Post # 1
I never waited to get engaged, I thought that maybe we would wait another year before thinking about an engagement. I did a school report on a famous jewelry company and kinda showed my bf the ring I liked. It totally took me by surprise when he proposed to me for our one-year anniversary with the ring I showed him. The only reason a ring came up was bc we were talking about my report.
So I never waited for an engagment ring, it just took me by surprise. Anybody else not have to wait?
Post # 3
Nope, still waiting! Awesome that he was sneeky and even got you the ring you wanted.
Post # 4
i don’t feel like i ever waited. i thought i was ready to get engaged, we talked about it for about 1-2 weeks (logistics, what kind of ring, etc), and realized we were on the same page with most things (which i figured..we had briefly talked about it in the past). then he “surprised” me with a trip to the jewelry store to pick out the exact ring i wanted. he proposed about 3 weeks after that point. i wouldn’t call the wait between picking it out and the proposal a “wait”, because i knew it had been ordered and would take some time to be made.
Post # 5
He was ready long before I was. The original proposal happened almost two years ago. I wasn’t ready to announce it and start planning until the middle of this year. And I didn’t want an engagement ring, so that doesn’t factor into it. We’re engaged. No ring needed.
Post # 6
I didn’t have to wait. And, I don’t really understand the whole “waiting” concept. If you are both ready, it will happen, if not…there’s a lot of conversations that need to take place!
Post # 7
@crayfish: I disagree, finances can cause a waiting period. Doesn’t mean that both parties aren’t on the same page.
Post # 8
@MissSawyer Yes, it was a sweet surprise. I couldnt believe it when he opened the box and I saw that ring.
Post # 9
@MrsSawyer: I just don’t understand the concept of waiting for a ring… At that point, you have discussed and agreed that your lives are going to be spent together and that you are going to get married… Ring or no ring, to me you are engaged from the moment you have made that decision…
DH and I went shopping for a ring together three days after getting engaged, only to announce it to my parents.. I didn’t feel more engaged after the ring than before, I just had a new ring on my hand..
Post # 10
I would say I truly waited 9-10 months. I thought about it before that but was not really ready until the beginning of 2010. To me waiting happens because of situational circumstances or timelines are different between the two individuals. His parents and where we are in life played a large role in when we got engaged.
Post # 11
In one way, I had to wait years. He proposed a couple of weeks before our 8 year anniversary but I was ready to be engaged a couple of years ago. I felt ready to be married after I graduated from undergrad, but he wasn’t ready…. he actually never even wanted to even talk about it and never came out and said he thought we’d be married someday or anything like that. I graduated from undergrad in May 2009 and started law school in August 2009. When he proposed on August 15, 2010 it was a COMPLETE surprise since he was so against even discussing the possibility. I honestly didn’t think he would propose until after I graduate law school in 2012… his main comments when I brought it up (which was very rarely) were “You’re still in school.” & “We’re too young.” So I guess you can say I waited, since I felt ready earlier, but I also wasn’t expecting it for another couple of years so I didn’t wait like I had expected to. lol.
Post # 12
I’m waiting, but I’m waiting for the proposal, not waiting for him to get in sync with the idea of marriage.
Post # 13
@MsMamaBear: I’m inclined to agree.
We’ve tallked extensively about getting married and what we want for the future. So at this point we’re both waiting (yes BOTH, cuz even if its because of finances, or if he’s waiting for the right moment the point is he’s waiting TOO)
So if we’re going by egb: definition technically we’re engaged but waiting for things to be official.
Post # 14
Well, I was ready and thought I was waiting to get engaged. I thought we would wait until a year after we started dating, so I was prepared to at least wait that long. But he proposed at 11 months, which was a year after we met. I was very happily surprised!
Post # 15
I didn’t wait – but I was just happy with how things were and didn’t think about waiting/getting engaged/getting married at all, so I guess that’s a little different. We had a great, committed relationship, a house, a family – I guess at that point in my life (a couple of years ago) I didn’t see any need for us to get married. I guess I figured “at some point” we would get married – but his timeline was faster than my timeline!
Post # 16
i didnt have to wait. earlier in the summer we really started talking about it and looking so i knew it would come eventually. His sister was getting married in August so i thought for sure it would be after that…maybe christmas sometime. I was super surprised when he engaged in July, i got to meet his extended family as teh “fiance” instead of just the girlfriend at the wedding.