Anyone been through this at work?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

soontobemrsm11:  Ew, sorry you’re going through this. Feeling like the odd-ball sucks! Kind of going through the same thing where I work. When I was hired almost 2 years ago there was different staff here. Since some of those girls left my boss replaced them with people that are related to her (and the ones that were already here are also related to her by marriage) so it’s just me and the girl that sits to the left of me that aren’t “in the family”. And there’s only 6 of us so it’s kinda awkward! My boss is the manager. Her sister is in billing. Her sister in law is the billing manager, the girl to my right is her daughter in law–see what I’m sayin!? There are times me and the girl on my left feel SO OUTCAST it’s not even funny. Luckily me and her are chummy so I have her to talk to but yeah, still meh. 

I hope you find some way to relate to at least one person you work with. Nothing worse than dreading having to show up to work everyday! ((Hugs!))

Post # 3
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

soontobemrsm11:  Some people just don’t like other people for no reason.  Maybe you replaced someone they really liked (or really hated) so they associate you with that old employee.  Or maybe you got the job over someone else they wanted to get the job.  My only advice is to try not to take it personally and continue looking for opportunities in other departments or with other companies.

Honestly, I don’t comment on a person’s haircut/color change even when I work with them regularly.  I just don’t care about things like that.

Post # 5
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

soontobemrsm11:  oh man that does kinda suck :/

nothing more awkward than feeling out of place at work. Honestly, I have no idea why they seem to be more interested in the other 2 new coworkers and not you. Possibly, the other girls have found something to bond over with them already and you haven’t yet been given the chance.

The best way to suck up to coworkers is food…

we ALWAYS love new coworkers that bring food haha. A box of donuts goes a long way in the morning :p i know you shouldn’t have to suck up to them, but hey it couldn’t hurt, right?

Post # 6
1450 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I just started a new job and work nights as a vet tech. Since I only see people on shift change I try to be nice and friendly but no one will ever really know me well since I work alone most of the time. So I’ve decided to start bringing doughnuts once or twice a month. I’d rather be known as the doughnut girl than the ghost who doesn’t exist! Lol

Post # 7
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

soontobemrsm11:  The PP that suggesting being in something sweet for everyone is on the right track. That’ll get you in everyone’s good books straight away. 

The other thing I would suggest is picking the friendliest person there and work on making better friends with them. Ask them if they would like to get lunch one day or something. Once you make a good impression with one person then they’ll spread the word. 

Post # 8
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

soontobemrsm11:  I’ve been there. Being outside your co-workers’ exclusive “club” sucks, and you really can’t force them to accept you/like you unfortunately. What you can do as you like the company you are working for is to work really hard, show your bosses that you are a top performer, and then lateral into another position that opens up at your company. A couple of things though – is your boss(es) part of that “club?” If so, make sure that your stellar performance gets documented somewhere – you really don’t want politics to hinder your development and opportunities within this company. It would be even better if you had a coach outside your department (maybe HR) to monitor your performance/development. We had this kind of rating system in Big 4 accounting as it was SO political. A girl who started after me who I TRAINED got promoted before me. Don’t let that happen to you! 

Keep your eyes open, and pretty soon, you’ll be looking back at this with relief.

Post # 10
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

soontobemrsm11:  Gah I totally am in this situation too.

There are about 20 of us in the office.  I sit at the front desk with another girl (who was here well before me).  I talk to EVERYONE all the time just because of where I’m physically located but the office is very divided.

Half of the office is older and they all have kids.

The other half is younger and likes to go out together after work, get together on weekends, run 5ks/marathons, etc.

I prefer to keep my work and personal life separate, so I don’t spend time outside of work with people I work with, but it’s frustrating that they obviously think I’m not worth talking to AT work much because of that.

When I got engaged, I only told one person.  It got out when the director of our office noticed my ring and announced it in a staff meeting, but it was a bit awkward lol.

Oh well, I just treat it like “this is work I’m here to work” and try not to let it bother me.

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