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Soooo.... I want kids. They're a few years off for us (Fi and I have discussed a timeline, and we're looking to start trying about 2-4 years after the wedding, depending on how long it takes us to get settled).
But, I was thinking about it this morning, and I have a bad feeling about how my body will handle pregnancy.
Basically- I have to pop my back. Every day. Sometimes multiple times. The only way that I can get it to pop is by laying on the bed and rolling my lower body to the side, while leaving my back flat on the bed.
I thought about it, and I have a bad, bad feeling that I won't be able to pop my back when I'm pregnant!
I know that it's not going to stop me from having kids, but I'm so worried about it now!
Anybody else have crazy, irrational pregnancy fears?
Eh, I sort of was, but the changes are all really gradual and you see your docs all the time to check in. It really didn't get super uncomfortable until around month 7.
Do you see a chiropractor?
Oh yeah. I have so many fears. I am afraid I will be like a hypochondriac. Not really- mainly- I have others worries like "what if my gallbladder explodes?" (This happened to my mother and I just had my appendix rupture). I also have HORRIBLE TMJ. Like a nightmare. I just started taking natural muscle relaxers- but what if I can't have those? I just worry that my TMJ will get bad and that would stress me out= that stress would be bad for the baby... so on... and so on.
We're also a ways away from TTC but I hear ya!! Maybe for your back, you can visit a chiropracter? Or maybe there's like a pregnant yoga move you can do to help?
I'm scared of getting pregnant for a few reasons. First, I am terrified of gaining the baby weight. I have issues with body image/weight that go fairly far back, and it's SO hard for me to accept the fact that when you're pregnant, you HAVE to gain weight. And you don't really have a ton of control over how much--it's not like you can go on a diet while you're pregnant. Also, I"m scared about losing the weight after the baby comes :(
I'm also just scared because honestly, pregnant bellies freak me out sometimes! Not so much when they're smaller, but as women get closer to full term, they look huuuge to me! I don't get how the women don't tip over, and I'm worried that I"m going to freak out when I see myself in the mirror at 38 weeks. Also the whole baby-moving-inside-me? Also freaks me out like whoa. It's like having an alien in there!
I used to be so afraid. And since I got pregnant on "surprise", I was totally freaked out. I guess I also have always had body image issues, some days are worse than others, and gaining weight, and getting stretch marks terrified me! And let me tell you, I feared for good reason. But looking back, it really is no biggie. Yeah I gained weight, and yes it was uncomfortable, and yes I got stretch marks, but you don't even notice that stuff sometimes because you are so busy running arund and trying to teach your little one things, and give them all the love you need to. Everything else seems so small in comparison. But I'm not going to lie, I still have those days where I wish I had enough money for a tummy tuck, so I can look as good as those other 22 year olds in bikinis. But I have to remind myself, such is life!
@hilsy85: It's so freaky when the baby starts doing full body-rolls in utero. Crazy. DD used to kick so hard that DH's hand would bounce off my belly.
@KatyElle: Yikes!! Oh my goodness, I feel like I"ll jump out of my skin the first time that happens, lol. And the thing is, there's no similar sensation that you can compare it to, right? You can't say, "Oh well it feels just like that other experience where you have a human in your body." Umm, no.
Um, yes. Parenthood does appeal to me, but pregnancy does not. Maybe I'll grow out of this, but... mmmmmno.
I am terrified of having a little one inside me. Not to mention having to get that little one OUT of me!
OMG yes! My bff is preggo right now, and another friend has 2 kids. They are both nurses and talk about their pregnancies ALL.THE.TIME. in graphic details. I just cringe. I went to visit her this past weekend, and she says, "Hey look! here's a foot!" and I could literally feel the kid's foot through her belly. totally gave me the heebie-jeebies. Her body is doing all kinds of (un)natural (at least I think it's unnatural! lol) things that I don't even know how I would get through pregnancy sanely!
@hilsy85: The first few kicks feel like a growling stomach and then by month 9 you can practically see footprints on your skin haha!
It's not painful, just weird. But sometimes people luck out and get a mellow baby!
The idea of being pregnant completely freaks me out. To the point where I once compared a fetus to a parasite. I realize that it's a BABY and totally not a parasite, but it's living inside you and taking all your nutrients and inhibiting your movement and becoming its own little creature.
I realize that this is NOT how it actually is, but I have this bizzare notion in my mind that the whole thing would be terrifying.
Needless to say, having kids is totally not something I'm interested in doing any time soon, if ever.
I'm scared to death. All my friends think it's okay to tell me their horror stories! Ekk!
@Lindsay05: I'm scared of the 'OUT' part too!! I don't want an epi b/c I'm scared of not feeling my legs..But I also want the option to have one incase I tear or need an emergency c-section. We are a few years from TTC , but it still freaks me out!
I am, and I have no problem admitting that I am pretty shallow when it comes to my appearance. I work out frequently, eat really well, get my hair done every 5 weeks, tan, always have a pedicure/manicure, etc. I enjoy taking care of myself, and it does freak me out to lose a little of that when pregnant.
I know that sounds totally shallow and self absorbed. Trust me, I am kind of embarrassed just to type it out, LOL.
I'm terrified of lots of things.
1) I'm terrified of vomit and terrified of having to vomit in public, so I'm scared of morning sickness
2) I'm scared of the stretching/tearing/etc down there during birth
3) I'm scared of the pain associated with labor
4) I'm scared of pooping myself during labor and having people watching me (didn't even know this was something that happened until reading some posts here!)
5) I'm afraid of going into labor with no one near and not being able to get in touch with anyone/get to a hospital in time
Guess it's a good thing I'm a long way away from having kids right now.
haha
As incredibly scary as pregnancy sounds, like Katy said it's not physcially hard until around the 7th month (usually!)
This is freaking me out. Seriously. I am with Beluga- parenthood = yes appeal. Pregnancy = less appeal.
@KatNYC2011: I know (of) someone who had their baby in an apartment bath-tub. YIKES!
@KatNYC2011: YES to all of those, especially # 1. Niether my sister nor my mother had any morning sickness to speak of, but i'm TERRIFIED that i will. I'm vomit free since 93. i don't want that to change. ANd even if i do make it through, the baby will basically be a vomit machine, and I'm not sure I can handle that :(
My family has a long history of pregnancy face-weight-gain. Body wise not so bad, but the faces just explode. I know its going to happen to me. I like my cheekbones. I'm scared.
@ScarletBegonia: I don't even want to think about the vomit that happens after the baby is born.
I can be ok with my own vomit if I'm in close vicinity to a toilet, but dealing with someone else's has been known to give me panic attacks.
@KatNYC2011: Get the enema.... my mom had this done with her first 2 children b/c it used to be required... when she got to me, it was no longer required, so she said she didn't want it.....
Long story short, she pooped everywhere.
I will be requesting one when I'm in labor, for sure.
@Miss Fish: You pretty much summed up my entire notion of pregnancy too. Albeit, I love children, but the means to the end is terrifying to me! I've tried to talk to my fiancee about adopting so I can avoid it (more importantly, bringing in a little bundle of sunshine into my life that someone else couldn't care for).
I'm also scared-to-death of the labor! Gah. I don't know how I'm going to do it, but Fiancee wants one naturally. I can deal with it, I hope. But my best friend and sister both have said it's a really empowering experience, and I trust them. We can manage if need be. :)
@JulesSchnooks: Oh my god, good! I'm so glad someone gets it! FI acted like I was a crazy person when I told him that. He was like, "Ummm, it's not a parasite, it's your child..." and I was like, "Then let it ruin the structure of YOUR innards!" Yeah. I said innards. That intense.
Uggh, and the thought of actual childbirth?! That's like a freakin' nightmare. I'm tiny in a lot of ways, and I'm pretty positive I would tear. Just the thought of that literally makes me close my legs together as tight as I can.
I also brought up adoption, and he sort of compromised, saying we could have one naturally and adopt another one. I don't think he really understood the fact that his solution did not help my situation AT ALL.
I'm not so much afraid of things during pregnancy as I am of labor.
I KNOW I'm a tough cookie but I still fear labor!! EEK!
And nausea. I hate nausea, nothing makes me more miserable than nausea. So if I have "all day sickness" I will be a very miserable person. I've only vomited once in my whole life and do not look forward to doing it again!!
Yes! I have the fear of having to poop during labor as well! Ew.
I was kinda the same way, totally wanted a baby, wasn't so sure I wanted to be pregnant.
I have been VERY luck with no morning sickness
However, I have been SUPER tired (like going to bed at 8:30 to get up at 6:30 every night plus naps on weekends).
Also, I usually suffer from Migraines - I have been pretty lucky with minimal headaches.
I loved being pregnant! I loved knowing there was life forming inside of me. Watching her move was amazing and hearing that little heart beat is the best :) Mind you, I never got morning sickness, I didn't even start to show until I was 6 months along, I didn't tear giving birth and my all my stuff was immediately back where it was supposed to be. Plus, my daughter was not one for throwing up much.
@cyndistar3: Your birth, and daughter sound awesome! Lucky duck! I would be fine if it went as smooth as that!
@Lindsay12.31.2010: Yea I was definitely blessed... other than the fact that I was in labor for almost 50 hours.... but that usually doesn't happen so don't fret ladies LOL. I reccomend keeping active throughout pregnancy though! Lots of walking is supposed to to wonders for keeping labor short like.
@cyndistar3: My friend loved being pregnant too. She said she ate really healthy and her hair was really healthy and she felt wonderful.
My chiropractor had a special bed for pregnant ladies with a whole in the middle for the stomach. I would start seeing and continue to see a chiropractor - best thing I ever did for my back/neck.
@cyndistar3: My mom was in labor with me for 47 hours! I was 9 weeks early, and part of that was them trying to stop her contractions, but still. Poor Momma! :-) I hope I can stay active! My best friend had her baby girl last week, and she was super active through her whole pregnancy!
@Lindsay12.31.2010: Oh wow! Yea I was a like 49 hours when she finally decided to come on out. I think it was the environment I was in that was keeping me from progressing. For the first day or so my dad and my step mom made me hang out with them because they didn't want me and FI in my room alone... yea. But once I got to the midwifery and got to lay down with FI in the room by ourselves and relax things moved on a bit.
@Lindsay12.31.2010: How's your friend's little girl doing? Did she get to come home from the hospital?
@KatNYC2011: Aww, thanks for asking! Yes, she came home Friday afternoon - They sent her home with a Bili blanket (basically just a light up blanket!) that she had to wear until Monday, when she was cleared. She's doing just fine! DH and I went and saw them Saturday and yesterday. She is so cute! I wish I could PM you a picture!!
@Lindsay05 : always remember that it just can't be as bad as you imagine or none of us would do it more than once! The sisters are not stupid!
@julies1949: That is true!! A trillion women have done it before, i'm sure I can too!
@miss-fish You are my soul sister! I have the same weird fetus=parasite idea and I know it's ridiculous but it freaks me out!
I'm a great aunt but I'm not sure I'd be able to be a 24/7 mom.
@sparkle: Thank you!! I now have concrete evidence that I'm not a crazy person. Or, at least, that other people are equally crazy in the same way.
I feel the same... I like kids, but I REALLY like being able to give them back.
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