Post # 1
did anybody not have a maid/matron of honor? if so, why not? I’m not having either, the girl I originally asked to be my MOH turned out to not be a true friend (after a very hurtful situation she put me through) and I just don’t have anybody else I feel “that” close to. I don’t have any sisters, FSIL isn’t into being part of attention/being in a bridal party & other FSIL lives in over in Europe. I feel like I’m missing out on part of the wedding because I don’t have a MOH to go to and get help/advice from or to be such a part of things. I feel so silly for feeling that way!
Post # 3
please dont feel silly for feeling the way you do.
not everyone has a bridal party.honestly bridal partys can be very strssful and i wish i thought more on it before i picked certain people.
you dont need to have a bridal party to still include people to be there for you.do you have aunts,cousins grandmoms or your mom who could help you with things,go dress shopping with you?
there are quite a few bees here who do not have a bridal party and they will jump in and give you great advice♥
Post # 4
I’m not having a MOH! I love the girls I picked for my wedding party and they are all special to me. That being said, there isn’t one that I am particularly closer to than another. I don’t have any sisters or cousins that were like sisters. So, I’ve decided to just keep them all as my bridesmaids and have them all feel special. 🙂
Post # 5
I didn’t have a bridal party. I did a pretty low key courthouse wedding with about 40 guests – just family – and I didn’t want the drama that comes along with picking the right people, picking the wrong people, having people talk behind your back, forcing anyone to buy an ugly and expensive dress, etc… My mom stepped in as my awesome friend / confidant / planner, and my cousins threw me a shower.
Post # 6
I didn’t I had my younger brother who is my best friend. I still had 5 bridesmaids but I couldn’t choose between my 2 oldest and closest friends so I decided to have my brother stand for me. And he did brilliantly!
Post # 7
I have two bridesmaids, both very good friends, and it would have felt awkward to single one out as the MOH. They both live in Sweden, where we’ll get married, so I can’t share as much wedding prep with them as I would want to. That used to make me feel a little sad, but then I found the bee and that really helped. Now it feels like I have this huge wedding party, but without the “Need to find a suitable dress” stress! 🙂
Honestly, I love my bridesmaids – but even if they had been here in Toronto, they wouldn’t have been able to provide the level of help I’ve got here.
Post # 8
I’m not having a MOH im having my two sisters as bridesmaids but i could never choose one over the other to be MOH and i have no friends i concider close enough to have that role so no MOH for me x
Post # 9
@littlemiss511: If you’re “missing out” on part of the whole experience by not having a MOH, then I’M missing the boat entirely: I’m not having a bridal party, period.
Why? Because in my life, I’m trying to “downsize”. That is, lose the dead-weight of fake and insincere females that I’ve been trying to make be my friends for the past year. Since we have started eliminating the drama in our “friend life”, BF and I have been so much happier.
So, I’m not going to suddenly decide I have time for the BS just to have a wedding party. I dont have the time, energy, or interest in dealing with dress woes, no-shows, or gossipy ho’s 😉