(Closed) Anyone besides us having him change to YOUR last name?

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We’re each keeping our names, but that is so cool!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Good for you guys! As of right now, we’re both keeping our last names, but we’re considering changing our last names to a new last name that is a combination of both of our last names. (The combo we made up is so cute and we love it!) At the very least, our kids will have that combo last name, we just haven’t decided if we’ll change our names as well. I love it when people buck tradition and go with what works for them!

(Also, my FI’s last name is horrid.)

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My FH offered to (esp. if I didn’t have any male cousins to “carry on” my name), but I decided to change mine. Then our initials will go together! : )

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think it’s a very cute story and I’m glad he gets a new one he likes more out of the deal! We didn’t do that, my maiden name was a mouthful (and sort of atrocious, but that’s just my opinion).

Post # 7
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Newbee

Saw this searching the boards to see if anyone else was doing this too!

 

I am a waiting bee, but my SO and I have spoken logistics before. We were driving to San Diego one day and he said out of blue, “I have been thinking a lot about it, and when we get married, I want to take your family’s name.” Needless to say, I was elated. I love my name and my dad has my sister and I and I didn’t want to lose my last name. My SO has a very poor relationship with his father. His dad has been incredibly abusive since he was a young young child, and although my SO is nearly 25, his dad still tries to control everything and nothing my SO does is good enough for him. His dad does not keep in touch with any of his siblings, and my SO is not sure what happened as whatever it was happened when he was quite young, but they won’t speak to his dad any longer. 

 

Basically there is not connection to his family name, and my family has really taken him in and has a strong sense of family loyalty and tradition that we both wish to carry on with our family, so we are going to take my name instead! 

 

Long winded story for a short answer, lol, sorry! 😛

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I can’t wait to get rid of my last name! *spits* Nothing good is attached to it, and everything good and wonderful (great FMIL/FFIL etc) is attached with his! 🙂

I LOVE your story. I think it’s fantastic that he is getting to change his name; it’s like an upgrade 😀

Post # 9
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Worker bee

It’s uncommon here in the US but that’s actually the norm for many asian families, esp. the Vietnamese.  Both parents keep original names – kids take the dad’s last name.

 

But good for you guys for doing what you want.  You’re the ones living with the decision, not the rest of America.  🙂

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