Post # 1
So this is slightly tmi…
My FI has the fantasy of having a M-M-F threesome or watching me have sex with another guy. Thankfully he says he wouldn’t be interested in having a F-F-M threesome as that would kill me- he likes the idea of the competing for me with another guy. We have looked up this type of fantasy online- it is termed “hotwife” … and it seems pretty prevalent. I’m just wondering if any of you have tried it, and what you think about it.. or if it sounds like something you would like to try!
Honestly, we did it once before.. and it was fun and dirty and everything… but I got a little freaked out when we left just because I’m usually such a good girl.. I think I’m just looking for reassurance that doing this won’t make me a total slut or bad person or something… :/ haha.
Post # 3
This sort of thing doesn’t fit into my personal expectations or boundries of marriage, but I think your marriage is your business, and you don’t need validation from any other person about what is acceptable between you and your husband.
However, I won’t lie, I am somewhat religious; and if you have religious questions about this I would urge you to consider your hesitation and read up on what your religion or spiritual opinion is on this type of practice.
(btw, this is in the ‘ring’ forum)
Post # 4
Personally I would not be comfortable in that situation. I would not be turned on by having my man compete with another guy nor having my FI watch me have sex with someone else. Same goes for F-F-M, I would not be comfortable with having to “compete” for a man that is already mine.
However, if you’re comfortable with it, then there is nothing wrong with it. You and your husband set your boundries and do what you enjoy, don’t worry what you think other people will think of you. I assume you don’t talk about this in person, so the likelyhood of people finding out is slim. Who cares if people think you’re a slut or a bad girl, there will ALWAYS be someone who thinks that. I mean, I know people think I am a slut/bad girl for living with my FI, but it’s my relationship, not their’s so I don’t care what they think. 🙂
Post # 5
@thundersvine: I hate the term slut. So let me make this clear: You are not a slut. Please don’t be ashamed or think you’re a bad person.
For me, personally, I would be interested in this. Either m-m-f or m-f-f. FI, though? Not so much. 🙂
Did you enjoy it? This is a pretty common fantasy, like you said, and if you and your SO enjoyed it and everything was consenual between all parties involved, then I think what you did is perfectly fine.
Post # 6
There was a thread several months ago where a Bee had a M-M-F threesome and detailed her experience: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/ladies-who-have-had-threesomestips-first-one-this-weekend
Post # 7
If youre both ok with that then why not? I fantasize about that but its just a fantasy cuz DH won’t have it. Also, he’d like to see me get it on with another girl but that’s his fantasy and not gonna happen anytime soon haha. More power to u!
Post # 8
I’d actually love to try that but FI says only F-F-M is allowed, which is OK too for me, but I’ve done that already and wanna try something new!!!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be comfortable with M-M-F. Much more comfortable with the idea of F-F-M.
Post # 10
@thundersvine: Oh it’s always been my fantasy! If you ever get around to doing it, would you let me PM you for details?
Post # 11
My FI loves the idea of the “hotwife fantasy”. We’ve talked about it a lot but still not sure if I wanna go through with it. I’m a good girl 😉 lol
Post # 12
My fiance hates the idea which is awesome because it’s not for me either.
I would like to say that anything as long as you both enjoy it, there is nothing at all wrong with it. NOTHING. So enjoy yourself!!
Post # 14
@Aquababes: second this! lol 🙂
Post # 15
oooh I would love to try it but FI is not for it. Either m-m-f or f-f-m. I DEFINITELY do NOT think you are a slut…it’syour own personal business with you and your husband. Go enjoy it girl!