Anybody not want a surprise?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do you want a surprise proposal
    Heck yes : (30 votes)
    33 %
    No way : (16 votes)
    18 %
    Maybe a small surprise that I'm kinda In on : (45 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    211 posts
    Helper bee

    @LittleE3:  I don’t think I would want a surprise if we had never discussed marriage, but I already know what my ring will look like (well, for the most part) and that he has it, so the only surprise part of this will be the actual proposal. It doesn’t have to be anything grand, I just don’t want him to be like, “Are you coming straight home after work? I’m gonna propose before we eat our pizza.”

    Post # 5
    Member
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    @Yak:  “Are you coming straight home after work? I’m gonna propose before we eat our pizza.”
    hahahaaha I love this!

    @LittleE3:  I know the day he’ll do it and my ring. I am perfectly happy just being surprised with the way he does it. I don’t mind knowing when 🙂

    Post # 7
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    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @LittleE3:  I really want to be surprised, but my SO can’t keep a secret and he’s already told me how/when it will go down. In his defense, I was with him when he bought the ring. I wanted to be in the loop on that part of the process, but I’d really like to be surprised when he actually proposes. I couldn’t imagine a complete surprise proposal though–the kind that happens without any talk of marriage.

    Post # 9
    Member
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    @LittleE3:  Same 🙂 crazy planner here 🙂 but I love knowing the day. This satisfies my planning needs 😉 and he gets to surprise me with the where and how 

    Post # 10
    Member
    592 posts
    Busy bee

    Eh, yes and no. I don’t NEED a surprise. I’m the type to want to skip and engagement and wedding and just be married. So a big huge surprise proposal, while I’d happily accept, wouldn’t mean quite the same as a small, quiet and intimate expected one to me. 

    But if a man proposed to me and my reaction was pure surprise – as in we had never talked about a future or the deeper commitment beforehand – I’d probably say ‘What? No! We need to talk about this!’ Lol. 

    Post # 11
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    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @LittleE3:  Former waiting bee here. I’m a type A personality so the waiting period really drove me nuts because I didn’t know exactly when he was going to propose. I’m not great with surprises either and I wanted to be in the loop as well. Thankfully the then SO put me out of my misery and told me he was going to propose during our trip to Vegas last year. I knew he wasn’t joking because he had packed the rings. I had an idea what day he was going to propose – which I appreciated since I could make extra effort to look good – but not how he was going to do it. And that suited me just fine.

    Post # 12
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    1009 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    @Yak:  I helped pick out the ring and knew when he had it because he wanted to let me try it on because I was so concerned abotu the way it was going to fit. Low and behold, it DID need to go up a half size…and I didn’t know when he had the ring after that time other than when he asked my dad because he couldn’t keep it a secret. Then it became time to wait to get it. I had a feelign he would be doing it the week he did because he had asked me while he was waiting to get the ring back if I would want it in front of a bunch of family or if I would have wanted it to be just us two….and we were going out of town for a 3 day concert with my parents, sister and dad’s cousins and their spouses. I told him I would prefer it to be us two but that it was up to him. He did it the morning we were leaving 🙂 I wouldnt have asked for it to be any other way 🙂

    Post # 13
    Member
    173 posts
    Blushing bee

    @LittleE3:  I would love a suprise, but my SO is terrible at keeping a secret/is a “ruiner”. The other day he asked me to grab some tupperware out of his work bag and put it in the dishwasher. At the top of the bag was a padded envelope/package that he had brought home from work. I casually asked “what’s in the package” and put it on his desk in his office and he was all “oh, well, I guess you can just have your v-day present now”.

    Seriously! Just tell me it’s a cable for your phone or fancy erasers or a new razor head or something else so terribly boring that it won’t even be exciting to open the envelope.

    Post # 14
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @LittleE3:  ohh god, I want to know SO BAD. I want to know the where and the when. I want to know exactly when it’s coming so I can plan. I want to plan my outfit and my hair and my nails. I want to be as beautiful as I can be when he asks. And I want to FEEL rady. I’m not a massive fan of surprises, and don’t want to feel so surprised I almost miss it, you know? However, I do feel excited that I’m putting all my trust into him for this. He has total control over it, and that’s exciting knowing that he will be putting his all into this….  But given a choice I’d know….

     

    EDT: I’m not even allowed a say on my ring, he’s having it custom made and I won’t have a clue what she looks like until I meet her

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I would want a surprise proposal. I would not care if we were at home or out. I know my boyfriend has the ring. In January, one night after dinner he told me he wanted to get my finger sized. The next day we went to a couple of jewelers and surprisingly, I fit the standard size of all their rings on display. He wanted me to try on a couple of rings (wanted to see my style), and I ended up with a top 2 of the ones I tried. Weeks later, he told me he had purchased my #1 pick! I was so happy. However, I figured that he wasn’t going to propose very soon because I was expected to leave for military deployment. He pretty much brought up the fact that I wouldnt be able to get it cleaned, so I know that a proposal will be planned sometime after September when I return. Plus, I would not want that responsibility of trying to keep the ring safe while I’m away. So it’s not really driving me crazy waiting, because I have to wait anyway. If I was back in the states, it would, lol.

    Post # 15
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    2754 posts
    Sugar bee

    I know he plans on proposing sometime between now & the end of summer but he wants the proposal & ring to be a surprise. I’d rather be a bit more in the loop so I don’t accidentally wreck any of his plans. Like if he’s planning a special romantic dinner & I tell him to go ahead and eat without me because I’m working late. Or I make plans for a weekend he’s secretly already made plans for. It’s pretty much a given that if I get taken by surprise I’ll look like crap- dishevelled by a sudden rainstorm or sweaty from the gym or my nail polish chipped 🙂 lol but I can live with this, it’s inadvertently spoiling his secret plan that worries me.

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