Post # 1
Just because it is so common to hear about bad relationships with FMIL/MIL, I feel quite blessed to be good friends with mine. I don’t have a bad relationship with my mother, we still talk on the phone a lot but FMIL lives in the same city as we do so I see her more often than my own mom.
Anyone else closer with a FMIL/MIL?
Post # 3
Actually, I kind of am! My mom lives in the same city as me, and I love her dearly, but my Future mama (who lives over 300 miles away) and I are a bit closer. (By closer I mean by internet and phone contact!) She’s the cool mom. The one who always has cash if you need it, the one you can always talk to about embarassing or private stuff, you know, “that” kind of mom. My real mom is much more strict, level-headed, and decliplined. There’s many things I can’t talk to her about. Either way, I love them both dearly and equally!
Post # 4
Nope. You are blessed! My FMIL is nice but we are just so different that it’s hard to carry a conversation with her sometimes. We just think so differently, if not the opposite lol But at least she’s pleasant for the most part! 🙂
Post # 5
I’m very close to my MIL but I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that my mom passed away 6 years ago-long before I met my husband and his family. I think if my mom were still alive, I’d still be close to my MIL but not as close.
As it is, my MIL and I have a great relationship. And out of her two daughters-in-law, I think I’m the favorite 🙂
Post # 6
we’re closer geographically… lol. but i am insanely close with my mom, so this scenerio would be impossible. i do have an awesome relationship with my fmil though!
Post # 7
I am really close with my FMIL. Her and I go shopping together and sometimes I just go over to the IL’s house just to hang and chat with you. She is a fabulous woman and I love to spend time with her. I am soooo blessed.
Post # 8
I’m pretty close to my mom (and alike, it’s hard for us to live in the same house!), but I do LOVE my FMIL. She really is great, and raised a pretty wonderful son all on her own! Unfortunately, I don’t get to see her very often, because she lives in TN, while we live in IL, and the rest of our family lives in OH. Also, my FH is really not into family like I am, so he doesn’t hang “like” to hang out with family as much as I do.
Post # 9
I loooove my FMIL, and although I am somewhat close to my mother she’s not very maternal. My FMIL is quite the opposite and has been very excited about talking wedding shop the whole time. Despite the fact that this is her 3rd (of 3) child to be married.
Just be glad you got a good FMIL 🙂 I too have heard the horrible stories, but it’s true you don’t just marry the man you marry the family.
Post # 10
My mother and I dont speak as she was highly abusive, So you could say i dont have a mom.
When I flew to Japan by myself this past September to meet my in laws for the first time I just immediately clicked with my MIL.
She just was so loving and attentive and our personalities are VERY similiar. sometimes when my FI gets frusturated with me he says “OMG YOU ACT JUST LIKE MY MOM” HAHAHA. I could totally see it. I really love her to death. When I was saying goodbye to her to come back to America I started crying! haha
MissLadybug- I SO AGREE! I hear all these horror stories and I think…Im sorry if I couldnt get a long with the in laws, I wouldnt get married to the guy. You cant expect him to give up his family for you…thats just plain selfish.
Post # 11
I am superclose with my mom, but would love to be close to FMIL as well. I think all of you who have a great relationship with FMILs are really lucky. Perhaps I’ll join your ranks in a few more years.
Post # 12
I am quite close to my FMIL! She and I have a lot more in common than my own mother and I do. My mom is very jealous of this though, which is really unfortunate she just can’t be happy that at least I am getting along with my FMIL. As a matter of fact, we had to keep a visit from FMIL a secret from my mother becuase she would have been jealous that FI paid for his mom to come for an extra visit than my parents got that year (we live across the country from our parents). FI is very close with his mom.
Post # 13
I am closer to my MIL than with my own mother. I feel similiar to Osakagrl.It’s not so bad that I would say that I don’t have a mom….but we have a lot of issues and she isn’t the type of mom that is really motherly. She just has a lot of issues. My MIL is exactly like I wish my mom would be. She is the type of mom I always wanted in my life and I feel so blessed to have her as my MIL. It’s nice to know that I am not the only one who feels like this.
Family time with my inlaws is SO much more relaxed, happy, and fun than time I spend with my family. It is nice to be a part of a functional family 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I have an amazing FMIL. We don’t talk all the time or anything, but she is SO kind to me and FI and she has been incredibly supportive and excited about everything – much more so than my mom!
Post # 15
I’m pretty close to my mom and my FMIL lives like 5 states away so I don’t see this happening. I’ve only actually met her once… but she seemed super nice. I also talked to her on the phone when we got engaged and she was REALLY excited and encouraging about it (more so than my own parents) so that was nice. I hope that I’ll get closer to my FMIL but I feel pretty lucky that on the rare occasions I encounter her, we get along.
Post # 16
I am closer to my FMIL. My mom and I had some, er, issues when I was growing up, and the ILs really stepped in and helped me out. I’m closer to both my ILs than I am to my parents, although I am still on okay terms with my parents. I feel so lucky to have wonderful ILs and it makes me sad to read about people who have terrible relationships with theirs.