. 

 

My fiance is also the “cook” in the family. We plan on doing our registry together so were not getting the stupid “knick knacks” that we dont need.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Pulsepoint129:  Sure! A HM registry is set up so that your guests can give you money towards your trip.  You can organize that into categories like,= airfare, hotel, dinner out, spa trip, etc. And then you can break it down into dollar amounts.  So, someone can contribute $100 towards your airfare, or $25 towards your spa day. Does that make sense.  Here is the one we used…

 

http://www.honeyfund.com/

 

I lived in FL for 12 years and if I were to visit I would go to The Keys, St Augustine (beautiful beach, but also a historic town with quirky old B&B’s, cobblestone roads, etc), or Sanibel/Captiva Island. I flew from FL to Hawaii and it was definately a long ass flight!!  But Maui is amazing!

 

 

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We did a small registry but MOH wrote on the invitations “bring the couple something that will help them through their first year of marriage.” We got like 15 bottles of wine, lots of board games, recipe books, movie and restaurant gift cards, etc. It was incredible! Our shower was co-Ed with a laid back feel. We ha a cookout, music, did a wine tasting of the wines we will be serving at the wedding (we are getting married at a winery), and had 1 game that was a “who knows the couple best” where when you got a question wrong you were “out” and the last guest left standing won. It was so funny!

 

it was definitely not boring and people were mingling, eating, and having a good time! I think it helped that it was coed! And I loved having FI open presents with me so not all eyes were on me!

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Pulsepoint129:  Oh no you just did not about Disney Tongue Out

I’m a NYC girl that was SO uppity about my honeymoon and my FI convinced me to go to Disney – my entire group of friends and family has been “How did this happen?  MousePeach in Disney?  Ok…..”   I’m adventurous.

We did a Disney honeymoon registry – the shower invites are not even out yet and the entire amount of $2200 has been purchased.  Seriously – honeymoon registries are awesome.  We have two other registries where people can buy actual gifts but it looks like people only want to get us HMoon gifts!

So now – onto the subject.   I HATE showers…..I don’t go to them but I always send a gift (I’m not a complete sourpuss.)  So now that I’ve practically been forced to have one I feel really awkward and uncomfortable about it all.  Just go into it as the most gracious bride ever – just be in awe of the fact that people are flying into come and see you and give gifts – it’s such a nice feeling.  Register for the boring stuff because it’s stuff you will need

  • ivory/cream sheet sets
  • white or neutral towels
  • Down blanket
  • a few settings of basic white china or dishes (for when you break your old stuff)
  • one nice saute or fry pan (you’ll eventually get around to using it)
  • Pillows

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yep, which is why I insisted none be given.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Pulsepoint129:  Well then call me rude – I have lots of things on my registry that are $75, $100 and $100+.  

 

Honestly – it’s totally fine to have a $100 item on there.  You aren’t forcing anyone to buy it for you and remember that many times people pitch in for a gift.   Do you work?  I’m sure your co-workers will also band together and get you some things off of your registry – have fun with it.

 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Pulsepoint129:  Also, a lot of places that you register at will send you a coupon or something after for you to purchase things off your registry that no one bought for you.  One of the places we registered at was Target and they sent a coupon after for 10% off anything that was on our registry after our wedding date. 

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