Post # 1
I’m putting our invites together over the next 2 weeks, and I have to admit, part of me really hopes that we get a lot of no’s!
Don’t get me wrong- the majority of the people we have invited to our wedding are people we really want there.
However, the total number of people invited also includes lots of #1s, children, and obligatory invites to family we don’t really know.
Our total number invited is 203, and I’m seriously hoping for 175 or less…. 150 would be amazing.
It’s not that I don’t want to have people there, but I would love to not have to spend all the extra money!
Anybody else feel the same way?
Post # 3
I am! My future in laws insist on inviting a bunch of people we don’t know so they don’t “lose face.” we’re hoping they don’t show. ugh.
Post # 4
You will probably end up at that number. We invited a little over 200 and we ended up at 158. That’s with adding a few at the end. I secretly was hoping for declines too.
Post # 5
I’ll raise my hand to this one. I feel the same way. We are sending invites to all of our family, +1’s and kids to be included. When I count the people who will actually make the trip to where I live I have about 125 that I am sure will come… but we are sending out 115 invites… doubling that alone makes me nervous. What if 230 people come?! yikes. It would be great to have everyone around but… I understand what you are saying.
Post # 6
Ugh, yes definitely!! I just counted mine up the other day, and out of 180 or so invited, 40 of them are kids! And I didn’t want ANY (well, except for the 3 in our party)!
Post # 7
I feel this way too mostly because it gets pricey. Also my Fiance and I wanted a small wedding but the guest list just kept growing and growing with obligatory invites to family friends we have not seen in years and so on 🙁
Post # 8
You are not alone! I want to hit up our B list sooo bad. But coming from a big Irish family, fam comes first- including all of their +1’s!
Post # 9
I’m seriously hoping for a 25% decline rate (I have a lot of Out of Town guests).
Post # 10
Yep, we had a bunch of obligatory invites that I was hoping a bunch wouldn’t show up. We invited 128 and ended up with 82, which was perfect!
Post # 11
@SapphireSun: So you’re saying there’s hope? ;D
Post # 12
I felt this way in theory, but unfortunately some of the no’s will be people you love, and many of the yesses will be those random +1s you mentioned. I wanted to invite 130 and get 100, we ended up inviting 155 (yikes) but are probably going to end up with 110 so it’s kind of perfect. Except that some people I adore won’t be there, and there will still be a few I don’t know well.
Post # 13
We did too!! We invited, I think, 87? We are now at 82 coming to the wedding. We thought FOR SURE that we would have have about 70 people saying they would come. Oh well, what can you do?
Post # 14
Its not so much a numbers thing, but I’m honestly hoping some people don’t come. Theres a lot of estranged family who usually want nothing to do with me and I don’t really want to pay for them, if their rude to be 99% of the time. but I invited them out of politenss so I know its a possibilty they’ll come.
Post # 15
@misspiglet: My Future Mother-In-Law is doing the same thing! Her side of the guest list has 86 people on it, and she SWEARS that only half will come… I sure hope she’s right, because I have friends I want to invite!
Post # 16
@tinylittlebird: Definitely!!! My guest list isn’t as big as yours, but I really want to stay in my budget. I’d be okay with a 30% decline rate.