Post # 1
I feel like there are a lot of Bees waiting and know it’s coming because of talking to their SO’s, which is great! But….how many had NO idea the proposal was coming?
We had talked about marriage, and agreed that was our direction. Then he got orders to move to TX from VA and asked me to come with him (no promise of engagement). We had been together about a year at this point, so I agreed, and totally thought he would not propose til AFTER we’d moved and been settled and “tested the waters” so to speak. I moved in with him in December and we were moving in May. Again, no specific talk of engagement – just knowing that this was serious and eventually we’d like to get married.
He popped the question without any hints while we were hiking/camping with 5 of his coworkers on kind of a “farewell” backpacking trip. After hiking 6 miles into the mountains, he took me to a beautiful overlook area. (BTW….I was a gross sweaty mess after my very first excursion on the Appalachian Trail). Least expected time/location/setting! Somehow the man that could never keep secrets or surprise gifts managed to catch me completely off guard!!!
We had discussed my cousin’s engagement ring, but never even talked about what I’d want, or anything of the sort….I want to hear from Bees that were caught off guard like I was!
Post # 2
I was! Like you, we’d spoken about marriage but I wasn’t really expecting anything for at least another year (we’ve been together three years).
It just happened on a weekday afternoon – he’d invited my parents over for dinner (which isn’t unusual as he loves to cook) and was really nervous about something. He said he had something to give me and I was all “yeah whatever”, and kept cleaning the house. When we’d finally finished cleaning, and about ten minutes before my parents arrived, he told me to shut my eyes (still had no idea) .. when I opened them he was on one knee with my beauiful ring!
I was beyond shocked .. literally speechless, then I started crying. I kind of left him hanging a bit because I forgot to answer straight away, but of course I said yes. He had been over to see my parents earlier that afternoon to get their blessing so they arrived with champagne.
It was perfect!
Post # 3
janereaction: Wow! Asked their blessing and proposed the same day! Apparently mine waited almost a month between! Lucky girl, Congrats! I’m so glad I didn’t have time to stress over it!
Post # 4
AprilinTX: Lovely story! I was completely caught by surprise too. My partner and I had been together for three years and had very casually talked about marriage a couple of times and I had suspected he may propose later in the year on a trip to Europe, but had really only thought about it briefly in passing.
He took me out to our favourite beach and, admittedly, I was so clueless that on the way there I made him detour and take me to the mall to buy a new ironing board (which I was just insistent I had to have that day, hehe!). I couldn’t work out why on earth he was carrying a man-bag with him everywhere, although now I realise it was because he had his life savings stored in it!
He gave me a beautiful photo album with pictures from our last trip together and cute quotes about love, and then on the last page in french he’d written the proposal. He asked me what I thought it said and I made some completely inappropriate smartass response like ‘where are the toilets?’ before I realised what was actually happening and then boom, there was the ring in his hand. I was so shocked, I didn’t even think it was real at first. I also thought he was exceptionally brave to pick a ring by himself, which is probably one of the other reasons it was so unexpected.
I loooooved that he truly gave me a surprise proposal – it felt so special. It’s not that it wouldn’t have been if it had happened another way, but it’s just a nice memory that I’ll never forget. Didn’t our gentlemen do well?
Post # 5
Yes. FI told me for months, “next year maybe”, ” I just can’t afford a ring”, “maybe Christmas”. And boom! We’re on a day trip and he hits me with an unbelievable ring and a beautiful thought out proposal.
I literally had no idea 🙂
Post # 6
100% totally and genuinely surprised. 6and half years together and he still completely blindsided me!
Wasn’t waiting, wasn’t hoping, wasn’t even thinking about it in the slightest. It was a perfect day!
Post # 7
I was not surprised when my husband proposed to me.
We are renewing our vows next year and he is adamant that he wants to propose again.
He wants this one to be a complete surprise. I don’t think another proposal makes sense but my husband thinks differently.
Post # 8
AprilinTX: DH and I had discussed marriage in an abstract sense, and he told me his timeline early in the relationship (spontaneously, little unusual for it to go that way or so I hear). But he kept the secret well and I had no idea that a proposal was coming. He bought me a decoy Christmas present so I wouldn’t suspect – a coffee maker, that he wrapped and put under the tree over a week before Christmas. Not going to lie, when I saw the big box I thought “darn, guess no Christmas proposal then, oh well! Maybe Valentine’s Day.” So when he proposed Christmas Eve I was stunned, happily so. I assumed the big box was an empty fake but it’s a pretty nice coffee maker actually.
Post # 9
I was absolutely surprised! We’d talked marriage etc and both knew that’s where it was going etc, but at xmas a friend asked if I thought I’d marry him and when he might ask… I predicted at least over 18 months away… less than 2 months after that conversation he took me for a walk in the park near my parents (we go all the time so I didn’t think anything of it) and asked! It took me a while to believe he wasn’t joking even though he had the ring and everything!
Post # 10
I was totally surpsrised. We’d been together for 11 years, and living together for 8….even with that I was surprised. DH popped the question at our house while I was getting ready for a Christmas party.
Post # 11
Miss_Mae: Very sweet story. Hahahaha! The ironing board! And “Where are the toilets?”! Hahaha, so great, sounds like us. We had hiked 6 miles and my FI asked me to backtrack another 1/2 mile back to that stupid overlook to get better pictures after FINALLY getting our camp set up…I wanted to just sit and nurse my sunburn but he was so excited about the whole trip I didn’t want to disappoint him! (Glad I didn’t whine too much!)
MrsBagel: jesssr: starfish0116: cpick: I love all these spontaneous surprises! I was beginning to think we were old-fashioned and weird as a couple because I didn’t choose the ring!
jennmariee: Coffee maker AND a ring?! You got yourself a winner! 😉 That is so cute that he went so far as to fake you out!
PositiveThinking: I see where you’re coming from but that is such a nice sentiment that he wants to do it again! I hope it is a super romantic experience!
Post # 12
I was Surprised too! FI took me to the beach at sunset before a romantic dinner date on vacation this summer and “will you marry me?” Was written in the sand! I literally had no idea it was coming, we both just like sunset walks on the beach! I hate surprises usually, but a proposal (at least in my opinion) should be one of those great surprises in life! 🙂
Post # 13
AprilinTX: My DH and I had vaguely discussed marriage from the beginning (we were friends for 10 years being getting together so we knew it was serious from the start) but that was all.
He took me on a weekend away for my birthday and I was all enthusiastic and excited. On the way, he told me “Yeah, I took my ex on a really nice weekend once and at the end when I asked if she had enjoyed herself, she replied that she was disappointed because she thought he was going to propose” I know his ex and thought this was pretty funny.
At the end of the second day, we were sitting in the restaurant of the hotel looking out of the window at the beautiful sea view and he asked if I had had a good birthday. To wind him up, I replied, “well, I did think you were going to propose so I’m a bit disappointed!” Little did I know that he had the ring in his pocket and was planning to take me down on the beach at sunset to propose!! He had brought up the ex girlfriend thing on prupose to throw me off.
Post # 14
It certainly is a nice gesture even if it is completely unnecessary. My husband says “If we can renew our vows with all the wedding elements, I don’t see why I cannot ask you to be my wife for many more years. I did so many mean things to you when we were planning our wedding and I have so much guilt and regret. You deserve better and this is why I’m proposing again.”
Post # 15
AprilinTX: No way! I also didn’t choose my ring. I just can’t imagine knowing ahead of time! All the stories you see where bee’s know when they have the ring, or know when the proposal is going to happen….that just seems to take all the fun out of it!