Post # 1
A stand in ring isn’t something I’d normally consider, but we just booked our honeymoon in Mexico. FI has never been out of the country and although I know he wants to travel and plans on doing so with me in the future, this first adventure has him just a tad nervous.
Recently he brought up to me that he thinks it would be better if I left my rings at home during our honeymoon. He feels that it could attract attention to ourselves, and possibly make us a target for theft or other crime. I think it’s rather unlikely, but if it makes him feel more at ease, I’ll leave it at home. I figure it’s not a bad idea anyway, since I wouldn’t be wearing it on the beach anyway, so I’d have to leave it in the room most of the time. If I just leave it home I won’t have to worry at all about losing or damaging it.
Of course — I know I’m going to absolutely HATE going bare-fingered in that first week after we’re married! I’m going to want SOMETHING on my left hand. It doesn’t have to be expensive (I’d like to keep it to $50 or less, but would go a little higher for something I really love), and I’d like for it to be something I can wear later on as a right hand ring. I’m thinking a gemstone or colored Swarovski crystal – something that is obviously not a diamond.
Anybody else ever wear a stand in? What was it and why did you wear it?
Post # 3
@loveinthelibrary: Yup, I have and will be getting a stand in for the honeymoon. I want to be able to swim in ocean, pool, do whatever I want without having to worry about my e-ring. Also, I don’t trust hotel safes at all. Would never keep my e-ring in one. I don’t care if it was the Four Seasons.
Post # 4
I have a stand-in from Berricle that I use on vacation. It’s fun to mix it up sometimes and not worry about losing the real thing. I’d probably go with a pretty band or something though if you’re worried about theft.
Post # 5
My “stand in” is a plain tungsten band that I wear to work. Personally, I wouldn’t want to wear anything with stones if my goal was not to attract attention to my hand because want-to-be thiefs won’t know the difference, I don’t think! I have worn my rings on my honeymoon and several vacations and felt very safe.
Post # 6
@loveinthelibrary: We got engaged in Mexico, so I definitely rocked my ring during our trip! It never bothered me and I never felt unsafe or worried about it. Plus, it was insured- that’s what it is for, right? Or maybe just wear the wedding band and not the E-ring? Though ring shopping for a stand-in sounds fun! There are tons of pretty rings on Etsy!
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@loveinthelibrary: I have a stunt ring! I wear it when I go to the beach or on vacation to keep my real one at home safe and sound. It was $20 on Amazon and looks very similar to my real ring, just larger LOL
Post # 8
I was just thinking of getting a stand-in from Berricle. Just got their email for a gorgeous set, but FI thinks I should just say no to that and wear my plain simple spacer band I have on our honeymoon in Mexico. Sigh. He wins.
Post # 9
@loveinthelibrary: Hi. I never thought I would but I just did the other day. My e-ring is quite large and while I wore it to Mexico and the UK last year, I’m going to leave it home this time. So as not to feel naked, I bought a much simpler band that I can wear as a RHR 99% of the time but put on my left hand when needed.
Here’s a pic of my e-ring and my new bezel-set diamond band. I am LOVING its scale and simplicity. It’s going to be the perfect, no fuss stand-in for me.
Post # 10
@loveinthelibrary: If you’re only going to be at a resort any never leave I would say something sparkly would be lovely. But if you’re ever going to leave the resort I’d stick with a plain band. Wearing jewelry does make you a target down there. When I go to Guatemala I won’t even bring my brand name handbag, let alone jewelry. Any jewelry. Yes, I’m aware Guatemala is not Mexico, but it ain’t that far away, just saying. Many lovely countries south of the border, but unfortunately they can also be dangerous places. Just have to be smart.
Post # 11
@loveinthelibrary: +1 @HeartsandSparkles: Also got engaged in mexico felt fine the whole time. Are you staing at a resort? if so your fine. most hotels guide you to the save areas and inform you where to stay away from. I have ben to mexico many times and never felt uncomfortable with jewlery on.
Post # 12
We’ll be in a relatively safe area (the Mayan Riviera) and will rarely leave the resort. If we do, it will be on a guided excursion and I’ll leave any/all jewelry in the room.
I’m definitely thinking of something with at least a little sparkle! Maybe an opal, rose quartz, or peridot. I’d love to have something in rose gold — I would have loved my e-ring in rose gold, but FI thought that my clumsy self might beat up a less-durable metal.
Post # 13
Ooh I got one but haven’t needed it yet. I’ll use it when we travel to tropical places or if we did a big europe trip. My friend is a jeweller and she said salt water and chlorine water aren’t the greatest on jewellery. I didn’t want to damage my good set, so I bought a $30 narrow band off etsy that I’ll wear sometimes to protect my good ones.
Post # 14
I honeymooned in Mexico too, but took my rings. I do have a plain white gold wedding band, so if I were uncomfortable I had the option of leaving my diamonds in the safe.
The only issue I have with stand in rings is if they are a glittery ring because like your ERing, it would also attract attention. Sort of defeats the purpose I think.
Post # 15
@loveinthelibrary: If it makes you feel more comfortable, go for it. More for a “don’t want to lose it” than the attention factor. Because if you wear a stand-in, someone who is looking to steal it won’t realize it’s a fake and will think it’s real.
However, I was in Mexico not too long ago and wore my rings. I took them off and put them in the room safe when we did excursions (jungle, ziplining, etc.) but wore them everywhere else. I never felt like attention was on me because of it. If I walked down a street that was iffy, I just turned the stone palm-side and you couldn’t tell there was a diamond there. No biggie.
Post # 16
I don’t plan on getting anything that looks like an engagement ring or a diamond (although I’d like something a little sparkly!). I’ve always liked the non-traditional stones for engagement rings anyway, so now is a chance to get something a little different. I doubt anyone would mistake a peridot for a diamond? Maybe I’m wrong though. For FI it’s about not attracting attention, because he has travel anxiety. For me, I would just like something to wear that I wouldn’t be devastated to lose or scratch up a bit.