Post # 1
Another thread made me think to myself “I really don’t want to receive cash as a gift from my friends.” I don’t object to a cash gift from extended family members or coworkers, but I feel like when sombody knows you well and gives a cash gift that they didn’t take the time to think about what you would really like. For example, a number of my friends have asked what I would really like from my registry and I’ve told them that I’m really hoping to receive the china on our registry. There are pieces available at price points from $30-$280.
Does anybody else feel this way, or just that they really don’t want to receive cash?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
The first time I got married, yes, because I was younger and needed a lot of those things to start our home and I really do LOVE to take out things that I will have for a very long time, perhaps forever, and to use them and think of the person who get them for me. I especially wanted the fine china, the everyday, and the pots and pans.
This time around, I was happy either way. We wanted some major upgrades in pots and pans and new everyday (ex picked the last stuff, and it wasn’t my favorite, Noritake Colorwave–very heavy), but both of us are just getting into careers, so the money was appreciated and allowed us to enjoy our honeymoon.
Post # 4
The nice thing with cash is the couple can do what they want with it – complete the registry with the completion discount, save for a house, go out to dinner, etc. I really wouldn’t say that the gift giver put less thought into the gift, but rather they wanted you to have EXACTLY what you wanted.
Post # 5
For as much as I would love love love getting a gift like a handmade quilt or some sort of family heirloom (like the handmade hope chest my mom recieved for her first marriage), I know that realistically people tend to give cash gifts these days instead. I have my fingers crossed for something with lots of meaning behind it, but I’m not expecting it.
I almost always give cash/gift cards as a gift when I’m a guest at a wedding unless I’m very close with the couple, with the reasoning being that I want them to have the ability to put the money toward whatever they want. Especially because choosing items off the registry isn’t a fool proof way that they won’t receive duplicates!
Post # 6
We’ve been living together for 4 years our house is set up. I registered for gifts, because I know some people will want to buy a gift, and because people have been asking. But quite honestly we are hoping for cash.
Post # 7
We registered, but I prefered cash gifts. We’d already been living together for a year and have everything we need to get by. Yes, upgraded items and some new stuff would be great, but Im a patient deal hunter and get everything we need for super clearance awesome prices. Anything that people gifted me, it crossed my mind that Icould have stretched that cash so much more if i’d just bought it myself.
With the exception of 2 things that I love, my 13 piece caphalon set, and new place settings… I LOVE those, cause I would have been too frugal to buy myself.
Post # 8
To be honest, I haven’t been able to bring myself to do a registry, simply because my fiance and I have pretty much everything we need until we have kids (and to have people buy us that stuff for a wedding would just be weird). Not to mention we’re both pretty practical, so would have hard time asking for gifts that we didn’t absolutely need (and if we need them that badly, we’ll buy it ourselves). Having said that though, I’d much rather receive heirloom-type gifts like LindsayB said. I’ve got an aunt that quilts for pretty much every major occasion, and my last few birthday/Christmas gifts have been paintings done by my mum and grandmother, or a wooden box made by my dad.
I’ll probably end up getting cash gifts from friends and some of the family, but I’m hoping for things that mean a lot to them, rather than what I tell them to get me 🙂
Post # 9
I really wanted stuff off our registry and we didn’t get very much – I think because we didn’t include registry info in our invites, people either didn’t go on our website or thought we were implying we wanted cash. 🙁
Post # 10
@oracle: Just curious, but when you say that you didn’t receive many gifts, can you estimate how many gifts you got? How many people attended your wedding? I’m wondering because we’re only about a month away and our registry hasnt seen much activity.
Post # 11
Gifts for the shower and cash for the wedding. For our shower I wanted gifts that we could use in our new house and by the time of the wedding I had bought everything we needed for our new home so cash was greatly appreciated and I ended up getting cash from everyone.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@Ms. Kitty: Both times I got married, my registry got the most activity in the 5 or 6 days before the showers and the wedding. People procrastinate.
The first time I got married, when we had a very full registry, we got all the pots and pans, all the towels, all the fine china, a few china serving pieces, all the everyday, all the everyday serving pieces, half the stemware, some decorative pieces (vases, etc.), and some gadgets and odds and ends.
Post # 13
I’m usually on the opposite end – if I know people well, they get cash, if not, they get someting from the registry/a phyisical gift.
Post # 14
We didn’t register and preferred cash, but truly cherish the thoughtful gifts that we did receive. They’re beautiful.
For my shower, I didn’t register and everyone brought a tangible gift. I loved everything and ended up with the most kick-ass cake plate that I never would have bought for myself!